Beating the Deadliest Killer: ANGER!!! (Part-VIII)

Part VIII of X Parts

(This is a 10 blog series covering the titled topic. The breaking in small parts are intended to keep the article from being too long or dry. If you like it please continue to read all the blogs of the series before you conclude anything. Share if you think that might help your loved ones. Thanks and happy reading.)

Think of the plight of such persons who are habitually finding danger in various walks of life or those who perceive only a few dangers but sleep and wake in the feelings of the same. For them they are more habitually at the heightened response levels and continually injecting more and more toxins in the system for continual damage.

Knowing how anger and fear works, it becomes somewhat easy to address the issue. First, it needs to be understood that it is not possible to shut them out. That would be counter-productive as the system inside will not listen to our thoughts. It is better to strike at the roots of anger and fear – the amygdala. No, we need not cut if off…we only require to immobilize its activities. The very initial sense of DANGER needs to be questioned at the very beginning before the said danger initiates other bodily and mental responses and paralyses our thought processes. This is not easy as most often such thoughts are instant that we come to discover only after considerable damage has been already done.

So the first solid way to combat anger and fear is to locate the DANGER which triggered it. Thereafter, it is required to challenge the train of thoughts following the sense of danger. Normally, we tend to follow such thoughts which further instigate the sense of Danger. A fresh, more happier and charitable line of thought has to be replaced in its place. Suppose a car gives you a close shave on the road, instead of grinding your teeth in anger and shouting at the driver it is more sensible to wonder why he did so….maybe he was new to driving, maybe he is in a hurry, in an emergency, etc. At once you would see the anger has vapourized. Suddenly your sense of being endangered by the close shave is replaced by a concern of the driver’s well being. Inculcating this habit would pay rich dividends in our daily lives. Is it is a well known fact that every wrong done on us by a wrong doer is either a result of an accident not in his control or because the other person believes he is doing the right thing. No amount of anger or reaction could correct either of these situations. On the contrary, they would further strengthen the sense of self-righteousness in the wrong-doer. On the other hand, a charitable line of thought is bound to forgive him for the accident on which he had little control and would straight away take out the steam of his wrong belief system and more often than not he is forced to revisit his belief system or thought processes. Anger or Fear on the contrary would have further strengthened his belief system of his wrong doings.

(Please go over to Part-IX of this series.)