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7 unobvious gadgets that can be useful for new parents

There are a lot of things that parents have to buy before their baby come in to the World: crib, changing table, stroller, infant car seat, skin care products, clothes, toys… All of this baby products are necessary and helpful. However, there are also few other things that can be very useful, but new parents usually don’t think about them.

For someone who don’t have a child yet, these unobvious gadgets may seem unnecessary and unhandy, but in reality they can be a lifesavers for new parents, struggling with new responsibilities.

Here’s a list of 7 gadgets that will help parents with their infant and toddler.

Kettle with temperature control

This product may be really useful for preparing baby formula. With this item you won’t need to check or try if the water temperature is fine (and not too hot for the baby), you will be able to set the proper temperature on the control panel. The best products in this type usually offer 6 different temperature settings. There are also kettles with built-in thermometers so you could heat the water to any temperature you want.

Portable changing pad

This thing may be a lifesaver not only for parent who travel a lot, but also for those who are often out and about with their baby. Portable changing pad is made of waterproof fabric and has few storage pockets where we can put few diapers, diaper rash cream and a bag for used diapers. The whole pad can be rolled up into a small package – which is light and compact. The best part of portable changing pads is the price – they usually cost less than $20.

Diaper can

Parents have different opinions on this product. Some of them consider it as very useful, while others think it is an unnecessary expense. However, this item can be very useful. Sometimes parents have to change a diaper even 10 or 15 a day! If you throw used diapers in the trash can with other rubbish, the basket will quickly become full and you will need to take out the garbage even 2 times a day. Besides, used diapers in the trash can don’t smell very bad… Thanks to a diaper can this smell is kept shielded inside, rubbish are segregated and you can save time. Moreover, this solution is also more hygienic. This gadget can make parents life easier.

Electric Breast Pump

Electric breast pump is a lifesaver for new moms and it is so much better than manual one. This item can be very useful for women who have first child and don’t have any experience in breast feeding. It can be also excellent gift for baby shower!

Baby swing

Babies love cuddling, rocking and swinging. It’s a great way to comfort and sooth them. Rocking baby in arms can be pretty tiring for parents, that’s why electric baby swings are so great. Parents can use baby swing to put baby to sleep, to sooth colic and fussy infant, comfort teething baby or just use it as a safe and comfortable space for playtime.


Some parent use if during winter when the heating is working, other parents use it all year round. It’s very useful because thanks to it baby doesn’t wake up hot, sweaty and thirsty few times at night. It’s a MUST HAVE to provide baby with peaceful sleep.

Bath tub with stand

Many new parents at the beginning put the bath tub on the floor and during bathing the baby they have to bend and lift a lot. It’s completely unnecessary. Bath tub stand is a brilliant gadget! With this thing parent can bathe their baby in a comfortable position. This item is very useful, especially for moms who had C-section and can’t bend and lift right after the birth.

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It had been said that;

– “Two career relationships work best when one partner is more advanced than the other.”

– “Two career relationships work best when one partner is less involve in his or her career.”

In the past more men were likely to agree with these statements, however, today there is convergence of attitude about two-career relationships. In today’s world men are less likely to agree with those statements than they would have done about 30 years ago, while women are more likely to agree with them.


Young men graduating today are more egalitarian in their views and young women less so, perhaps because the latter are more realistic. Today, men and women are more likely to share the same values about what it takes to make dual- career work, compare to the past. There is greater solidarity among working parents and therefore more flexibility about the roles that men and women can legitimately play in the society. There is now a greater sense of share responsibility.


Many young men have realized they have to do more at home than their fathers did. They are willing to take on the responsibilities at home.


A survey was Carried out to ask men and women to indicate how strongly they agree with the following statements:

– It is easier for men to combine the demands of work and family.

– Pursuing a demanding career will make it difficult for me to be an attentive spouse or parent.

From the survey, there was no difference between men and women in the way they answered those questions at that time, however, after some years, we find that woman are more likely than men to agree with those statements. While it used to be that women had aspirations for hierarchical advancement that were lower than those held by young men, today those aspirations are the same for men and women – working parents. Men and women today are more likely than the previous generation to share the same values about what it takes to make working parents relationships to work.

What is your views on this?

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It’s sound innocent, but That’s not fair

It Might Sound Innocent, but Don’t Let Your Kids Say This Phrase.

There is a phrase in our vocabulary that nobody has to teach us to say. It’s a phrase kids say very quickly in childhood. And it’s a phrase you should ban in your household:

“That’s not fair.”

It sounds innocent enough. Everybody wants life to be fair, right?

But this is an insidious phrase, revealing a sin so bankrupt it goes back to the very beginning, back to the Fall of Man. It’s essentially what Eve was told by the serpent. “You’re getting a raw deal. You’re entitled to more. God is holding out on you.”

If you read Paul’s account of the Fall in Romans, you’ll discover that it was this attitude—ingratitude and entitlement—that lit the match of sin, plunging Creation into darkness. And it’s a surefire way to test your own heart, to see where the idols are.

Maybe it seems a bit melodramatic to bring all of this up to my four children, ages 2, 4, 5 and 9. But I fear that if I allow them to embed entitlement in their little hearts right now, their first reaction to someone else getting an extra dessert, a gift from a friend, a new pair of shoes, is “That’s not fair.”

And so we don’t allow this in our home. And when it comes up, my kids know they are in for some form of punishment, which usually involves a long-winded soliloquy from Dad that goes something like this:

First, you are right in saying that life isn’t fair.

Because it’s not fair that little children go to bed hungry this very night, having eaten nothing but a handful of rice, and here you’ve just had seconds on french fries. It’s not fair that some boys and girls grow up without a mother and father, orphaned by a war they didn’t start. It’s not fair that some children won’t even see many birthdays, succumbing to diseases we treat with immunizations and routine trips to the doctor.

So if there is a complaining about being fair, it’s you and me and all of us in prosperous, free America on the other side of “Not fair.” So in the line of people complaining about a bad lot in life, we are several zip codes away from the front.

Most of the world is pointing to us and saying, “Life isn’t fair,” and they have a much better case.

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Make your child fell better.

It’s something all of us try to do every day..

Being a parent can be challenging and rewarding at the same time, but seeing your child sad or hurt is heartbreaking.  Our parental instinct is to fix it all and make it better.  We tend to distract the problem with lollies, toys, junk food, a quick fix, but does it fix the true issue or cause your child bigger issues later on?

Simple answer, yes, this will cause issues down the track.  Comfort eating, binge drinking, gambling, drugs and solitude all come to mind..how many of you and people you know do these things for comfort?

As parents, should we be incouraging this behaviour or helping our children work through their feeling from talking about it and pysical comfort.

What are your ways on dealing with these issues?

I have 5 children of my own and for me, giving my child a sweet treat to help wipe away their tears always comes to mind first, and then i remind myself that this has not proven helpful to me and i don’t want that for my children.

The other week, after basketball, my eldest son Malic, who is 11yrs was so upset.  As we left the stadium and headed to the car, i could see he was sad about something, i asked him if he was okay, and he cried, telling me that he was hurt from not feeling included in the team.  I should let you know that he subs for this team.  Driving home, all i wanted to do was drive thru McDonalds and make him feel better, but i didn’t.  Instead, we talked about it and i reinforced how great of an opputunity being a sub for the team was and it was ok to feel this way.  I thanked him for sharing his feelings with me and hugged him many times.

I let him then be alone with his thoughts, whilst checking in on him every hour to make sure he was ok.  We also spoke to the coach, so he could confront the issue and really work through it.

I believe that this will help my children really grow as a person and learn about who they are.  He still wants to sub for this team and continues to be the best that he can be, and i believe it’s because he spoke about what was bothering him..

If we as parents can all encourage this behaviour with our childdren, then maybe depression will be a thing of the past.  Listen to your children, they are amazing little people with amazingly intelligent minds.

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Little Children Must Not be Given Electronic Gadgets

Child psychologists say parents should not give their children electronic gadgets like cellphone, tablets, i-pad or other modern gadgets which they use for playing games.

They say, a child can have a cellphone or gadget when he is already 14 years old. This is to protect them from online scams, and other unfavorable sites which should be seen by adults only. Some of these sites are porn sites, etc. which “pollutes” the mind of the children. There could be some safety measures to prevent this like putting lock codes, but children could be so intelligent enough to unlock it.

Children might think that whatever they see online is the right thing to do. They could not think well, or they can be exposed to negative influences like not-so-good friends on Facebook, and other social media sites.

It is said that children who are exposed to gadgets at very early age tend to be impatient; they want things done the easiest way as do an iphone or smartphone does. With just a swipe or a click, they can easily get what they want, or answer their questions instantly. Aside early from this, psychologists say that early exposure to gadgets make the child lazy, or tend to rely on instant results instead of trying hard or exerting his full potentials to achieve something.

This is the reason why I do not like parents who give their children those electronic gadgets instead of giving them educational toys that can help develop their potentials. They should also allow them to mingle with other children to improve their emotional quotient, or to make them well-rounded. They could also learn how to share toys, to be considerate of the feelings of other children; to express themselves, or to be sociable, instead of being aloof or sitting alone in front of a computer all day.

Children should experience to play on playgrounds, to trample on the grass or dried leaves, to feel the ground on their feet. But they should be supervised closely by their parents, guardians, or caregivers.

Some parents justify giving their children electronic gadgets saying they are too busy to supervise them;but they should be creative enough to allot some time for their children; to play with them; to see how their children grow instead of letting babysitters do it for them.

Children will always treasure the days when their mothers or fathers take care of them. They should be cared for by humans, not by robots or electronic gadgets.

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Harmful phrases that we say without thinking to daughters.

It is said that the words we say to our children later become their inner voice. Therefore, when speaking with the children we should weigh every sentence. Let parents treat by words rather than crush self-confidence and encourage to plunge into damaging relationships.

How often parents and especially mother say to her daughter: “He behaves so because he likes you”. If to delve in memory, almost every girl will remember such situation when coming home complained to adults that a classmate or neighbor took her items, pushed her, named not in nice words, and relatives only smiled explaining that “he just shows his sympathy.”

Maybe this time they guessed the boy’s motives, but in such way they sent the wrong message to daughter. Indirectly put into her head, that all delicate feelings are accompanied by the opposite sex abuse (physical or psychological), encourage to keep contact with the perpetrator and suffer silently. One of the consequences can be very sad – adult girl will stuck in harmful relationships with violent partners.

The same applies to adults that still joke “if beats, means love”. Do we really think so, and we want our daughters believe it?

“This is not women affair”. We live in the twenty-first century, when women create spaceships, and men take parental vacation and stay at home to take care of the baby. Separating works or hobbies into “male” and “female”, we press daughters into frames and limit their professional choices in the future.

“I’m thick and ugly”. Not for nothing they say that children are a reflection of parents’ behavior. If mom every day before the mirror will try to hide the abdomen and mask even the smallest wrinkles, do not be surprised that her daughter will negatively talk about her appearance. Only by own example parents can teach to love he body and develop healthy self-confidence.


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Children need more games, not toys.

What kind of gifts like the children, that would uplift their imagination, thinking, creativity, emotional intelligence, in other words, that kids not only like it, but also gifts would train them. Of course, the most precious gift for both children and adults is being together, sincere attention, together lived experiences.

What is the influence of advertising for children gifts selection? I noticed that most children’s desired gifts are those that are associated with the most popular animated films and TV series. I believe that every child’s toy can develop creativity and social skills. Toys developing imagination and creativity teach adequately express feelings, develop empathy and develop children’s emotional intelligence.

The best gift for children always is the time spent together. The games best unite parents with children. It develops children’s thinking, emotional intelligence and social skills.

If your children have at home a lot of games, give the experience to children. Organize a treasure search in the backyard or in the park. Invite them to a movie theater or amusement park. Such entertainment and fun experience provides a lot of fun for both children and you, and will help to understand that you have more than imagined. In addition, you will create special memories of both yourself and your child, about which your child could speak when will grow up.

It seems to me that choosing presents to the children, the most important is not the size or cost of gifts, but how much effort you have put into choosing or preparation of the gift, how much gift shows that you care about your child.

A gift does not have to become the main focus of the festival, but only a symbol of how you appreciate each other. Therefore, remember that the best gifts are those that give the opportunity to reveal the child, develops his problem solving skills and critical thinking as well as an opportunity to reveal his imaginative and creativity. Therefore, children need more games, not toys. They need more attention, rather than objects.


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How Bad Is Health Care?

This is a true story.  I only change the names.

Desireen and her husband Errol were in New York City having arrived on student Visas from Jamaica.  Desireen became pregnant and obtained pre-natal care.

The doctors told her that she was very anemic and had vitamin deficiencies and gave her supplements.  When she was in her ninth month the Doctors strongly advised her not to try to breast feed as she could not give the baby the proper nourishment.

Errol was a medical student and read the results of her tests, and comprehended the situation and agreed with the physicians and Desireen had the baby and fed him formula.

A year later, despite taking supplements having a very good diet, she was still far below ‘normal’ standards, so when she became pregnant with their second child, there was no thought of breast feeding.

They graduated and returned to Jamaica with their children, and in a few years, Desireen was pregnant again. She obtain what is called ante-natal ‘care’.

Unlike the previous occasions in America where they took the various blood tests and advised her of her hemocrit and  vitamin levels, they didn’t say a word.  Desireen asked, and they told her she was ‘fine’.   She asked about anemia, about her calcium levels, and they assured her she was fine and could breast feed.

Desireen was not convinced that she had attained the required levels, and Errol and she went to a particular laboratory and did the tests and found that Desireen was anemic, had low calcium and various other vitamin deficiencies.

Yet, in Jamaica, these deficiencies were slapped away as minor and she was encouraged to breast feed.

They had a helper named Odette.  Errol took her for blood tests.   She had worse readings than Desireen.  She also had four kids she had breast fed.   One was bow legged, the other had lost teeth, and all of them were rather dull.   Odette said she had gone for ante-natal care.  That she was never told anything about anemia, about vitamins, about anything.  And was encouraged to breast feed, which she did.

Desireen did not breast feed her third child.  She gave her formula.

The questions that Errol had for the medical profession were slapped aside.   One doctor went so far as to tell him; “These people have no money, and further, how many could properly measure the formula anyway?”

An older doctor told Errol that when he was young, and the British were here, they gave out powdered milk free and many children were fed this instead of breast milk or along with breast milk.  That when he was growing up, health clinics were very pro-active.

Then, the British left, and within fifteen years the ‘breast is best’ campaign swamped the country and everyone was advised to breast feed, regardless of the condition of the mother.  Only where the mother was dead, critically ill, or had no milk, was formula prescribed.

Today, everyone is advised to breast feed, without any real testing or consideration of deficiencies.

I doubt Jamaica is the only country with this policy.


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Menstruation; women’s struggle every month

What is period?

Feminine cycle (men-STRAY-shuhn) is a lady’s month to month experience of bleeding. When you bleed, your body sheds the covering of the uterus (womb). Menstrual blood streams from the uterus through the little opening in the cervix and goes out of the body through the vagina. Most menstrual periods last from 3 to 5 days.

Feminine cycle, otherwise called a period or month to month, is the standard release of blood and mucosal tissue from the internal coating of the uterus through the vagina.The first period ordinarily starts in the vicinity of twelve and fifteen years old, a point in time known as menarche.However, periods may sporadically begin as youthful as eight years of age and still be viewed as typical. The normal age of the primary time frame is for the most part later in the creating scene, and prior in the created world. The normal time allotment between the primary day of one period and the principal day of the following is 21 to 45 days in young ladies, and 21 to 31 days in grown-ups (a normal of 28 days).Bleeding for the most part keeps going around 2 to 7 days. Feminine cycle quits happening after menopause, which as a rule happens in the vicinity of 45 and 55 years of age.Periods likewise quit amid pregnancy and normally don’t continue amid the underlying months of breastfeeding.

What is the menstrual cycle?

Whenever periods (monthly cycles) come frequently, this is known as the menstrual cycle. Having customary menstrual cycles is an indication that vital parts of your body are working regularly. The menstrual cycle gives critical body chemicals, called hormones, to keep you solid. It additionally readies your body for pregnancy every month. A cycle is numbered from the main day of 1 period to the primary day of the following time frame. The normal menstrual cycle is 28 days in length. Cycles can extend somewhere in the range of 21 to 35 days in grown-ups and from 21 to 45 days in youthful high schoolers.

The ascent and fall of levels of hormones amid the month control the menstrual cycle.

What occurs amid the menstrual cycle?

In the principal half of the cycle, levels of estrogen (the “female hormone”) begin to rise. Estrogen assumes an imperative part in keeping you solid, particularly by helping you to manufacture solid bones and to help keep them solid as you get more established. Estrogen likewise makes the coating of the uterus (womb) develop and thicken. This covering of the womb is a place that will support the developing life if a pregnancy happens. In the meantime the coating of the womb is growing, an egg, or ovum, in one of the ovaries begins to develop. At about day 14 of a normal 28-day cycle, the egg leaves the ovary. This is called ovulation.

After the egg has left the ovary, it goes through the Fallopian tube to the uterus. Hormone levels rise and help set up the uterine covering for pregnancy. A lady is destined to get pregnant amid the 3 days before or upon the arrival of ovulation. Remember, ladies with cycles that are shorter or longer than normal may ovulate before or after day 14.

A lady winds up noticeably pregnant if the egg is prepared by a man’s sperm cell and appends to the uterine divider. On the off chance that the egg is not prepared, it will break separated. At that point, hormone levels drop, and the thickened coating of the uterus is shed amid the menstrual period.

Day 1 begins with the principal day of your period. This happens after hormone levels drop toward the finish of the past cycle, flagging blood and tissues covering the uterus (womb) to separate and shed from the body. Draining keeps going around 5 days.

As a rule by Day 7, draining has halted. Paving the way to this time, hormones cause liquid filled pockets called follicles to create on the ovaries. Every follicle contains an egg.

Between Day 7 and 14, one follicle will proceed to create and achieve development. The coating of the uterus begins to thicken, sitting tight for a prepared egg to embed there. The coating is rich in blood and supplements.

Around Day 14 (in a 28-day cycle), hormones make the develop follicle burst and discharge an egg from the ovary, a procedure called ovulation.

Throughout the following couple of days, the egg goes down the fallopian tube towards the uterus. In the event that a sperm joins with the egg here, the prepared egg will proceed down the fallopian tube and connect to the covering of the uterus.

In the event that the egg is not treated, hormone levels will drop around Day 25. This flags the following menstrual cycle to start. The egg will break separated and be shed with the following time frame.

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Parents, Especially Mothers Should Take Care of Their Children

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In our country, it is a given role of women, of taking care of their children not only during formative or toddler years but up to even teenage years and above.

Mothers should see that their children are safe, and in these modern times, mothers should always keep an eye on their children because they might be victimized by “devils” luring on earth. Why did I say devils on earth? Because they personify one. Take the case of the culprit who raped a seven-years old girl.

The suspect was a sugarcane cutter/laborer, presumably he is part of transient laborers who come to the place where there are sugarcane to be harvested. They are hired by the sugarcane plantation owner or of the businessman who buys the raw material for sugar, the sugarcanes. They live temporarily in the field they are working on, staying there until they had harvested all the sugarcanes.

And so it was one Sunday morning, and the little girl reportedly went with his playmates, many of them boys, to bathe in a river near their house. It was unknown if the parents or the mother knew that the girl went to the river with other children.

Many people go to the river to bathe or wash clothes. Some people who do not have water system connected to their homes usually go to the river to wash clothes. I didn’t know if that river is clean or fit for bathing or for washing clothes. And since it is summer time, many people wanted to bathe in the river or sea to cool off.

Maybe the suspected laborer was there to take a bath or wash his clothes, being a Sunday and it is a rest day for most workers and employees. It could be he saw the girl bathing there. And if he is high on prohibited drug like methamphetamine hydrochloride locally known as shabu, he could had targeted the girl for his evil plan. It was not know how he was able to get the little girl. Like most stories of such abductions, the suspect usually offer food or money to the innocent victim, or will concoct stories saying he know the victim’s parents or he is a relative. So the girl, so innocent of the sinister plans, will go with the man.

It was unknown what time the rape happened. A passer-by just saw the girl lying in the sugarcane field late in the evening. She was alive, but reportedly bathed in blood.

This incident was told to me by my massage therapist. She said she was about to visit her house when she saw many men carrying bolos, wood, and other sharp objects and apparently looking for someone. She asked one of the men and she was told they were looking for a rape suspect.

If they had found the suspect, he could be dead from the beating by the mob. They were ready to put justice into their hands, as they say they had the reason to do so to an evil man who raped the innocent victim.

The suspect could had fled to some place to avoid the hands of the law. If the parents or anyone from that place have no picture or do not know the suspect, then he is free and could have do it again to another victim.

But the parents should also get the blame for that incident. Should they be cautious and responsible enough in keeping an eye on their children, or to their little girl, it could not happen. They should think that there are many drug addicts lurking everywhere, even in such rural area, especially there are so many transient laborers.

And a man in his right mind could not do that to a young girl. I hope he can be caught and be jailed for a long time.

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