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How Are You: Is that a formality?

When we meet our friends and relatives we ask a simple question about well-being of each other. I guess most of you will agree with me that this question is nothing but a formality and no one is asks that expecting to listen that the person is not well. I am very much sure if one answered that he was not well that will send you in a sorry state of mind. In fact, one doesn’t expect any such answer in reply to his formal question.

Probably I am facing too many minor problems these days that’s why not able to think in a right way. I am not saying that I am having any serious problem from my friends, relatives or any serious financial problem bothering me which is the reason of my disturbed state of mind but the reason of my problem is perhaps the little one in Sydney. He sends me off balance to the point that I wish I could go there and meet him immediately.

But would you believe what I said in answer to a simple question asked by a friend this morning? That’s right it happened today when I was on my normal morning walk when a close friend stopped me and ask. I said whether he wanted to hear the truth or a formal ‘I am fine, thank you’. He gave me a strange glare at first and then asked the reason of such an answer.

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I said, if I said all was fine that would not be whole truth and if I tell you the whole story you probably have no time to listen to what I was facing at that very moment. He knew what I meant so gave me a smile of understanding my point and left.

That’s how I feel, most of us make formal statement when we respond to such questions but the reason is simple, either we do not want to share our problems or we do not want to spread negative energy.

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  • suny

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    • I don't. When I ask that, it is to know if the person is really in good state or not. If not, I will be listening to whatever she would share about it.

      I can empathize with people. I can also give advise should they want it.

      I don't actually say "how are you" to any person or friend. I choose to give them to people I truly know. With other people , I would just say a simple HI and smile.

    • If somebody who asks that question is not a close friend or relative, I will just answer, "I'm fine!" because I do not want to elaborate even if I am not fine. I should not tell them how I was doing because it is not proper to do so. But to ask such question is just alright.

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