Old age homes as we all know is a dwelling place for all senior citizens. I call it as a dwelling place because I feel it the place they must be just surviving rather than living their life. How can anyone live happily way from his home and loved ones among all strangers who no doubts can be good companions but cannot replace a family. Most of the people living there are doing so against their will. They have been forced to accept this destiny and only because of their own kids who now don’t want them in their lives.
It is one of the most unfortunate and unexpected destination to end up the last days of life. But the reality of present generation is making their number to increase day by day. This is a sad part of the present society where the kids no loner want to take up the responsibility of their own parents any longer. They tend to forget that it was their parents who brought them in this world and made endless sacrifices to make them what they are today.
Every parent values his child more than anything in this world. The efforts and hard work each parent puts in so as to nurture their kids can never be estimated. Raising a child demands loads of self sacrifice and , time, devotion and money. Parents spend their entire life thinking for their kids and working hard in order to fulfill their needs and at times those needs which are completely beyond their reach.And when the same kids refuse to allow you to stay with them what it would feel like cannot be imagined by any person who has not experienced it.
It is like raising a tree by fighting all odds and then when fully grown the tree refuses to give shelter to the person who planted its seeds. The increasing trend of nuclear families where the so called modern age people prefer to live their life in their own ways is leading the society and the social values towards a black hole. How can you expect a person to respect you until and unless he respects his parents. Those parents who have spent their entire life to cater to the justified and unjustified demands.
I accept the fact that in old age our parents need a lot of support mentally, physically and financially. But this is such a little cost that you have to payback for all the efforts that they have put in to make you what you are. Remember the times when you were just a small tiny creature who could not eat, walk, drink and talk on his own. What if your parents had left you all alone in a day care and asked you to grow on your known. Never forget what we are today is only because what our parents made them.
The way we look, the money we earn, the degrees we hold and ll the materialistic benefits that we enjoy are only and only because of our parents. even the air we breathe is because our parents wanted us to do that. Every single cell of your body is indebted to the efforts that your parents have put in all their lives.
So next time we feel that your parents are a burden just close your eyes and imagine yourself in an old age home. If you are still left with a wise conscience you will only do the needful thereafter.
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Agree with the facts stated by you in the article, parents have to be taken care of by their children once they get old or bedridden. But the sad thing is it cannot be expected of this from the children. Many of the parents when bringing up their children provide them all the facilities and pamper them and do not teach them to do the basic things which they are supposed to stay independently and take other responsibilities. So since this is not inculcated since childhood they can neither take care of themselves or their nuclear families properly how we used to live leave alone taking care of their parents which is ones bounden duty towards them.
Till the times things are good and parents healthy and earning they look at them as assets but once their health deteriorates or they are no more employed due to age and incomes are limited from them they are perceived as a liability and are given chores like nanny sitting for their children which they are supposed to bring up. These children still want to behave as children even after growing up and having a family of their own. Many are usually abroad and used to those lifestyle and consider coming to the motherland and meeting their parents and taking care of them as a burden and a unwanted nuisance which they can ill afford as they stand to lose their jobs if they come to take care of parents. This is a materialistic thinking which has been inculcated in them since childhood and society has become like that in general too. The brides nowadays are also too independent and would not want to share or be with the parents of the groom and want a different setup. These are the hard truths.
The best thing for elders is to stay independent and have a different support system which are available in our country even today. As being independent they can lead their lives happily. They should also not expect anything from their children but only give that is the fact one has to live with. If some children do take care of their parents such parents should consider themselves fortunate but stay independent to the best extent possible. Too much emotional attachment should not be there. A well written article.
I always pray that when me and my hubby gets older, we can still take care of each other.
But if that day comes, when one of us cannot anymore, I would ask for the help of our daughter to provide us a caregiver at home. At least, we are at our own house not together with other seniors who would be senile or already demented that living with them will be difficult.
So as early as now, I keep eating lots of fruits and vegetables, exercise my body as well as my brain, drink lots of water , take vitamin supplements and most of all always have a happy disposition.