Ask yourself now if you are this victim of suffering. Try to imagine what you had in the past and what you are until this time. There is so much to investigate about the matter that almost crucifies your entire life, hard to escape from the dungeon of reality; you are there carrying the burden, yet you cannot escape being a martyr because of love, despite no happiness at all. In case you are this not anymore happy because love is the cage that binds your feet and the conscience might be the source of guilt should you ignore and set yourself free. Why is this love so powerful that you are willing to sacrifice just to let your family happy if you still have a family? What about to a husband or wife, despite having a nagger wife or having a drunkard husband, still you are there sacrificing affecting all your physical properties, LOL. Yes, the heart for me is unfair for allowing such dominion despite knowledge and how those you mean happiness displayed vertically and horizontally in your mortal existence. Would you allow yourself until you die suffer that way carrying the burden not yours to carry? Whence shall be the time your heart is strong enough to realize you have your personal needs and health to take good care too. A life with too much stress would lead to illness.
What if a family member marries and won’t leave your home? You may surely dive to loneliness and upsetting days under the sun. The sun would surely illuminate weary rays and bloody linings to sympathize your burden. But look! This is not your obligation to feed them and supply them with their own needs. What can you say? Are you happy if this happens to you? No, you won’t. You will surely cry secretly alone in your dark and lonely room. That is how you feel and see your ambiance if tolerate yourself this crazy thing called sacrificial love despite you are not anymore happy. There are people who always claim about the kind of life they have, yet they cannot resolve for once utter hurting and insulting words they cannot anymore be retrieved and may all be throughout life the source of unhappiness. I agree that one can live even without happiness. You live and somehow in your life you refuse to see the world with a happy look for what’s in your mind is work, work, work until one day you feel you are old and cannot anymore achieve your dreams to have a happy life .You will never be happy with a kind of happiness that is felt, for what subsides in yourself some devastations of your existence There are really family members that need your financial support and all other support as human being.
My friend also a teacher became old maid and has lost her happiness for a marriage that she longs for. Her mother is sickly and wants her 24/7 attendance, tsk, tsk, tsk, what a kind of life is it? I asked her if she has other sister or brother, yes there is, but all married and work as nurses in United States. Money is sent to them, plus retirement of her mom, but she told me, she is not anymore happy in her life. She said she might die single and alone for when her mother dies; she cannot adjust back her age to 20’s or 30’, so there will be someone to love and beloved. It sounds unfair for her mom does not like to hire personal nurse or caregiver so she can go back to her teaching. Her mom strongly refused. She cannot leave home and mom for her mom may surely die instantly and all the blames will be on her, so unfair. Her mom does not want her to have a bf in the past and marry, so sickening.
With love one can live even without happiness, and the fault falls on you. You are there climbing the narrow roads and crossing the bridge with troubled waters for you are afraid to release yourself from that cage only you have the ability to smash it and let everything soars to sky to finally set yourself free. Why not try another avenue to be free, without having yourself stay with those lazy people, that rely on you despite they are strong and having the ability and capacity to get a job? Just for once and for all show them you are not a robot, but human that feels pain and dislikeness of their attitude to be always dependent on you. Hey! Wake up my friend, you are entitled to happiness. Leave them alone to give the chance to see a curse of action that leads them to survival. You may send some help sometimes, not all the time. Give them a chance too to stand by their own feet. It is not easy to leave them, right? If it is hard for you to decide, talk to them and urge them to find a job or find something where they can earn to help you. Life is hard this time and money is hard to find.
If you are married and you cannot anymore extend your patience and stay with your nagger wife, talk to her to find out if there is a way she could minimize her illogical nag, if , not split the tie with an explosive resolution that you want peace not a nagger wife. Try to observe her reaction, that nagger wife never stops for once a nagger remains a nagger, LOL. She will become defensive and repulsive instead for an oath not to nag again, so go where you feel you fit for a new life.LOL. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is a possessive or jealous type, well, you already know what to do know, set each other her free. That is the best thing to do. At first, it will be painful, but the more pain you would endure should you be together for some months or years. This time, seldom you find martyrs because of love .Why? Why suffer when there is a way to happiness and peaceful life. What can you add on this quote, agree or disagree?
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