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How To Live Like a King

Living like a King simply means the ability to be able to live in a very comfortable or luxurious way/manner of life.

It will be so interesting to live like a king, rule the world and have people come at you for favor.

Well, we might not get other people to bow to us, but we can certainly find a way to dress like a king, eat like one, and travel like one. Most kings have gorgeous clothes and a nice car; they eat at fancy restaurants; they travel in first class; and they always have crowns. Who’s to say we can’t experience a little of that?

Now, I know what you’re thinking: all of that might seem out of reach on a small income like yours, but I’m here to tell you it’s possible.

There are ways to live like a king (or at least close to it) on a very modest salary—the key is to understand how to get great deals without putting yourself into debt. If you do your research, exercise patience, and keep your spending in check, you’ll be feeling like royalty in no time. Here’s how to go about it:

How To Wear King’s Clothes:

If you were a real king, you’d wear extremely nice clothes from the top name brands. Designers would beg you to wear their creations, and you’d have someone to do all your shopping and clothes coordinating for you.

All that sounds a bit luxurious, but there’s no reason why you can’t experience a little bit of that royal treatment. While you might not be able to match the exact brands favored by royalty, you can certainly buy clothes of very nice quality at a lower cost.

One way to do this is to join membership shopping sites: membership websites like RueLaLa routinely have luxury brands anywhere from 20%-90% off of retail prices. Most of them also sell home goods, so you can make sure you’re living in the lap of luxury at home too. Also, don’t discount thrift stores, where you can scour thrift stores for both vintage and name-brand items that are worth a lot more than the small price tags seen at Goodwill—all it takes is a little bit of know-how and a willingness to look to find the best deals.

Also, don’t forget about websites like overstock that carry nice items for less and eBay, where you can bid on brand new or gently used clothing items. Just remember to set a budget to stick to it. Living like a king is great, but only if you don’t go into debt to do it. Bidding online can get to be a bit addicting. It always helps to remember that unless it’s an extremely rare item, someone will sell something similar to it in no time.

Fancy Restaurants:

A few years ago, some five star restaurants would simply be out of a “peasant’s” price range, but with the birth of coupons and secret shopper programs, you can easily try out some of the best restaurants in the world for far less than you could have ever imagined.

As a secret shopper, you can try out restaurants and eat for free as long as you rate their service and their meals. With companies like Groupon you can buy coupons to dozens of restaurants and get your meals approximately 50% off.

Drive A Fancy Car:

I can’t promise that you can afford a fancy car, but that doesn’t mean you can’t drive one. Have a fun day out with your friends. If you’re a guy, dress up in a suit with your nicest tie or bow tie. Be sure to have your shirt and pants pressed. (Wrinkly clothes don’t give off the best impression.) Ladies, definitely go for your nicest heels and a pretty dress. If it’s cold were you live, make sure to wear a nice peacoat or leather jacket, as opposed to a sweatshirt with your favorite team on it. I usually shop around at places like Marshalls or Ebay to get the best deals on clothing. The brands are not as important as how well they fit you and look on your shape. Once you’ve picked your you outfit and are dressed to impress, go out and test-drive some beauties.

Travel First Class:

There’s a whole movement of people called “churners” who use credit card points to fly free around the world. They also get free nights at some of the world’s best hotels and upgrades wherever they go. The best part is that most of these churners are normal people who just learned how be really smart about their credit cards.

In order to master this, you have to have good self-control and great credit. Then, you have to be able to do the research required to understand the risks of being a churner, which could involve negative hits to your credit due to the amount of credit cards they apply for. Many churners apply for several credit cards all in the same day to avoid too many inquires on their credit. They also plan it out, so that they can reapply for other cards every 3 months. In order to receive these points you will have to spend anywhere from $1,000-$10,000 in a specified amount of time, so you’ll need to do your research and find out if your expenses actually merit getting a specific card. Spending needlessly just to get points defeats the purpose of getting free flights, so always stay within your means.

There are many resources online where you can go to find out how to travel in style. Join a forum online or read blogs written by churners to get insider tips on how the experts do it best. Some of our favorites are Milepoint.com and Flyertalk.com

Having A Crown:

Well, this last one might not be as easy as the previous items for us to attain. However, if you are smart with your money, utilize sales, shop around, clip coupons, and scour thrift stores, you can definitely save up for a crown in no time.

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The Journey to Greatness Is Never Too Late To Start!

The act of thinking big is a very good one but what is the essence of thinking big without taking actions to becoming great?

Many people go through their whole life saying that I didn’t have a good start to my life so that is why I shall remain where I am. The mistake that many people make is that they don’t seem to be aware that the beginning of their life does not determine their end. People say I did not do good before so that is why I am not doing much with my life, so what does that mean, you have just given up halfway into your life, it does not matter what you didn’t do yesterday, you have the power to change your life right at this moment, you can start right now to take your life in a whole new direction.

It is never too late to start on a new journey and take your life to the heights of greatness, the choice is yours how you want to live your life. The limited life is the one which most people choose to confine themselves to because that is the easy path, and most people are just lazy and lack ambition. Is that you? are you just going to cower away and let your life not amount to much as the masses do?. What is so hard in living an average life, a life filled with no adventure and exploration into the unknown, cowards die a thousand deaths, but the courageous die only once. Step it up right now, this day is the day that you demand more from yourself and say I will take my life to new heights, I am determined to create the life of my dreams and I am the one who shall make it happen.

Believe in yourself and take action today, too many people stop living after a certain age, they just live life like a robot doing the same things days after day, not doing much with their days but living to pay their bills. What a timid existence that is, what a waste of one’s potential it is to resign yourself to mediocrity.

It does not matter how old you may be, you can start to create a better life for yourself, acquire the right knowledge and take the right action steps so that you can achieve your goals that you have set out for yourself. It seems as though the majority of people do not have any goals for their life and that is why they are just floating around aimlessly in life, if you do not know in which direction you want to go then any direction will suffice. Is that how you are living? take a good look at your life, where are your heading? what are you doing with your days? what are your daily habits resulting in? are you heading towards success or failure? and are you heading towards average or greatness?

It does not matter about the life you have lived so far, you have everything within you to live life to your highest ideal, there is this misconception that successful people have something special about them, and that is why they succeed, but that is not the case, successful people set goals, they make plans, they invest in themselves, they put self-education over entertainment and they take daily consistent action. That is what separates the successful from the unsuccessful, the relentless pursuit to be the best that they can be.

You are more than you appear to be, you can grow and develop yourself with the acquisition of the right knowledge and action, and your mind will awaken and come to the realisation that you have what it takes to become successful. The beginning stages of awakening require that you have faith in the journey and yourself, set big goals, you will grow into them, take giant steps of actions and make success your responsibility, if you do not you will be confined to the life of the majority who live the slave life, trapped in someone else’s dream because they never had the courage to get started on their own dreams, is that how you want your life to be?

5 Steps to Begin Your Path to Greatness

Do you look at your life and know there is something greater for you? Do you have ideas on what that may be, but can’t quite seem to put them in motion or make them happen?

Feeling stuck is quite common. Many times, we have thoughts and dreams of what we want in life but they never happen because sadly, they only stay as thoughts and dreams inside of us, and our mindset holds us back from going forward.

The good news is, at any moment in time, we have the ability to start taking action toward creating the life we want.

Here are five steps to get started:

1. Celebrate Your Success
Before you begin working toward your goals and more greatness in life, be sure to acknowledge all you’ve accomplished already. Write down all the successes you’ve already achieved and all the awesomeness that you are today. This practice will direct your thinking to a positive place. And once you’re in that positive groove with your thoughts, it will lead you to make better choices and take better actions toward your greatness.

2. Create Your True Vision
Many times we live based on others’ expectations or we stay stuck in a particular place because it’s our safety zone. For instance, like in a career we’ve been in because we’re climbing the ladder and feel like we’re too far ahead to make a change – or in a dead-end relationship that isn’t going anywhere but you’d rather stay in it and be miserable than start over again. Own your path. It can be hard to do, but allow yourself to get out of your head (or stop listening to what others’ want for you) and focus on your heart and what it’s telling you. Look within yourself deeply, and decide what you want and what’s true for YOU.

3. Take Action 
There’s no better time to creating the life you want than right this very moment! Timing is never perfect, and to get started, you just need to put one foot in front of the other. Baby steps are key! Be realistic about your goals. If you want to start going to the gym, going from 0 days a week to 5 days a week right away is extreme, and setting yourself up by biting more than you can chew typically doesn’t result in success, but failure. Instead, start slow and go once or twice a week. After you do that for a while and get into a nice groove, up it to more days. Over time, you will build toward your goal by taking realistic, smaller steps to get there.

4. Stay Persistent
Even if you’re working hard towards your goal and there seem to be bumps in the road – don’t give up. These bumps help you grow and make you stronger each and every time you get past them. So if you’re trying to eat better, and you have a day where you aren’t sticking to plan, don’t throw everything out the window and give up. Be kind to yourself and accept that moment, and then focus back to your vision and keep moving forward. Little by little, those moments of persistence will guide you to creating more greatness in your life.

5. Have the Right Support 
Don’t do it alone. Enlist in the right support to hold you accountable and cheer you on in the process. It could be a friend, a family member, or significant other who you trust and who have the results you want. Or, a 3rd party like a mentor or coach can give you an outsider perspective. Whoever it may be, having someone you can confide in and have as a sounding board on your journey will be just what you need to keep you on track and celebrate with you as you work toward the life you dream of.

Enjoy your journey to greatness!

 

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The Differences Between Love and Lust

Firstly we want to look into what love is all about.

Love is involuntary.  Brain science tells us it’s a drive like thirst.  It’s a craving for a specific person. It’s normal, natural to “lose control” in the early stage of romance.  Love, like thirst, will make you do strange things,  But knowledge is power.  It’s a natural addiction and treating it like an addiction can help you. We were built to fall in love and if I may ask: Are YOU in love?

The ancient Greeks called love “the madness of the gods.”  Modern psychologists define it as it the strong desire for emotional union with another person.  But what, actually, is love.  It means so many different things to different people. Songwriters have described it, “Whenever you’re near, I hear a symphony.” Shakespeare said, “Love is blind and lovers cannot see.”  Aristotle said, “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”

THE OVERALL HYPOTHESIS

But we think that romance is one of three basic brain systems that evolved for mating and reproduction:

The sex drive or lust—the craving for sexual gratification–evolved to enable you to seek a range of potential mating partners.   After all, you can have sex with someone you aren’t in love with.  You can even feel the sex drive when you are driving in your car, reading a magazine or watching a movie.  Lust is not necessarily focused on a particular individual.

Romantic love, or attraction—the obsessive thinking about and craving for a particular person–evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time.  As Kabir, the Indian poet put it:  “The lane of love is narrow; there is room for only one.”

Attachmentthe feeling of deep union with a long-term partner–evolved to enable you to remain with a mate at least long enough to rear a single child through infancy together as a team—although many of us remain together much longer, and enjoy the benefits of life with a partner even when there is no goal to have children.

These three brain systems–and feelings–interact in many ways to create our myriad forms of loving.

We began our studies with attraction.  Whether it’s called romantic love, obsessive love, passionate love, or infatuation, men and women of every era and every culture have been affected by this irresistible power.

The intensity of romantic love tends to last somewhere from six months to two years before turning into attachment in most relationships.  Romance is where love begins, and it seems to have the most extreme effect on human behavior.

Behavioral traits of early stage romantic love:

  • Special meaning: the romantic partner is the center of the world, and you like anything they like
  • Intense energy and it’s hard to sleep
  • Loss of appetite
  • Mood swings
  • Separation anxiety
  • Craving
  • Intense motivation for emotional union
  • Possessive
  • Intrusive thinking

Having looked at what love is; We want to look at what lust is all about.

Lust is a craving, it can take any form such as the lust for sexuality, lust for money or the lust for power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for food as distinct from the need for food.

Lust holds a critical position in the philosophical underpinnings of Buddhist reality. It is named in the second of the Four Noble Truths, which are that

  1. Suffering (dukkha) is inherent in all life.
  2. Suffering is caused by lust.
  3. There is a natural way to eliminate all suffering from one’s life.
  4. The Noble Eightfold Path is that way.

Lust is the, attachment to, identification with, and passionate desire for certain things in existence, all of which relate to the form, sensation, perception, mentality, and consciousness that certain combinations of these things engender within us. Lust is thus the ultimate cause of general imperfection and the most immediate rootcause of a certain suffering.

The passionate desire for either non-existence or for freedom from lust is a common misunderstanding. For example, the headlong pursuit of lust (or other “deadly sin“) in order to fulfill a desire for death is followed by a reincarnation accompanied by a self-fulfilling karma, resulting in an endless wheel of life, until the right way to live, the right worldview, is somehow discovered and practiced. Beholding an endless knot puts one, symbolically, in the position of the one with the right worldview, representing that person who attains freedom from lust.

In existence are four kinds of things that engender the clinging: rituals, worldviews, pleasures, and the self. The way to eliminate lust is to learn of its unintended effects and to pursue righteousness as concerns a worldview, intention, speech, behavior, livelihood, effort, mindfulness, and concentration, in the place where lust formerly sat.

Signs To Differentiate Lust And Not Love.

If you’re currently dating someone but just can’t figure out whether you’re actually compatible or if it’s just butt loads of sexual chemistry, it can be a bloody confusing time. Matchmaker and heartbreak coach Sarah Louise Ryan explains there are six very obvious signs that’s it’s lust and not love. Here’s how to tell it’s not the real deal and save yourself a whole world of wasted time.

1. You want to know everything and all at once

If the person you’re seeing is really meant to be your next significant other – then what’s the rush? After all, all good things come to those who wait. If it’s lust, you’ll try to be all in – and fast – because you won’t be able to wait to get your next fix of those neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin (they’re what make you feel really good). If it’s love, then you’ll be far more interested in a slow-burning romance rather than blowing off some steam together.

2. You struggle to find commonality

The chemistry may seem to be bang on and will feel like friction, like it’s electric and you just can’t get enough of being in the throws of passion or talking about it. You’ll be addicted to the highs and focus any convo outside of the bedroom on how great your sex is. Yet you can’t find any other commonality, so the conversation just leads down the path to talking about your physical passion (and not much else).

3. You’ve got different outlooks on the world, but you think that’s ok

You like this person – they’re attractive, you feel comfortable in their company, and you want to hang out all the time. But the fact you both have different outlooks on the world and your lifestyles aren’t quite the same doesn’t matter, right? Nope, not a chance. For example, one of you might prefer a winter getaway to a stint in the sunshine, or maybe you both support different football teams – this is fine. What I’m talking about is getting down to the nitty-gritty of values, family orientation, your goals, ambitions, health, fitness and inevitably what you both do to make the world a better place. If you find that there isn’t any alignment and you’re not on the same page about a lot of things, then quite frankly, you’re looking at a whole lot of lust and not much else.

4. It’s not a seamless connection, but it’s exciting

Sometimes ‘getting’ each other feels a tad like swimming against a micro tide but you’re ok with that. The chemistry is there so you think that the compatibility might come in time. Well, it won’t. When you connect with someone that’s right for you, you’ll go through the stages of falling in love which of course include lust. But you will want more as you become attracted to their personality and want to attach to them and only them. Make sure you’re falling hook, line and sinker – not just sinking in lust.

5. You don’t communicate the same way

If you both seem to be constantly seeking the attention of the other, not feeling satisfied or safe in the knowledge that this is it, that it’s something set to last then it’s just lust. If it feels like clutching at straws for one or both of you, then you’re not in it to win it for love. Perhaps you find yourself feeling unsure where this is going, how the other person feels or what on earth is going on? The right person for you wants you to feel at ease because they want to feel at ease too.

6. Everything else falls by the wayside

If you’re attracted to someone and feel completely comfortable with dropping everything of significance around you, then I’m afraid to say that it’s lust and not set to be love. Things of significance can be anything from friends and family, to your hobbies, interests and work. Love comes from compatibility, and that’s based on a deep understanding between the two of you of what’s important, what keeps you ticking and the knowledge that you’re both in for a marathon, not a sex-induced sprint.

It’s tough in the early days to see what on earth is what between chemistry and compatibility, and what it is exactly that sets lust aside from love. As long as you trust your gut, stay true to your values and really know what you want in a relationship, you’ll find that only the people on the same page as you will stick around. In short, lust is for right now, and we all know that when it comes to love everything should just feel right.

 

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Principles to Successful Marriage and Happy Home.

Successful couples are practical, knowledgeable and full of abilities. They read books, attend seminars, browse Web articles and observe other successful couples. However, successful couples will tell you that they also learn by experience.

The following are the principles to successful Marriage:

  1. Happiness is not the most important thing: Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness will come and go. Successful couples learn to intentionally do things that will bring happiness back when life pulls it away.
  2. Couples discover the value in just showing up: When things get tough and couples don’t know what to do, they need to hang in there and be there for their spouse. Time has a way of helping couples work things out by providing opportunities to reduce stress and overcome challenges.
  3. If you do what you always do, you will get same result: Wise couples have learned that you have to approach problems differently to get different results. Often, minor changes in approach, attitude and actions make the biggest difference in marriage.
  4. Your attitude does matter: Changing behavior is important, but so is changing attitudes. Bad attitudes often drive bad feelings and actions.
  5. Change your mind, Change your marriage: How couples think and what they believe about their spouse affects how they perceive the other. What they expect and how they treat their spouse matters greatly.
  6. The grass is greenest where you water it: Successful couples have learned to resist the grass is greener myth — i.e., someone else will make me happy. They have learned to put their energy into making themselves and their marriage better.
  7. You can change your marriage by changing yourself: Veteran couples have learned that trying to change their spouse is like trying to push a rope — almost impossible. Often, the only person we can change in our marriage is ourselves.
  8. Love is a verb not just a feeling: Everyday life wears away the “feel good side of marriage.” Feelings, like happiness, will fluctuate. But, real love is based on a couple’s vows of commitment: “For better or for worse” — when it feels good and when it doesn’t.
  9. Marriage is often about fighting the battle between your ears: Successful couples have learned to resist holding grudges and bringing up the past. They remember that they married an imperfect person — and so did their spouse.
  10. A crisis doesn’t mean the marriage is over: Crises are like storms: loud, scary and dangerous. But to get through a storm you have to keep driving. A crisis can be a new beginning. It’s out of pain that great people and marriages are produced.
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10 Common Breast Problems And Pain All Women Confront In Their Lives
May 25, 2018
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Young girls first common sign of puberty is her breast development. Breasts are usually small and tender bumps under both nipples, which gets bigger over the time. In a women’s life, they confront breast problems at an early age where one side breast can develop faster than the other side. Hence, one side small and the other side a little larger is very normal. Breast problems and pain are common and generally caused by hormonal changes which occur during the menstrual cycle.

 

Taking the contraceptive pill or hormone replacement therapy can also cause breast problems and pain. Some women experience breast pain every day, this pain is commonly connected with shoulder, neck and armpit pain. In many cases, it may be critical enough and may need some form of treatment.

Some of the common breast problems and pain which all women confront in their life are as follows:

1. Hormonal changes

Hormonal changes cause breast problem and pain from swelling, lumpiness or tenderness of the breast. Many women experience such changes as hormone levels affect their breast tissue during their menstrual cycle. They normally happen before or after a period. Women who take contraceptive pills for hormonal treatment or hormone replacement therapy may also confront these changes.

 

2. Cysts

Cysts occur when fluid gets trapped in the breast tissue. It’s very common in women aged 35 to 50 and normally they disappear with menopause. Cysts may feel soft or firm and may sometimes pain when you touch. More than one cyst may grow at the same time. Though they are harmless, in order to make sure that it is not cancer, any lump that can be felt, confront it with the doctor. Though the fluid in cysts can be drained by a fine needle, but can sometimes come back after draining.

3. Fibroadenomas

They are harmless lumps of glandular and fibrous tissue, which feels firm and rubbery and have a smooth texture. Fibroadenomas are very common in women aged 20 to 40. Their cause is unknown, but they are painless or become tender before periods. It normally grows during pregnancy. Just as other lumps, get it checked by your doctor.

 

4. Other Common Lumps

An injury or previous breast surgery from which you get a hardened scar tissue, such as a biopsy, can cause lumps or lumpiness and pain. When silicone is injected into the breasts for cosmetic purpose, which can sometimes harden and create lumps. Many women can literally feel their ribs through their breast tissue. Always make your doctor aware of your full breast problems history, whenever you get your lumps checked.

 

5. Nipple Discharge

Discharge from the nipple is common and not an issue, and may not be due to cancer or other diseases. But do confront your doctor. Having bloodstained or watery discharge, maybe from only one breast, would require some tests. Leaks from nipples during breastfeeding is common, even after you’ve stopped feeding and will gradually stop. But in case it doesn’t stop and the color or thickness of the discharge changes, see your doctor.

 

6. Sore, Cracked And Itchy Nipples

Some breast problems like a sore, cracked or itchy nipples is due to breastfeeding. The skin around the nipple can split and will pain. When these changes develop if you are not breastfeeding or pregnant, then the doctor can recommend some treatment.

 

7. Inverted Nipples

Many women have a nipple or nipples that are turned in or inverted. This is very common for them. Nipples turned in or inverted can develop after breastfeeding has been stopped or while you are pregnant. If the nipple turns in for the first time, then get it checked by your doctor, because this is an early sign of a breast cancer under the nipples.

 

8. Extra Nipples

Many women are born with extra nipples, but it does not mean their risk of breast cancer is increased. Extra nipples can only be removed by a doctor if the person does not wish to have it. They can develop the same problems as normal nipples.

 

9. Eczema And Duct Ectasia

Breast infection does not cause breast cancer, but if you develop any inflammation or infection in your nipples, which could be a sign of eczema (a common skin problem) or a condition such as a duct ectasia, which occurs when a duct fills with waste matter from cells. There will be a sticky yellow-green to brown discharge, which can become a problem, and treatment is urgent.

 

10. Mastitis

This is a painful inflammation of the breast caused by bacterial infection and is often associated with breastfeeding and usually, develops 2 to 6 weeks after giving birth. The breast becomes red, hot, swollen and causes pain. Women who are not breastfeeding cam also have mastitis, like women with diabetes or women with poor immune systems. Recurrent mastitis is often associated with smoking. Mastitis can be treated with hot or cold packs and sometimes with antibiotics.

Take doctors advice on this.

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How to Date Men Without Compromising On Your Values.

So many people feel they have to compromise to find love, but it is not the case. For a long-lasting, healthy relationship, you cannot compromise the core of who you are. You are a proud feminist and you should never be ashamed of that. In fact, contrary to your past experiences, there are lot of men who are proud feminists themselves.

The general rule of thumb about finding love involves finding common interests. As a feminist, there are various ways to find out if you share any common viewpoints. The news is packed with various issues; they can be playfully asked about, and what may seem like a general discussion reveals a lot about their opinions. Religion and politics tend to be a no-go area on first dates, but mentally stimulating conversations are best for all dates. If you are looking for a long-term commitment, shallow conversation tells nothing and do not engage either of you, so you will be bored and easily irritable.

Yet, do you think you are being too harsh? Yes, there are people with misogynistic views, but what if they simply have traditional views which do not negate or contrast to feminism? The true measure is the strictness to which they hold on to those views. Does he care about perception? What does he believe has to be gender roles? Is he able to respect your preferences and needs as an individual? Does he treat men and women you’ve met, such as waiter and waitresses, differently? How does he react to things that ‘challenge’ his masculinity?

Finding that ‘perfect’ partner is hard, harder still when you are very aware of what you want. Whoever you end up with, it should never be by compromise; in the long run, you would both be unhappy and bringing children into it would be worse. Values and principles that matter to you should always be talked about. They cannot wait till it is serious before bringing out the ‘deal-breakers’. So how you would like to raise your children, your opinions on gender roles, and so on, are not something you should ever feel like you need to hide to be with someone, you just have to be patient to find the person whose core views, match closely to yours. I do hope it all works out for you.

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