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“You Know You’re In Love When YouCan’t Fall Asleep Because Reality Is Finally Better Than Your Dreams.” – Dr. Seuss
April 25, 2017

Definitely Correct and everyone absolutely approves this quote of Dr. Seuss. Being human, it is normal to fall in love to our opposite sex though this time members of the LGBT also claim despite they are humans but their heart too, beats for love not to their opposite sex but to the same sex. We cannot argue with them nor could we twist the fact that there are gays and lesbians in the world. What is important is they happiness they feel. Happiness and harmony in a relationship is so important and a must for that is what we long to have a better feeling, no war, no chaos, no argument, no fight, no raising of voices and no betraying, only love. To feel that you are also in love is a great gift one can have for not all feel the true love only admiration, attraction or lust. There are men after only of the physical attributes of the women not from the heart and those who based everything from their heart; they truly know how love beats and how the feeling goes when love strikes the heart. The feeling is immeasurable and you are willing to sacrifice and even die for it for the sake of love.

Courting a girl takes time and when time comes that she accepts your feeling, both of you would like to dance in happiness. Yes, true when there is positive result to courtship, we cannot avoid to jump to glorify the glorious feeling, to sing to express the happy mood and to dance to show how happy you are in that moment. The eyes glow in wonder and awe. There is always reason to wake up the next day and reason to sleep late, LOL. You do not like to disappoint your sweetheart if text you and no reply at all. That is why before you enter into a relationship. Make sure you are ready for that. It is also not easy to fall in love right away. You have to develop the feeling first. Each boy or girl undergoes steps to let the love grow in the heart. Love can wait so never be in a hurry for it is not easy to stumble down because of disappointments. You will be disappointed if late to realize that what you feel is not love only pity or admiration. Others do it in pretension loving someone for the sake of experience. What is the girl or boy is serious in their feeling? Your conscience will surely hit you with blames.

During courtship process, you cannot immediately say “I love you.” It is simply because we can always express these words to anyone, to parents, to brothers, sisters and friends. This time, we always hear people say “love you friend.” Hehehe, so watch your tongue it may slip without break. Usually teenagers practice courting a girl and if they are busted, they just laugh for they just practice how to court a lady. That thing does not bring you to perfect intention because you are just playing your emotion. What it will be done to your sister, you will surely say karma to you. Also, love is not a toy and game after being bored to it you just forget your feeling. That happens actually of there is no love. If you are in love, you feel afraid that the girl or boy may not having the same feeling as yours, you feel restless and insecure. It is necessary for the boy during courtship to befriend the girl first, make her trust you fully and know you better in attitude and the way you acre yourself too meaning do not give your 100% love to the girl so with the girl to the boy. I always hear my father telling me before when he was still alive to give only our 50/50 feeling to our love of life for when we are cheated, it will be very hard to ease the pain of loneliness and injury caused by dishonesty. Our father is so right for it really happens to me and to my sister love broken so with our heart broken in two.

It is normal for us humans to fall in love and when time comes that we feel it, we are the luckiest for not all feel the real love. Yes, the author of this quote is so right in saying that we know we are in love if we cannot fall asleep. I experienced it too in my life the first time my heart beats for love to my neighbor hehehe. I was 14 years old that time. We always played together and our favorite play was “hide and seek.” Then one day in my young age, I realized I fall in love to Liling. He was 1 year older than me. He too felt the same way I did. Then one day he told me he liked and he loved me, LOL. I was shocked though my heart told me I loved him too. I was so restless and spent sleepless nights after Liling confessed to me his feeling. I was always hoping sun not to set for it takes many hours to wait for the next day to come and be each other again. His parents learned about Lilings’ courtship to me and our young ages were the reason not to feel love. His parents sold their properties and left our place leaving me sick of not seeing him again after they transferred to other place.

That is a proof that it is really true that when we are in love, we cannot sleep right away. We keep on imagining the face of our beloved. Our mind keeps on searching his sweet smiles and the warm touch of our hand, so sweet and cool feeling. Our mind keeps on thinking about the one we love and how love beats for love seems a mysterious thing. The feeling is so hard to explain only the feeling knows and the mind abides. Despite how love works in a mysterious way, there are also people in a relationship or already married continue hurting through cheating their love? It is so hard to explain for there might be personal reasons hard for them to share.

” It is better to have love and lost than never to have love at all.” Sorry to forget the author of this famous quote,Lols.

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I am alone because that is how I love to be
April 24, 2017

Why is it so that people feel lonely even though there are more people in the world than ever before! I think we as people are lonelier than ever because we are not willing to disclose our internal world with each other. On the other hand, maybe we are trying to keep our problems within ourselves rather than sharing them with our friends and relatives or with our neighbors.

Are you one of them whom sadness makes sad because one has no friends or company? I think some people like this situation because they like to be alone as their choice and find nothing wrong in that. I think all of us face that situation of loneliness sometimes but we seldom feel what loneliness actually is just because some of us grew that way or some of us are really introvert who love it that way.

I remember a song by Beatles at this point having the words “face in a jar by the door” in this reference which I thought meant is about hiding our emotions. In my views the jar here symbolizes that we do not show our true nature to the world, but put a mask on our face.

But don’t you think if we chose to live lonely in a crowd that is entirely our own choice perhaps. I am using my 15 minutes motorbike ride each way for jogging and running but not spending a minute for real conversation with my immediate neighbors. But that is not entirely my fault my neighbor is behaving the same way too.

I feel if you live such a life where you feel not uncomfortable or it is nothing unusual for you to feel lonely or if it is not tough then it’s perfectly alright for you to live that way. But if you are unhappy to go out and live in company of others just because you are facing bullies or living a discriminated life then it’s something altogether different.

I know some of us are lonely but not alone maybe we have learned ways to enjoy our own company. The going is tough, real tough dear friends so I try to keep in touch with as many as possible or you can say that I am just trying to cope with the world.

So Kenneth Eade HOA Wire: A Courtroom Drama Novel writer was not wrong when he said, “We are all alone in this world; even in a crowd” is fine with us? Probably yes but we ourselves are responsible for this situation.

I never thought that I was fine being alone but I don’t think people love mingling up anymore. They avoid talking to each other because they are too short on time.  That’s not my choice but I have no choice but to say, ‘I am alone because that is how I love to be’.  I also think there is no reason people should feel lonely unless there are reasons that contribute to loneliness.

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The First Time Can Never Forget

Some of us are so sentimental for having the first in our lives. It can never forget to have new things and treasured them all throughout existence. For a newborn to have all the new things can bring back the old memories. They might not see how crazy the parents of giving new things are documented through photos or videos. It is a definite keepsake and be seen the child as they grow older.


For our little niece, my sister started to give her a sweet cake for the first day of every month. Her birthdate is on the first of July 2011. The family tradition of giving her a cake started on the following month and continued until she had her first year existence in this world. These are taken in photos for the little niece knows how she was loved by her parents and the family members.


At present, she is 5 years old and continues to have sweet cake every first day of the month. It has been a tradition to rekindle when she was born. Time flies so fast and she is about to enter primary school. She just graduated in a Daycare school with honors. The family pampered her with love and continued to support her. She will always be the baby in the family.


In time, she would be able to understand the deepest gratitude of the family for having her. We also felt so blessed that she is a grown up girl with full of love. All the first time for her was tried to provide. As they said, family can sacrifice things to give all the best for their child. It is what she experiencing right now. All the new things are still available and waiting for the kid to experience. This is what we need to know by taking the responsibility seriously as a good parent for the child.


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Love is not a coincidence.
April 17, 2017

Love is a special relationship between two people, giving a feeling of fullness of life. The reason for this is a positive experience, certainly modifying the personality. Love matures the man, teaches patience, loyalty, encourages not envying but enjoying each other’s success, develops the ability to hear each other and listen. The belief, that other person loves us and makes efforts for us, and in the face of difficulties will support and help us, let us to feel less anxiety in everyday life, helps to aggressively pursue our goals and even more to love ourselves. Moreover, in life when all other things being equal, people who love and who feel themselves loved, psychological health of them is better.

Love can last a lifetime, because it is not the lottery, it is a conscious choice of both partners to be together and make efforts for each other. If this everyday and the work requiring many efforts both partners will perform in good faith, the love will likely not ends and the family will not break off. Love is like a wonderful journey – the more we travel, the more we experience, the more we learn and cherish our beloved, because he becomes a part of us. Falling in love is the beginning of this beautiful trip.

This, unlike true love, is uncontrolled state of feelings, when we idealize our chosen one, and in our opinion anyone who thinks otherwise not understands anything. Falling in love is some kind of challenge for our body, as hormone of happiness increases dramatically. It is absolutely  normal that falling in love can not last forever.

It is said that falling in love takes up to three years. After that, either man realizes that his choice was wrong, or begins to feel affection to his beloved. Thus, the saying that love lasts three years, however, is not accurate, because after three years the love just begins. Love is much quieter than falling in love, but also much more mature and deeper.

A claim that a mature love can be only in mature age, probably can be accepted only partly. Mature age alone does not guarantee a successful relationship, although, of course, older people have more life experience, more constructively solve their conflicts, are less guided by emotions. All of these things strengthen relationships. On the other hand, there are many young people who are very successful at resolving conflicts, in their relations are not impulsive, have an approach that better to solve problems rather than run away from them.

The fading love is love that is left to its own devices, when the both of couple do not cherish and do not try to save their love. To love means to respect, to care, make efforts for each other, to be faithful. If, for whatever reason, anyone decided to the contrary, then it means decided not to love anymore. And one very important thing: “I” has to become less important than “we” in the love relationship. Where it is vice versa, this couple’s relationship microclimate is unsuitable to unfold the love.

Love is not a coincidence, it is two people’ daily efforts to build a beautiful relationship. If there is mood of both sides to save the love, everyone will find the strength to forgive, to dare apologize, respect, will be faithful and will take care of beloved. Love is supported by confidence in each other, proximity, open conversations, not being afraid to avowal being wrong, efforts to change inappropriate behavior to more appropriate. Nurturing warm and spiritual relationship, it is important to see the meaning, create a relation of love, where we would feel happy not only ourselves, but would be also responsible for our beloved happiness.


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Loving Oneself Can Always Be the Reason to Live
April 16, 2017

Some people are having a hard time in reflecting themselves as a person. It is a question why some people can’t appreciate the word value. Into some extent, they value things that are tangible such as money, properties, pieces of jewelry, etc. On the other hand, some people value a person that is so important to them.  The unlucky people can never felt aspirations in life and accepted as the member of the society.

If a person can only make people realize the value of a human existence. To tell you frankly, others was not valued as a person along the journey of their existence. I can’t explain why they cannot value a person as to be a son, brother, lover and friend. Is there something wrong? All I know, we are part of this world to be loved and treasured. Some of us can perceive the world so beautiful to live to the fullest.

Most of us wanted to spread unconditional love to those people attached to us. With to no avail, the love that we are hoping for cannot be easily attained. We cannot lose hope. We can be sure that we will be perceived as somebody who can offer love. Love is really a powerful world to seek happiness. It makes your world too colorful to live with a worth of being a person. No questions ask. It is a matter of being loved and share love without inhibition. That’s the only thing some people are craving for.  Even if the world will be rolled to any directions, still people need to learn how to be independent and try to decide for oneself. If not, then what’s the use of our existence.

Loving oneself can be attainable if a person word hard of it. It should always be unconditional and not be limited. The value of a person can be ideal if knows how to death with directly and not to let other people feel it genuinely as like reborn again.

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Over protected kids: A change in method of child upbringing
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Every child is a precious asset of his parents. From the moment he is born the parents start with their duty as a caretaker and carry this responsibility till their last breath.

But the level of this responsibility has shown a considerable variation over time. In older times when people opted for multiple kids, they carried a somewhat casual attitude towards their children. With this I do not mean to say that they lacked in love for their children but when compare to protection and protectiveness for their children they were not as intense as the present generation parents.

With the advent of nuclear families with usually 1-2 kids at the max, the level of attention each child is getting has increased manifolds. These days giving birth to a child is no less than winning a battle and the so called reward of the battle becomes the most precious entity for the parents. They are looked after and taken care in every aspect that is possible from food to health, education to extracurricular activities. Each and every thing is looked after properly as well as precisely.

The adverse effect of this kind of upbringing is that it is making the present day kids over protected and over dependent on their parents. They take too long to start living an independent life. For each and small thing they are becoming dependent on their parents and look forward to their parents to come up with a solution.

It is high time for the parents to realize that their extra concern is doing no good to their children. This will all lead to harmful effects for the child in the long run. He will surely face a tough time in fighting the battle of life. Kids who are over guided usually end up with low self confidence and low self esteem. They fail to develop the belief in their own “self” and everytime keep looking for some guidance or support.

Like every other human being the kids also need their space. Leave them alone for short time and let them explore their surroundings on their own. Allow them to analyze things through their own view point and refrain from imposing your view point on them every now and then. Let them widen their horizons of imagination and make them aware of their capabilities.

Guidance at every point is important but parents should understand that there is a major difference between guidance and over protection. A line needs to be drawn in between the two and parents should be aware that crossing that line more often will be lethal for their beloved child.
There is no doubt that it is only “You” who have protected and prepare your child but correct methodology is really important. It is the way will carve out your future generation.

The Power Of Silence In A Troubled Moment
April 14, 2017
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Have you tried to tell someone that you need to be alone? Have you experience some troubles in your life? If so how did you manage those troubles? It is wrong to harm the self during troubled moment for the more you cannot find answers how to solve them. Facing own problem is not easy. Sometimes you want a friend to listen to you. Your brain wants to crack finding some eases to restore back peace of mind. What makes you feel better when alone? It is so simple; it does not need mathematical calculations but rather suitable words to gain you peace. Close your eyes and know what your problem is all about. Think of the root cause of that problem. Ask yourself if that is truly a problem. Then your mind will release data as to what you are seeking for. Sometimes in our silence we can recall some experiences that may connect to our present and such may remedy the root cause of our problem. If we are alone, we can concentrate better. Our mind is so relax and so with the beating of our heart. After you gather all the resources from your mind, mark my word, your lips will paint a smile. Out of that alone mood in silence you will also realize some mistakes you have had in the past. You feel better after al those struggling days.

One concrete example of a problem that requires you to be alone is problem of love. This may be a problem if there are many complications, and the fact is, you are so in love to a married man late of your knowledge and you give to the man everything. What should you do if this happens to you late knowledge of the man’s marital status? That kind of problem may involve the entire families of both sides. It will be a very big shame and you feel your own slaps on your face. You cannot avoid covering your face with your hands thinking that for some minutes you can crush out the shame and regret. To fall in love is not a sin, but it may become a crime if the man or woman is married and their marriage is still intact and only be hampered by cruelties on the side of both wife or husband if found their better half cheats their marriage and you are this one creating troubles, yet beyond your knowledge. The fault would still fall on you for you did not make a background check to the guy. It should have been better to investigate. There are many ways to do this through media, friends, and the location of the person. Who knows in the office the manager or the human resource officer can hand you date about the real status of the person, unless you tolerate yourself and enjoy every moment with your wrongful tolerance.

That silence is the concrete substance to eliminate some disasters that await should you not be brave enough to cement that love in the ground and let time and different climates rot the mystics that romantically link between you and that married person. It is not late by the way to sound off the repentance and the new face you should shell out so that you can embrace fully new life that surely withstands in years without guilt to carry on and conscience to torture you day after day as long as you believe in yourself and keep a promise before God never to commit the same mistake again. It is so important to be wise and not to experiment something that may surely destroy your figure and fame. There are also famous celebrities in Philippines whose marriage were broken because a celebrity husband was caught giving gifts to his covet. The worst was those gifts were gifts given to him by his very own wife, also a celebrity .What a total destruction of marriage and their children all girls were very much affected emotionally, be ridiculed and bullied by their children friends. The wife had felt life killing her with a very sharp dagger due to pain, shame, insult and injury .They eventually broke their marriage for the wife cannot accept her infidel husband. The celebrity is so beautiful, model, actress, yet the husband was still not contented. It should be better for that husband to seek help in silence so he can weight things justly and escape remorse at the end of his life’s trials and cheats.

There is so much answer to a problem in silence than in a noisy place with family members that may keep on barking like dogs. The more you feel miserable and troubled for you cannot decide which among the suggestions suit much to your need. You know well your problem, so those suggestions may surely help if presented one at a time not in chorus. Sometimes, it sounds irritating to listen to grudges and blames. You sought help to guide you and correct mistakes intentionally or not. It is hard to escape temptations for humans are so vulnerable and recipients mostly of a killer feeling of liking and attraction, yet such may fatal as days go by. It is so hard to correct some mistakes to whatever degree and kind they would be. There are many factors why hard to correct, but you should do it for the sake of life itself. Life will become miserable if tolerate your wrongs. No matter how cruel life is for being easily tempted, there are still many ways to accept your weakness , and make life anew ; in so doing, peace of mind may restore and destructions eventually be repaired, so with your broken heart healed. In silence is where you also feel the presence of God. The more you will be encouraged to repair your life when God enters your troubled life. You will find ease and put everything to God for God hears us and heals our broken hearts. Every time, I am in trouble, I seek silence in my room alone and in there I can talk to God and confess to Him everything to gain peace of mind, good health and prosperity; likewise, to the entire members of our family.

In silence is where we see our sin and guilt and feel remorseful to those and repent not to do the same mistakes again. Do try silence as your real partner of peace and remorse.

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Why do people stay together if there is no more love?

Why do people stay together if there is no more love? No, idea.
Why do people fight, beat each other in form of their juvenile kids and other family members, but still stay together?
Why women take beatings for granted and stay in the hateful marriages?
Sincerely, I am completely confused by that thing. Especially with the marriage who are tested by the violence and drunk husbands.
Or drugged ones. When I read about celebrities with money, every second was high on drugs drinking and stomping poor wife but nobody has done more but news people who filled the tabloids for the sake of money and audience reading the newest gossip. How rude…
And when a woman comes out, they victim blame her and drag across the mud like if she was asking for that.
People are nasty I know because they refuse to believe that a sweet person outside is a wife-beating monster at home.
If you don’t love somebody, you should flee and find the better fitting partner, because it is obvious that the present one is not good enough for you.
But, love struck people are not easily shaken off of their bad habit of falling for the less fortunate with no brains and manners.
They think it is that something. maybe a special flavor of a rotten character drives them crazy, I don’t know.
So, why people don’t come clean and admit they don’t want a relationship anymore? A reason is very simple, they will rather ruin it with infidelity and unhappy rather marriage but to admit they ‘gave up’. In the fact the is no giving up, but simply not fitting together.
Infidelity is not always an accident that just happened, sometimes is a punishment performed and served to the unfitting partner who refuses to see the reality.
When it comes to that, two are blaming each other but never on himself because that other must be the first who ruined ‘s something so perfect’. But, there was never something perfect, because if it was there – they will never think of going to the way they went, yes?
I believe it is so, people will rather do this and the is also one another reason. A law. There are consequences to bear if any of the partners decides to quit on them marriage, even if it is unhappy and bitter for the both. A society gives the consequences, and a community alike. Because the people always look who is a guilty one but never takes it as a natural end of anything that never meant to be. It si over, bury it and move on. But, no! A community will label and sometimes even punish anyone who admits in this way to be less than a perfect, even if it is better ‘perfect’ being single but in the rotten marriage.
There is also another thing when a marriage ends with children. If there are children involved then there is an entire circus.
I can’t imagine how anyone survives such a harsh labeling. This is a reason why many martial partners stay in the unhappy marriages and bare the consequences of a hateful life.

Simple habits can ruin your relationship

Relationships seem a very popular topic on an every website, but what those devices may give us besides the things we already know. Or even yet better, the things we don’t agree at all because they are not logical.
But everything about human behavior and feelings is not logical, we all do stuff that is not reasonable or even not normal from time e to time.
When I observe the social life some of my friends have I have no doubts why their family life goes berserk from time e to time.
While somebody thinks it is all about fidelity and how partners have to be in love, romantically crushing over each other all the time, I know it is not true and marriages are not unfortunate because of this.
By culture, I come from a country that is not beneficial to the women, for some reason it is still believed that women are less worthy so in marriage, it should be even more obvious.
I don’t comply with this general opinion and not many of my friends. In fact, I avoid being affiliated to anybody who thinks one partner in marriage is by anything better from the another. They are both worthy.
So, where the hell rises in the relationships at the first sight?
Lack of the tolerance e. Lack of understanding. Maybe your partner snores…? Lol, yes I k now it is funny, but some people go crazy about it.
Simple habits can ruin your relationship just like that because always one partner thinks he has the right to change the another one. Men are usually spoiled divas who expect that a wife swap places to his own mother, which is quite impossible.
Don’t tell me it is not so , I saw it so many times, and if a wife falls in it, man blames it on her, like if it is his right. Not a nice start to a marriage.

Hollywood dirts, story of love review
April 9, 2017

Hollywood dirts, story of love review

I like to read and reading book takesa bout 3 days to finish and sometimes 2 depend on the time.

Today I will write about Hollywood dirts its author is  Alessandra Torre

Did not read her books, nor saw before. So I was wondering if as an author she can add joy

The book story is about complication of love between two people from different life level. One is the star of Hollywood and the other is woman from south that people don’t like, so the love in this story is hate, then love then hate then love. That is how the relationships going in this book

Their feelings explode without notice, their relationship start like kids they fight and want to win over each other, but later the love mature and become good relationship, when you see hero just want the heroin to love him, but its not aobut love only, its about why love make you stupid and the silly things you do for love

with this book you see such a good love expressed in modern way.

Book will make you feel that you live real live love story, to find what that maybe it’s the neighbor or the mate at job. the end of story was wonderful since I like happy ending, its really like two people in love face the hard time together then accept what love brings them, and live with each other imperfection. For those who like happy ending it is satisfying book to read

Hollywood dirts, story of love review, continue the post to learn more about the story but if you like it now, then do not read and go bet it either online or real stores

relationship fluctuation in both live Summer and the lover Cole is what make you keep on reading and wanting to know the end of the story, from hating each other to kill to their deep passionate