Narcissists – charismatic, but problematic personalities.

We all heard the tales and myth of Narcissists, people who admire themselves and love themselves most of all. Maybe even have met such people in a reality, and maybe those properties lie within us?

A charismatic smile, stylish clothes, sleek hairstyle and a great sense of humor – a charming, self-confident Narcissist immediately attracts attention and causes sympathy. He like no other knows how to show his character. The Narcissist in the beginning of the relationship, easy creates the perfect picture of the human being – a partner, manager, colleagues and so on. They do it so convincingly that you cannot hide being happy with your success, that you met such wonderful man. After all, he’s just perfect; he is the solver of all your problems! However, this is only the first impression. Unfortunately, in the long term relationship with Narcissist can significantly turn sour.

For the Narcissist everything is a proof of his splendor, loveliness, the goodness and power. What is the approval of most important properties depends on person’s personal values. However, for him it is the question of life and death to be fully recognized as having these qualities. For the Narcissist everything in life revolves around him. The Narcissist can cause scandal for details in any event. And suddenly everything starts to spin around him only.

Not for nothing talking about Narcissist, we use the masculine gender. There are more men Narcissists than women. They suffer from delusions of grandeur, feel privileged and better than others, they often lack empathy. The interesting thing is that these persons are usually aware that they are Narcissists, and do not hide it. They believe that are better than the others, and almost are proud about it.

Narcissists are very sensitive to any criticism, not approved their view when the situation turns not in their favor. Felt threatened, Narcissist often reacts inappropriately and aggressively, in such way reducing levels of his stress. If for you it is just a simple question that you had forgotten after five minutes, for the Narcissist it is the struggle for life.

The inner mechanism forces Narcissist to see around a variety of hazards, threats that cannot see other people. Therefore, Narcissist thinks that all around are the blame for everything that is happening around him and with him, if everything goes in not the way he wants.

Unable to bear the threat of the reality, Narcissists are trying to control everything by any means. They reach higher pilotage in manipulation area. For them there is nothing sacred in order to achieve that situation to become what they need. Most of them are persistent liars. Even the Narcissist, who not accepts the lie by his values, is able to interpret the facts in his favor, that the partial truth in its essence is closer to lie.

One of the easiest ways to identify Narcissist – to say that he said or done something badly. Narcissists will defend themselves, prevaricate in very radical way, but will never admit their guilt and responsibility. Narcissists often are very clever and intelligent.

Therefore, they are able to perfectly prove that it is you who is guilty of all these situations.

Typically, Narcissists their characteristic traits acquire during childhood. The most common consequence is childhood trauma.

While Narcissists are problematic personalities, some of them are able to maintain a long-term relationship with the partner. Narcissist easily finds his way to a loved one’s heart. Narcissist has a sixth sense and is able to say exactly what a partner wants to hear.

Therefore, relationship is going at lightning speed.
Constantly feeling unrealized emptiness caused by parental rejection and lack of love, the Narcissist is looking for who could give the love to him, what he has not received as a child. Yes, Narcissist is a person who has stuck in childhood with an adult body. Their relationship with the world and dealing tactics with the daily difficulties are childish. Feeling opportunity to get the coveted love, Narcissist can no longer resist the pull of tremendously. With a new partner, he finally begins to feel filled and no longer feel terrible emptiness. Relationships evolve quickly because Narcissist feelings are very strong. Usually people who fall in love with Narcissists are very similar.

After Narcissist felt that a loved one gave himself completely, he begins to show his real face. Eventually, the two people begin to feel that something is wrong. Narcissist is blaming his partner for everything what between them is bad, and a partner agrees with all this, self-esteem eventually decreases even more.

Narcissist’s partner is also injured child with an adult body. Perhaps even experienced similar problems with their parents, only unconsciously chose another survival and adaptation strategies – agreement with everything what is required of him, even if it is contrary to his own wishes. This loop closes and both partners are drowning in their own despair, frustration swamp. Both do not want to stop damaging, unhealthy relationships. Where the Narcissist will receive food for his artificially pompous ego, if not from his partner? They both share a thread, which Narcissist cannot break by himself. Except those cases, when he had found another source for his ego.

Divorce with Narcissist will be difficult. The fact that the partner wants to leave, for the Narcissist will be a double blow, it is his essential injury. Feeling a threat to his being, he will not forgive partner and will harm him of all efforts. Narcissist will use against you everything possible in the court. Moreover, he will try to make you look like you’re mentally unstable person, and he – a stable, honest, intelligent, rational, and therefore reliable.

Modern Western society supports prosperity of Narcissist type character. Social networks in everyday life, is forcing to race, who will demonstrate greater prowess. However, not all people who like to boast are Narcissists constantly changing work and lovers and causing serious and long-term internal problems for their relatives, spouse and children.

If you have a question, do you have the characteristics of Narcissist – all people have it. And it really is not as bad or scary. What I described is the signs of extreme narcissism. We all have one other feature of Narcissist.

If within you lies scary suspicion that this article about you, do not be afraid to ask a psychologist help. A true professional knows and reveals to patient as much as he currently is ready to accept and deal with.