Sometimes silence is the same precious as gold

The silence in the interpersonal relationships can have very different meaning. So, it is fair to say that silence is ambiguous – it can express a variety of different emotions and moods, from happiness, joy, to grief and anger, denial and fear, retreat or reception, even love. Therefore, what means the silence usually depends on the context of the situation.

Silence is a very powerful weapon, which in some cases can help us and strengthen relationship with another person, to give him the necessary support and assistance, while in other situations silence can lead to an unpleasant consequences and harm our relationship with other person. Therefore, the silence we need to use responsibly and appropriately the same as the other communication skills. So, let’s talk about when the silence can help us, and when we should refuse it.

And when the silence we should value more than we value the gold? Silence is one of the most powerful and the greatest impact having on relations communication ways, particularly in cases where the other person is experiencing problems and troubles. In this case, a silent presence near can express our acceptance and understanding, which is very important, especially in cases when a person is experiencing very strong feelings, such as anger or sorrow, grief. In such cases, our silence and silent presence next to someone shows that we want and we are ready to give your full attention for the other person, listen to him and allow him to discuss his problems without any pressure, evaluation, judgmental or giving advices. Silence must be accompanied by appropriate eye contact, gestures such as a nod of our head are telling to another person about our feelings, encouraging smile, and so on. All this allows the other person to see and feel that we are listening to him.

If we are able to sit quietly, without telling anything not commenting, but simply listening to the other person, it gives a person time and space to confide, to express everything what lies on the heart. In cases where a person needs to make a decision, to express and to clarify his needs, solve the problem, the silence can provide extremely significant and important opportunity to discuss own problems, to confide, to reflect thoughts and feelings and make decisions without any external pressure.

However, it must be said, that there are such cases when a silence is not completely silence, we just bite our tongue and do not want to say what we think, or are afraid to offend the other person and so on. Even if we do not say what we really feel, it feels that our silence is full of condemnation, rejection and shows to the other person that we are not prepared to listen and accept him, that we are more concerned with what we ourselves feel and how we react to it, but not how this person feels and through what he is going. Even if we keep silent, but other person very well feels our, and feeling our negative reaction he will be less inclined to tell us about his feelings and problems now and in the future. So, if you want to listen to the other person, help him, you have to be open to him, to be sincere and not judge him, to refuse any advance evaluations.

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