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March 18, 2017 at 2:38 am

This is a basic question many of us would have asked many times in our life when we are faced with a situation which is difficult or something which we had not foreseen and had no control over. It can be something as simple as our money not getting transferred to the bank on time or it can be the passing away of someday very dear to us or it can be a financial loss which is too big and this when we are just recovering from another such setback from life. There are many similar and varied situations in which such a question is asked by many.

 

My take on this is many a time we are careless and are not cautious or careful about the way we have to go about things till the time we face the consequences and then we ask the question mentioned in the heading. But sometimes despite the best of our efforts and all the right intentions things do not go as planned as there are certain events taking place which are totally beyond our control. For such a thing I would say such a situation was preordained for us whether it may be good or bad it was supposed to happen in such a way at that time. The best thing for us would be simply accept it as an event which we were supposed to face in life and move on.

 

This may not be as easy when we face such situations but what are the options we have, nothing, but to pick the pieces out of the situation and just move on and move forward that is what life is. Whatever happens when we see in hindsight has a reason for it to happen. So we are just toys in the hand of time or fate so just face it and get on with life.

March 18, 2017 at 12:18 pm

I think some of the times we just have to go over the thought of why this happens to me. Instead we have to look at the life with thought that it happened. Now what? So the part where now what and onward is going to help us have some peace. I am not sure how many people go over the very thought of why this to now what. I think “now what?” is a good option to go over the depression of “why this happened to me?”. That is what I am thinking these days.

March 18, 2017 at 12:52 pm

True, you are very right when you say one should think ‘now what?’ when compared to the other ‘why this happened to me?’. That is basically picking up the pieces and moving on with life rather than mulling over the fact of why this happened to me. I feel so bad and miserable and the like. But the sad truth is not many people seem to get out of the situation. As they are stuck with the thought and it haunts them as the experience has been very bad.

 

Different people have different coping strategies and some recover fast and the remaining take more time to get over it. It depends on the personality of the individual and how good the person is at crisis management to tide over the thought. I fully agree with your approach. It takes time but it is the right approach and needs time to work on and practice. Best wishes and enjoy the weekend.

March 20, 2017 at 3:04 pm

I think I personally learned about those things using my experience. I had those problems. I used to stumble onto past for long. And I didn’t planned for future. So that’s how I got myself out of this negativity. Nobody helped me. Instead people around kept me into negativity and made fun of me. That being said, there are times when you have to come out of such situations on your own. And that way you’d be less weak and more strong to handle those situations. There are times when this just works out.

March 20, 2017 at 3:39 pm

I agree with you as experience is the best teacher. Generally what we tend to do is whenever we face a problem we think of just overcoming the problem and move on. But many a times we fail to do the introspection which is necessary to avoid such situations in the future for a lifetime. Like in this case planning for the future. Unfortunately society and people tend to pull down people who are already down which does no good to one in such a situation.

 

Self help is the best help in these situations. It is better to focus at the task on hand and try to improve on the situation. One step at a time will work wonders and will help regain the self confidence which one would have lost. If one learns to latch on to the threads and build on that it will help one in the long term. This experience of overcoming the issues faced will help in future situations.

March 23, 2017 at 3:50 am

why does this happened to me
You know from the sound of this question you know is a selfish question. if we asked why then who do we think that such a situation to happen to, sorry to say, I look at what ever that happen to you in this life is preparing you for what is ahead coming