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This is one drawback of living with your in-laws.
Had I am not considering the fact that they invited us to live with them so they can have us to accompany them in their big house, them being old already, I would want us to just live in their old house in the city where we previously were living with our daughter .
But since our daughter started going to college , it was only me and my hubby at home at that time already, so we conceded with their request, transferred there and occupied a big bedroom at the ground floor.
Our daughter , has her own bed too in our bedroom , whenever she comes home for their school vacations.
Cooking is done by my mother-in-law during the time that we are at the office. On weekends and holidays , I cook.
Though on Sundays , since we go to church for the 11:00 a.m. mass , she cooks lunch.
But one time , she asked my hubby what she will cook for lunch. What ? She seemed to suddenly not know what to cook and we are readying to go to church !
Though my hubby would like to go with me to church at that time , he gave in and just did the cooking himself.
Well , what can I do but to go to church alone . However, our date of lunching out after the mass was gone.
This happens also on some occasions like our anniversary where we want to dine out by ourselves.
We have to always take them into consideration that it is evening and they will be left alone in the house, since brother-in-law is also in another province working , on weekdays.
We would just buy take-outs since father-in-law has the difficulty of walking already because of his obesity and just celebrate it on weekends by ourselves , since brother-in-law would be home by then.
But other than this, I am fine living with my in-laws since they are my parents already too. They are generous and kind too .
Have you ever experienced living with your in-law even at one point of your time? How was it ?
Note : Picture is mine. A view of Mayon Volcano in our province
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Hi @Dina, it seems you are bursting a lot with the issues on living together with the in-laws. It’s always a not a easy task and always bring some issues when getting married and consider to live or not to live with the in-laws.
Do correct me if I am wrong, I think this only happen to Eastern societies and Eastern culture. To the Western, and the Russian society, they prefer the daughter live far away from them after getting married. This is the make sure the newly married couple can have their own life, and won’t always go back home for assistance too.
In my society, the Chinese couple used to go back in-law either wife side or hubby side’s house for dining after working. It could be a good bonding for the two generation, but I would say it could make the new couple still living in at comfort zone which make them not matured enough in handling own life after marriage.
Anyway, again, all decision has its advantages and drawbacks, God bless you, Dina!
That is true. In western countries, once you are married or even when you only reached 18 , you are to live independently or when married , with your husband.
Though, in our case , we have to give in to their request and transfer at their house, because they are only 3 in the big house and brother-in-law is living and working in another province on weekdays, so it is necessary that they have companions at home specially when father-in-law got bedridden. We have to be there so we can also supervise when we come home from work, how the caregiver is taking care of him.
Besides , our daughter now will already be living in Manila and would only come home for vacations , now that she is a doctor in the hospital that gives her scholarship in Medicine.
Living with your in laws is the last thing anyone in their right mind should do or even think about. How now how do you start, what would make you even think about it? It is not a good idea to move in with your in laws, if you do that then you can kiss your privacy goodbye, because it's at that point that your business becomes everyone else's business. You cannot do anything without someone butting in. Your better off having your own home then sharing a home with your in laws. In our community when a man gets married he is supposed to get a piece of land somewhere else and build a home for him and his family. The only time he can stay at his parents home is when he may not have a piece of land. But he should be organizing to get one as well. I have seen so many conflicts come about with mother's in law and their daughter's in law living in the same house or compound thereby causing misunderstandings between the children and parents. So I wouldn't advocate for couples living with their in laws