A friend in need is a friend in deed.
This phrase applies to “REAL” friends who are willing to help you when you are in need of cash, advice, a shoulder to cry on and to be there anytime, anywhere without any obligations.
Every now and then, you may want to help your friends who are facing financial problems whom you trusted most.
You know that your friends needed your help to overcome their presisting cash flow problems and you are able to lend them some cash to ease their problem for the time being.
However, being a true friend to your friends doesn’t indicate that your kind deeds would be appreciated.
Instead, some of them may take for granted for your help.
You don’t received any gratitiude or appreciation.
You are taken as a foolish “gold fish” to be fooled easily with honey words.
I had a best friend whom I had known for years during my school days.
We hung out together in school that everyone knew that we were best friends.
We helped each other when we were helpless in relationship, friendship, family communication problems that we confide each other very often.
However, we had never involved our financial problems into our friendship.
One day, my best friend told me that her mother had to undergo a stomach surgery urgently.
She confided with me her problems, I consoled her with words of comfort.
Least than I expected, she brought up her financial issue that was a taboo to our friendship.
She needed $500 in cash to aid her mother’s surgery.
She was in dire straits since she held a waitress job with a low salary.
I decided to help her out since she promised that she will pay me the next 2 months when she had enough cash.
I trusted her and gave her my 1 month salary in cash and told her not to worry so much.
The next 3 months, she didn’t contact me and I started to worry about her mom and the money that she owed me.
The deadline of the debt was over.
She didn’t notify me how was her mother’s surgery status and the promise that she had not achieved.
I tried to call her home ( nobody answered), her office (the restaurant that she worked) but was told that she had resigned 3 months ago. I was stumped.
I even went to look up for her at the restaurant and her home but she was no where to be found. She had disappeared.
Suddenly, I had realized that I was fooled by my best friend over $500
My best friend’s mother told me that she doesn’t have any stomach problem nor surgery. She was healthy, fit and strong.
The worst part was her daughter had left home 3 months ago. She wasn’t worried about her because she left home often. She was a problematic child that I never knew.
Since then, I tried to look her up numerous of times , hoping to know what was her reason behind her lies, why did she cheated on me, after so many years of friendship.
Up todate, I couldn’t find my best friend. It had been 30 years since we had lost contact.
This lesson had taught me that you should NEVER LEND MONEY to your BEST FRIEND because:
- Lending money to your best friend means to “give” your money without expecting any return.
- Money is a touchy or taboo topic that hurts friendship. A test to your friendship and trust.
- Your best friend takes you for granted as a foolish person to believe in his sweet words. He takes you not as a friend but a foolish gullible person to tricks.
- Your best friend disappears after he received the money from you. He has no intention to pay you. He never gives you any reason either.
- Your best friend purposely vanished from your sight in order to escape from guilt , hoping that you will not chase after him over the debt he owed you. He changed his telephone number, moved away from his current address, resigned his job, simply impossible to locate him.
- You had lost your best friend forever.
Although you might forgive your best friend for his misdeeds, forget about the debt that he had owed you, it is simply impossible for you to forgive and forget if he purposely disappears after he had borrowed money from you.
If you truly wanted to have your best friend to stay beside you for a long time, do not involve your friendship with MONEY matters.
Money hurts friendship and trust.
This post is based on my personal opinion and experience.
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