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Finally, there is a common complaint by those trying to reform themselves that others are not responding positively as expected. True, others are not supposed to know that you have begun a changing process. Their behaviour continues to be primed through past experiences. They need to be given some time to see the changes that you have brought in your behaviour. The more positive changes in your behaviour, the faster positive changes you would get from others. Though there would always be a time lag. Positive change within oneself does not bring immediate changes in others. There is a lag as others need time to assess and accordingly realign their responses to the changed behavior. During this short period of transition, one has to be patient and hold on to the changed behavior on the face of adversities. Very soon change sets in and the behavior of others, improve.
Before ending, the entire series may be summarized with one good adage – There may be very rare situations when you need to SHOW ANGER, even then there is no place to ACT ON ANGER. It is not a contradiction. Yes, an individual minus a hundred percent anger would make him taken for granted at some rare occasions. There could be select rare occasions when there is a need to SHOW anger. However, it needs to be clearly understood that it pertains to show of anger and not being angry. This difference may not appear immediately to a non-thinking person. Yet it is this difference which finally decides whether you use anger or anger uses you. The key lies in preventing the eruption of anger within oneself even when you pretend anger outside. This is important. Remember when you show anger but not actually be angry, the response is different and effective. On the contrary, when you are angry and act it out, the results would indeed be much worse as it will fuel reaction on the other person and damage your own health and well-being personally. So if you think that anger has been beneficial till now, it is time to recheck your thoughts, beliefs and considerations. A wise man once said that anyone can be angry, that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, for the right reason, for the right time, to the right extent, for the right purpose is not easy.
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