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Calling me idiot has shocked me. I never expect that statement. Why I received that statement?
To be frank, I would be turning 65 in October. I am fed up of all trials and challenges in life. I have lived a decent and well-respected life with my ever supportive wife and 6 children. I have never been insulted or molested. Though we belong to a poor family and legitimately raised by our hard-working father, we haven’t soiled our name. We are proud to carry that name with honor.
Lately, something has gone awkward. Something has become uneasy for I am not used to it. “Your [sic] idiot buddy…” makes me sick upon reading this unwanted remarks of an unknown forum member. This situation has taken place when I felt aghast upon knowing that my credits in the forum which I am working with online were zero. I have earned them by working hard.
“Stealing the credits”, I have learned, is one of the features in the said site. I openly admitted that I didn’t know about. I hadn’t come across that tricky provision in the site. I became violent. I wrote some unethical words and phrases which I regretted of expressing them. The impulsive reaction I had shown is the offshoot of my insensitivity. I have lost my composure as a professional in that moment.
I have insisted on knowing who’s the responsible member/user who stole my hard-earned credits. I would be donating them generously if I was told and informed that he or she has needed those credits for a legitimate purpose. But no notice whatsoever I received. My ego was terribly hit. What should I do then? That is the big question that bothers my mind in that moment.
I don’t want to make the matter worse. Instead, in order to relieve myself of a bad tantrum created by such stupidity, I replied, “Thank you!” At least, I have put myself to sobreity. The hatred within me gradually has subsided. I have gained my composure. Everything has turned normal. The wound of irresponsibility gets healed instantly. That is the feeling I have manifested for being forgiving.
The admin in the site in his best mood quoted my statement and said that I need glasses for they are there. I have not found them. In reality, there is none. When I checked it tonight, I was surprised. They’re back. My credits are in place. I never bother to ask anymore. I just simply leave a comment. A word of “Thank you!” to appreciate it.
Does anyone have called you idiot? How do you react? Are you in your sane mind for such irrepsonsible, uneducated, unwanted comment from someone whom you do not know? Have you handled it in a friendly manner? Without being too offensive? Does it last for several days? Or just a day or so?
I know that fellow is used to insult somebody. He has been brought up on that kind of upbringing by his parents or by his peer group that is composed of uneducated, spoiled brats for that matter. That is only a presumption and nothing, no not one is true. Anyway, that is the experience that I couldn’t forget for I am not used to it.
What do you think, i****?
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If I receive any kind of bad comments that in the form of being nibbled, I will not put myself on the shelves. I fight back to confront these people and I don't give forgiveness easily. I am also professional and I didn't earn my diplomas just to be insulted by someone. That's not acceptable for me. If things get worse and determine that the person that I am dealing with is mediocre, the I will just ignore them and move on to my life without turning back.
You're right. In fact, that is how I feel as a professional too. I don't know if we'll be confronting each other what would be my reaction. I don't know if I could control myself. He's so lucky that it is done in a comment. I don't know who is idiot between us. I just hold my ire for I know if I rant it would unprofessional for me.
Awhile ago, I received an email from the admin of the said site. He relayed that it is not him. It is somebody who stole my credits earned. Actually, I didn't hold him accountable for it. I know he himself couldn't control his members' misbehavior. But he has the will to discipline them according to what they have done. For him, I think it is too immaterial. It is not the point. His top priority is the activities on his site. I am only alone being affected, insulted.
I can control myself and conceal my feelings in terms of confrontation. Well, this is just applicable up close with the person involved. If virtually, I can still be patient at first. However, if things out-of-control and feeling disrespected; then things will be another story. The devil will unleash within me. I am still human that cannot tolerate being belittled by someone.
@nakitakona13 This is a virtual world. Sometimes just our profile ID puts off users leave alone our comments. I have learnt to ignore such behaviour although I too have reacted which I now regret. Reacting and that too hastily only destroys our image. If at all I just move on having nothing to do ever with those who have hurt me. And this applies to my real life connections as well.
I've grown a pretty thick skin over the years. I have had people criticize my writing, criticize me for not going along with whatever the group was doing, and try to claim I'm name calling or bullying simply because I don't agree with them. I don't let other people's temper tantrums get to me anymore.
I know you have inured to all those criticisms and bullyings done by those people who have done nothing except thriving on your infirmities, inadequacies. It is good you have overcome all those things. Now, you are strong. You possess that such stability in emotion that couldn't be belittled or undermined for you are ready to take them by their toes as long as you are right and being humiliated and insulted.
For I know you have the guts to assert your views, your right to strengthen the misrepresentation if there is any. I couldn't display that kind of bravery. You know I am a reserved person. I hate to argue. That is in personal. But in writing, I will pour our all my sentiments, my dissatisfaction for all they know.
That bully has called me buddy. Did I know him? I would presume that is true. That means he isn't serious. He's only joking. Well, I don't think so.
@nakitakona13 I have had lots of strangers on other writing sites call me "buddy." It's a misuse of the word, especially since it is generally not applied to a woman unless there is a very close, familiar relationship established. I think it's just a mark of the person not being very familiar with how to greet strangers in English.
As far as arguing, I don't even respond to the vast majority of criticisms. As a writer, you need to get used to stupid people saying stupid things in the comments under your posts and articles. Most aren't even worth reading, let alone responding to.
@shavkat I know we are humans and have the very frail emotions. Controlling ourselves in terms of being insulted, being underestimated especially in public, that is too much to bear. Women will just cry and run away, but for us as men who couldn't bridle our ego and pride. Everything will happen beyond expected. Especially if it is too much, sorry for the culprit.
I keep on repeating that I am a very sensitive fellow. Just a mere insult, I am easily affected. I want to get out from my skin. I want to shout. I want to cry. But I don't have to. Deep inside me, the feeling of discontentment, the feeling of hatred is burning. But I have to pretend or I just simply leave the scene peaceably, without giving any talk.
That is what I am doing. I know once I open my mouth, reacting to the issue, to the insulted hurled to me I would be adding more flame to the problem. I better shut up and leave.