Imagine that we close eyes and find ourselves after ten years. Where you are? Who is with you? What do you do? Do you work? How much you earn? Who is waiting for the evening? What the man you became? We live in a world where every day we choose something, and we are very responsible for what we choose and what will happen after that, and even more specifically, what is happening because of our choices.
Nevertheless, it is adults often gives weight to graduation exams and studies at a higher school, often I hear that if young man will not choose studies he will damage his life. Like there is no any other choice and will exists critical life’s period when you can choose a path.
Sooner or later, many are risking their daily routine to describe briefly, such as life goes quietly, and it is a signal that something needs to change. The more choices we have, the more anxiety arises and the harder it is to choose. It seems that in adults world on a daily basis we have so many options to choose that like paralyzed we choose no longer see any of them.
Then it is convenient to say that we swim in a boat of career, family, or just a life’s boat, which boarded a long time ago, and there is no question, if I could leave it. There is even no question, if I could at least for a short stop in any port and repaint faded ship’s sides. But we could.
If you already now want to change your future, you have to realize that the man who will wake up somewhere after ten years, will be you. Greek philosopher Plutarch even in the first century considered whether with the changes in the body, when dead cells are replaced by new, is changing man’s spirit also. Can it be that one morning you wake up a different person? Most people believe that no, and sign on pension contracts, insure property and having preventive examinations of health. We do things that are not important, and sometimes hinder, but may be necessary in the future. Who are you in the future? For most people, easier to imagine yourself in five than forty years. The easier to imagine, the easier it is to empathize and identify. The farther you look to the future, the more you tend less take care of yourself in this distant future as if it were another person. People differently strongly experience their identity’s continuity. Better decisions about their future take on precisely those who strongly identify with themselves in the future.
Usually most strive for what is important today, affairs of tomorrow postponing precisely for tomorrow. The future often overtakes us suddenly. On the other hand, many people have pretty clear plans for one year ahead. When preparing such plans, the main sober look at what you have now, and what you want to achieve in the future. Then can follow the placement of the steps required to achieve your objectives, foreseeing what will helps and what will be difficult. However, it may be that one day you will realize how many years have passed floating in everyday life: working meaningless work, watching TV, managing home chores or dealing with boring people.
The big things are giving meaning to life, such as parenting or great mastery of your knowledge and skills. These are the things to reach which are not enough a day or week. To implement the great dreams, we must consistently strive to and refuse many things. But in order to refuse pleasant things today, we have to know clear how it will be important tomorrow, in a year or a decade.
It is important to assess your situation to find where to move and what expectations can raise for the future. At this stage, it is important to honestly identify not only strengths but also weaknesses and desires.
One of the most common self-assessment challenges – human tendency to overestimate yourself. Most believe that their intellectual abilities, character traits, health status, even driving skills are better than the average citizen. This is one of the illusions of thinking. The worse you are doing something, the more difficult it is to notice and an adequate assess yourself. Thus, it makes sense to invite for a help reliable person with whom you can talk openly about both your current situation and about the plans.
Such self-evaluation can be an opportunity to weigh how many dreams and wishes really is yours, and how much are imposed on others: parents, friends and loved ones. The life and work, children, marriage, even diet or appearance – areas where relatives do not avoid to give advices on how would be better for you. However, the most satisfied with life are those who are placing their picture of life led by internal incentives, rather than imposed by environmental preferences.
It is hardly happiness if marriage, children, a prestigious job, or other so-called good life attributes are more environmental expectations of you than your real dream. Namely internal, rather than others imposed motives the strongest lead toward the goal. People who are burning inside by desire to achieve their target, tend to seek more coherent and stronger, they are easier to sacrifice present pleasures for the final result.
No matter how much you contemplate about the future, thoughts often remain only thoughts, and when you start to act, it fails not one plan which looked so great. Optimism is great. Optimists more exercise, eat healthier, easier to endure stressful situations. However, exaggerated optimism is not always in line with the attempts to define realistic plans for the future.
Fantasy draw images that when will come the right moment in the future, you will be quite different: better than you are now, you will be more accompanied by success. However, when this time comes, you are still the same: often lazy, delaying, and fallible and thus fear to go wrong.
You are not only tending to overestimate your capacity for success, but also tend to underestimate the success price. To avoid such traps of overestimation of your powers and price’s devaluation of dreams come true can help a real experience with people who have already achieved what you would like. People successfully achieved their goals, can share not only a great happiness, but also to tell about the difficulties, the challenges ahead of your dreams.
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