When sex becomes a task for married women

To all beautiful mothers out there who have lost the wow factor in their marriages. I speak from my own experience. I was never the promiscuous type, but I sure did like to be around my boyfriend and have it all done. Sex was never like a task to me, it just came naturally. Fast forward to my years of being a mother, it all changed. It didn’t change drastically, but  it became worse over the years. I married at the age of 28, presently I am 41 with two kids, but I tell you sex is more like a task to me.

I have searched for ways to improve my sex life, but all to no avail. I have tried sex enhancers like libido max, our traditional Kayan Mata mostly used by northern women, maca etc, but all have failed me. I am not ashamed to talk to people about it, not even my male pharmacist. I have spoken to friends who feel the same way, while for some its the opposite. They constantly crave for it, for them it’s even better after age 40. I’m stunned for words, because I’m completely dead.

My husband is whom I pity the most, because he is the most active man I have come across, but I’m happy he still got my back. He does not have prying eyes, so I’m safe. I understand the effects of good sex in a marriage and I feel so alive when I get it. I try so hard to satisfy my husband, but its not working as I want it to.

I need help and solutions to restore my sex life back. If there’s anyone out there with useful information, please holla me, I’m all ears. I have heard people say am stressed, they may be right, cause I have no help, but women with loads of stress still take time out to initiate and have good sex.  I know I ‘m the one with the problem, because I heard the story of a woman complaining to her pastor about her husband’s constant demand for sex, she said her husband must be possessed. The pastor turned back to her and said, even he the pastor is possessed, because a man needs sex all the time.

Thanks for listening.