Courtship and Marriage
In this group, you can discuss different issues, problems or benefits of courtship and marriage. Marriage being the most sensitive issue in terms of decision making, it’s prudent we share more light on exactly what need to be done in order to come up with a good relationship. The bible says “Where there is no Vision, the people perish, but he that keeps the law, happy is he. (Proverbs 29:18)” let’s share this vision with the community.
You can share tips for healthy relationships, faithfulness, determining God’s will in marriage, choosing the bride, youth and marriage e.t.c. You can also share stuffs like, how to be a good husband or wife, etc.
HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE!!! BY BISHOP DAVID OYEDEPO
1. There is nothing that threatens the security of a man than the thought of another man competing for the attention and affection of his wife. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.
2. Marriage flourishes when the couple work together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.
Good marriages don’t just happen. They are a product of hard work.
3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.
4. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.
5. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.
6. A successful marriage doesn’t require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all.
7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.
8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.
9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.
10. Don’t take your spouse for granted. Don’t take advantage of your spouse’s meekness and goodness. Don’t mistake your spouse’s loyalty for desperation. Don’t misuse or abuse your spouse’s trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.
11. Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.
12. Dear wife, Don’t underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don’t let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse’s image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.
I have to say that I agree with 10 out 12 of these. I’ll start with number 8, I wouldn’t say that I fully agree with the people around you being an influence. I believe that in a marriage the day you said I do, the day you made those vows both husband and wife already made up their minds of who are in control. If you really love the person that you marry than no matter what anyone else may say or do, you know what your spouse is and isn’t capable of, so therefore the people surrounding your marriage can neither make nor break that bond.
Number 12, this seems a bit bias to me. Yes, the tongue can hurt feelings but that goes both ways but you mentioned only the wife. That leads me to believe that you are ok with a man belittling his wife. Which in no shape, form, or fashion is just, right, or Godly. A husband’s words can cut and hurt just as deep.
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