Is this a true story? It probably is. I don’t know of any people in a relationship like this, but couples have “arrangements” I suppose. Although if both are aware of what’s going on, that’s not really “cheating”. We won’t split hairs over it. 🙂

But there are 3 reasons a woman stays with a unfaithful man.

~ LOVE. No matter what anybody says “Love can cover a multitude of sins.”

~ MONEY. She can’t (or she thinks she can’t) take of herself financially. In psychology I think it’s called “learned helplessness”.

~ TRADITION. She lives in a society where her back is up against the wall. She either kills herself, escapes if she can, or lives in hell!! It ain’t right. It ain’t fair. But that’s her reality.

What’s the use of staying in marriage, if both of you isn’t committed to what you have promised before God, when you got married.

If she finds sex painful, then early on she could have told her husband, so her husband will make a way not to hurt her that way, whenever they are lovemaking.

They could have even approached a gynecologist about her pain so it could be given a remedy.

Besides, there are many ways for a woman not to feel pain during their lovemaking, but instead enjoy it everytime it’s being done.

Adultery is a major sin. But many men commit it. Most women will walk out. Those who don’t have a reason why. I was giving the three major ones; money, having an affair of her own, or not liking sex.

I never would stay with a man no matter how much money he has , who cheats and find his cheating a reason to cheat too.

One cannot correct a wrong with another wrong.

I would rather equip myself with money by working, separate with him and find another man who can love me and not cheat on me. AT least, that way, I will not sin also.

As I have observed, some women indeed would stay with their husband, because they are so dependent on him to sustain a living.

Look at those career women, when they are cheated by their husbands, they separate with them, file divorce, so they can find their right man.

I am sure, if the Gardener hadn’t been there, and if the relationship between the wife and gardener hadn’t been so loving, the wife would have left. As the husband had money, the wife had a high standard of living, the gardener had an easy job, so staying in the relationship made sense.

Why wait for the husband to die, when during his lifetime of cheating, the woman can make means to stash money for herself and one day file for a divorce because of his cheating ways.

At least on top of her stashed money from her husband, he would be giving her alimony.

As to the children she should also see to it that she will have them for herself and that they be included in the divorce agreement as to their allowances until they are of matured age and can already be on their own.

This is really a pity to see a housewife in that position.Is it not controlling her from doing what she really wants to be? She has been reduced to financially dependent in the society. Doesn’t she have some wishes and desires? How a husband treat his wife like that? Totally shame on him.
Of course, there are some sites that may provide some pocket money. But, they are not reliable.
First, the lady/housewife should have financial freedom and she must be in a position to earn something for her own expenses. If her husband can not fulfill her wants and desires what is the minimum thing he can give her? Totally absurd.

A pity that this housewife is struggling. Those tips are very useful. Now in this time and age, the woman has got to be smart and be self-reliant. If something were to happen to the main breadwinner, she has to step up to the plate. There is a website called the penny hoarder that lists plenty of opportunities to earn some side money as well as some full time positions. It is an informative website that can give anybody ideas to how to make some extra income. Hope this helps.

Yes, I agree. The stay at home wife should do these things so she also can have money of her own to buy whatever she likes to buy.

Having those hobbies turned to business is what I always see on televisions. Some are so artistic, that they make those accessories which they sell online.

A former officemate of mine, resigned because her business of second hand clothes, bags and shoes, became so prolific because she established a niche for Them through her online website where she would take pictures of them and post it in Facebook. Friends and friends of friend , relatives and a lot more would order that she eventually resigned to also have a stall in their house while she also sells them online.

One should really be determined to prosper.

Yes, you are right, @sivasubrahmanyam, that’s really pity that the housewife lose her financial independency after decided to stay at home and take care of the children and the family. In fact, the wife or stay at home one should get paid too, say a quarter of his/her partner’s monthly income as a appreciation of her/his contribution to the family.
Can we image, how much we need to pay for sending the children to the baby sitter? And how much it need for hiring a domestic assistant? The housewife does all this stuffs and get no paid. It is seems a bit not fair to her.
@caleb, thanks for sharing the website. Hope this help for those needed, do the opportunities have any geographical factor restriction?
@michelle, USD20 is too little, right? Agree with you, the housewife need some leaves or “me “ time as the working lady too, and deserve for some pay or something nice or some gifts or a treat. So, my husband treated me and himself too on V day, haha!:P

Thanks for sharing your ideas. I think even when a mother needs to stay at home she should find something she is passionate about and find a way to make some money out of it. Like you said art and crafts come in handly even selling them at a low price it will get you someone to refer you to others and get a little client base on you things.

If you like to write them find a way to make yourself a blog and use google adsense to earn some money.

There are alot of ways to get a little cash. You just need to be a bit creative.

Good information. I,personally, like to watch the old TV shows and programs. Websites are good but now companies are focusing on apps. There are many apps available in which you can see old movies, shows and even cartoons. Hulu is, also, available in apps and most of the new TV shows are available. So, the field is wide for anyone to see TV and does not have to spend a fortune. Cable TV will soon have to change or lose money because customers are wiser and know that there are alternatives to TV and movie watching.

There is a saying that birds of the same feather flocks together so it is not surprising that some people will support an empty barrel because they themselves are empty. How can educated people follow a man whose words are not even coordinated. He speak lies and they take it as truth. this is where america will break up and terrorism will hit america soon.

As a mother the biggest and the most time taking task for me is feeding my son. This is something which is like a burden on my shoulders after every few hours.

I agree to your point that feeding while watching TV is not advisable. But this is my only lifeline. If he is not engrossed in television or tablet he will not open his mouth for sure.

I really wish i will find a solution soon.

hi Dr. Kikol, I have no T.V and no tablet at home only smart phone. But, my 8 year-old daughter might love to read while eating. We will scold her and warn to take away her meal.
Because, we want her to taste, appreciate and enjoy the real food. Your kids might be a little younger, but only serve him food when he is hungry, maybe can help to push him to eat faster or open his mouth. 🙂

And, compete with other same age peer can help the kids to build up good habit too, maybe it will help when he is entering the kinde next year! All the best!