Why it so hard sometimes to apologize for bad behavior?

From a very young age, when acted inappropriately, we used to hear that we must to apologize. Not always it was easy to apologize, right? We grew up, but even now sometimes it is complicated to apologize and to forgive. The word “sorry” is really miraculous and at the same time, it is also one of the most difficult spoken words.

For some of us even recognition of small mistakes means a great internal struggle. After all, everyone makes mistakes overstepping the limits of the other person, offending others or otherwise improper acting. Usually at these moments we feel ashamed, we feel discomfort and would like to leave as soon as possible such situation, saying barely audible, and, most likely, and not completely perceived apology.

However, in most cases, it should be much more than a simple silently said sorry. Perception of own guilt and its acceptance, taking responsibility for own deeds during a conversation with someone you hurt, can improve relationships, to mitigate the situation.

Most often, people do not want to admit they have made mistakes, they seek to ignore, displace it from their consciousness, but, unfortunately, often unsuccessfully. The inability to apologize is associated with the defense of the person, his pride, and perhaps even fragile self-confidence. The man denies his guilt, trying to get rid of the responsibility of the guilt, because it all brings to the light all his flaws, fears and his character. For such people to admit own guilt and mistake can require significant internal resources.

The most important thing is that would be said a sincere apology, appropriate intonation and understanding how feels the person who is hurt. Empathy in apology process is particularly important and can help you achieve your goal – to get relief.

In no way I do not propose to justify yourself while accusing the same man that you hurt. Also, no need to look for excuses for your behavior and understate the consequences.

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