@peachpurple I am so sorry. That is just a sad situation all around. You and your husband gave it your best by living with her for so many years. I am sure you worry about her now since she is older. I hope things get better.

I have two children that are seven years apart. When my oldest was growing up, I was very strict on him. Maybe even overly strict at times. He did get a few spankings along the way, but never anything severe. However, he was a bit of a handful at the time and I really did not know any other way to be. I was only 21 when he was born, so I was…[Read more]

@jentleheart/

I agree with you, living with the rest of the in law siblings, one is bound to have conflict with one another.

You will see different Groups of family members ganging up to make the life of the other miserable.

Then you can see that these siblings are “currying favor” mom / dad in laws, to gain “power” “money” or backup.

Although…[Read more]

@s-stephens/

yes you were right after all.

It is difficult to live with someone who doesn’t intend to get along with each other.

One would live a miserable life for sure.

Thanks for your kind words. I just wish that she could hear this.

I want to live with her till her last breath, she is 85++ now.

However, if she keeps disagree with…[Read more]

@peachpurple I agree with you. I do not really think parents are bad, no matter what parenting style they are using, it might just be different from us. Moreover, I think we also need to consider each child’s personality or temperament, and we might guide them differently too. I believe most parents love their children and are trying to do the…[Read more]

@peachpurple I forgot to mention, that I am sorry your relationship with your MIL was not better. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, there is no way to get along with some people. Usually those people are very unhappy within themselves and therefore, they try to make others miserable too. I could not live with someone like that. I am sure your…[Read more]

I think that no matter how good a person is,  the in laws will always be in conflict with us because we grew up differently and have different beliefs.

I also had a more peaceful life when my family was living a bit far from them. Although we still lived in one of their properties,  a few blocks away,  I dont get to have “surprise visits”.  B…[Read more]

@peachpurple No, my husband has a brother that is three years older than him. But yes, my in-laws are very humble and kind. They claim my children as their grandchildren and are much better to them than their own grandparents ever were.

My MIL is the sweetest little lady. She teaches kindergarten students at a Christian school that is right up…[Read more]

@kaka135/

Wah, your mom and mom in law are so cool!

if my mom in law knows about home schooling, she would say learn nothing but nonsense!

how old is your mom and your mom in law?

My mom is 64 yrs old, a stroke patient.

my mom in law is 85++ somewhere around there….

@kaka135/

@ruby3881/

@jentleheart/

@dawnwriter/

all of you are great moms!

It is not easy being a 24/7 mom around the clock.

being a first time parent, we all learned through hardship, trials and mistakes in order to improve our parenting skills.

Each of us has different parenting style, there isn’t any rules that says whose is right or…[Read more]

@peachpurple Sorry to say that, but I think it’s good that your mother in law decided to leave on her own, it’d be better for your relationship as well. It’s not easy to stay under the same roof.

Though I love both my mom and mom in law, I do not think I can really stay with them for long term. Both my husband and I like to do what we love, but…[Read more]

@s-stephens/

good to hear that your 3rd sets of in laws are cool parents to you. It is difficult to encounter kind inlaws these days. By the way, they looked very humble and loving in the picture. your hubby is the only son?

@ruby3881/

I am sorry to hear about your parents in law. Why do good people always leave us? I am sure that they…[Read more]

@peachpurple is right.  You have to talk to them to each of them individually. And this will touch them and will be in your life. Try it.

did they know that you were in the hospital for the last 3 days?

If you had posted on FB, they may not know about it.

If you had called them and they had already been notified verbally, then that is just way too much !

They should at least text you or drop by to see you.

Otherwise, are your relationship with your family members not that…[Read more]

@Rapid Blue  my wife was working as a lecturer before our marriage decades before but I forced her to quit her job and in my views she is not jobless. She is perhaps earning more than me by way of supporting me and my only child. I am grateful to her for quieting her job for me and her family.    

@peachpurple yes you are right when you said that we will alwaysd be our dad’s little girl. I guess, I just get too emotional everytime I think of him.

Thank you so much! I am teary eyed but happy reading your reply.

I am greatly touched, my friend. I am sorry that you were not able to spend more time with your father. But I know that he has bern looking after you.

I think I am a good mom, though I know I am not good enough, I am still learning to be a more mindful, joyful and gentle mom. I never spank or hit my children, but I have to confess that I do get angry with them and scold them sometimes, especially when I am overwhelmed or too sick. So, this is something I really need to learn.

I quit my job…[Read more]