I sometimes think that we, mothers, have grown in high expectations for ourselves, after the birth of a child, we are having huge conflicts with ourselves. At least I had some expectations: I wanted to do a lot of things, to be perfect mother, wife, housewife, even not to fall out of the labor market, and to be engaged in some activities being a young mother. Like to grow a baby is to do nothing at all. I realized that many of us: we, our husbands, friends, environment grew up in a big bubble of expectations of our parents. They have put much hope to us in order for us to achieve something. People have grown up the children at all the times, but not all could afford the big opportunities, finance, projects, travel, and cars.
Therefore, all this seems to have become aspiration – what determines the value or puts stamp “all this is an achievement”. Therefore, we measure the value of ourselves only by career, achievements, projects, etc. And in having and growing a child we do not see such a high value. It goes without saying, it is like nothing special.
I am glad that bringing up the child changed my thinking. I am not saying that I would not fight with my ambitions to prove something to someone, but child-raising issues not hurt me anymore. But I agree – it did not work completely in the beginning of the birth of child. It was a long road to this understanding that my children are the biggest value I ever had. I do not say that having children makes us automatically omniscient about this topic, but having children makes us understand other mothers are going through.
Staying with the children and growing them is not only amazing experience that teaches us a lot, but it also requires a lot of work. All the moms and dads, who stay at home with their kids, sacrifice a lot for the children grow up much loved, good and strong people.
Parents who sit at home with the children sacrifice their dreams, career, the willingness to overpower the world, they are putting the children in the first place, and this is what we call unconditional love. And children are also growing, and it is never too late to study, to improve, and to climb the career ladder and so on. Children and their growing is a big responsibility, because they are our future.
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Congratulations for being a good mother! Yes, it is great to be a mother, to sacrifice everything even your own career or personal advancement just to see a child being raised well and have a good life ahead. And you are right, it is unconditional love!
More than being a good professional one must know how to raise his or her own child in a proper way. That is the first duty of a parent towards their children. You seem to have done it the right way feel good for you. If a parent does is he will not have any regrets in his or her mind at a latter date in life. Society is built on expectations and the earlier generation too had their share of this. Now things have become too materialistic and everything is being measured by things which can be bought by many and that seems to define ones status in life.
This attitude is very wrong and very damaging to many relationships and society as a whole. People should be aware of this aspect and see that being a good human is the most important in life and not materialistic things. These things will come and will go at any point of time but a good nature and attitude will never leave the individual. People who have knowledge are not being respected and that is also a trend in modern society. Wise people are called fools. And the ones who have nothing to show but only money are being praised. This is ironic and these are some of the contradictions which we are facing in the society.