Are you pregnant or are you planning to be soon, but do you have a number of fears? Whether you are or is a matter of time, fears are the most normal things that can happen to you. It is important to understand that this does not make you weak and unable to be good parents and to do well, both with pregnancy and with birth. And with that you raise up a wonderful child.
It is true that every new and unknown thing is frightening for most people, especially when we have partial information from people who have decorated it in unpleasant shades. Everyone has their fears, whether rational or irrational. But all future or current mothers have gone through these worries and concerns. Here is a short list of the most common fears in pregnancy: Will I manage to be a good mother?
This is perhaps the first and main thought that goes through the head of every pregnant woman, as well as those who are considering having a child. The truth is that one always does. The problem is he does not believe enough until he looks back and does not realize how well he actually did. That is why, even if not so pleasant periods of our life, they look kind, nice and idyllic compared to the present – simply because we look back at the difficulties we have already done, the way is already gone and is familiar, It is not scary, as it was before us.Think about it, someday all of this will be in the past, and you will almost certainly dream of returning this time, experiencing these emotions … Try to look at this point from another perspective.
Besides, what does it mean to do well? One always makes mistakes that allow him to progress and become better. In this sense, do not confuse “good” with “infallible”. The most important thing on the way is to love your child, and that will no doubt happen. You will love your child and you will always be doing it because it is an instinct. Birth will be very difficult and painful and will not deal with it …
It is pointless for us to focus on a single moment or hypothetical situations in which we may never fall, but focusing on us depriving us of the good things that happen next to us or at least to live peacefully in Our routine everyday life. And yet, it’s normal! Birth is something unfamiliar, something that has not happened to us, but we have been looking at the movies for a while, reading and listening.
The fact is that everyone is afraid of the pain. Statements such as “It’s been happening since the world is coming” and “Every woman is fit for it” do not give us much comfort because they do not change our sense of fear of pain. But pain, first, in many cases, is not stronger than the one with the monthly cycle, secondly it is constructive, and it should actually give way if the woman comes out of the vicious circle of fear of pain because the more fear Of pain, the more pain.
Our life is strongly influenced by the Western culture, in which the drama of the woman in the movies is our only “real” look at birth (while we do not have our own birth). We are irradiated with an idea of childbirth, but it is unknown among other cultures where birth takes place very slightly.
Here’s how the vicious circle works – fear of pain, the removal of catecholamines (stress hormones), the removal of blood from the uterus and its concentration in the hands and feet (as fear and tension make the body to fight or escape), disturbance of normal access Of oxygen to the uterus, the muscles do not have sufficient resources and pain. Inadequate breathing also contributes to increased pain. Therefore, instead of focusing on your fear of pain, it is better to see what you can build in order to avoid confronting it.I encourage you to get better informed about birth, possible behaviors during the process, breathing, visiting special courses for parents, and during birth do not think about yourself and their unpleasant sensations, but about the baby and how it Maybe he feels.
This is a huge responsibility I do not know if I can handle it
Yes, this is a huge responsibility. And what? If it is less responsibility, is it easier? The question of responsibility and understanding of having a baby is a huge responsibility, in fact, it is only on the agenda until the baby appears. Then the thought of “the great responsibility” and the fear of not being able to deal with is far away in the past – the time when we have had time to think about it.Because when the baby comes, you just do things without thinking, doing them as you feel them, and feeling – they happen no matter how big or small the responsibility is, how difficult or easy it is because that’s how nature is built And because this is your child.