Problems are part and parcel of human life but problems must be handled carefully and sensibly. very day, we meet all kinds of surprises and unexpected events. Most of them are of minor importance, but sometimes, they are major, or life shaking events of unpleasant nature, causing difficulties and problems.

Life is full of surprises and events that sometimes, shatter one’s daily routine. Some of them might be good and some of them not so good. Some are pleasant and others unpleasant.

Most people like to be in control of their lives, and therefore, are more at ease living the same kind life every day, following the same routine.

Tips for Dealing with Surprises and Unexpected Events:

Acknowledge the fact, and learn to accept that surprises and unexpected events are part of life and are unavoidable. When you accept this fact, to some extent, it will be easier to deal whatever happens in your life.Life is dynamic, not static. Change is part of life, and the sooner you acknowledge and accept this fact, the better it would be.

The key to everything is your attitude. A positive attitude is an asset in unexpected situations.Not all unexpected events are negative. Sometimes, what seems like a problem, or even a disaster, could be a blessing in disguise. A negative event can awaken ambition, motivation, and persistence, which would lead to progress and success.

Even getting fired from work, could eventually turn out well, as you might find a better and more satisfying job. A loss or failure can make you search for something better.

When making a plan, always have an alternate plan, in case the first plans fail. This would prevent you from falling into a state of helplessness, fear, and not knowing what to do next.

Wait for a few moments, before blurting out when confronting unexpected or unpleasant turns of fate. Before getting angry or panicking, look at what happened and assimilate the news. In many cases, this might something of minor importance that is easy to cope with. Maybe what happened is temporary, or something that can be easily fixed.

If what happened is irreversible, what good would you gain by becoming angry, stressed or panicked? You would gain nothing. Instead of getting flustered and confused, angry or feeling helpless, it would be much more useful to think constructively where you are going from there. You need to think how to adjust to the new situation and either fix it, improve it, or make the most of it.

This is so true we aleays fight battles to make it

I love this topic! I do agree that everything occur in our life there is a reason and something to be learnt from it. I believe relax and take it easy, forget those unhappy things , can make life easier.

Challenge is life of a brave and the death of a coward. Those who do not accept challenges remain poor and mentally unhealthy seen in practical life a;; over the world. fate always appears in the veil of challenge and those accept it find fate and blessings fo God on earth.

I think that if you compared your troubles, or challenges, with those of others, you would surely find that there are those whose troubles make yours look like minor inconveniences.

Part of the challenge that comes with striving for success is how the entire journey comes with its own fair share of failures and disappointments

Likewise, family caregivers can go a long way toward helping parents or other loved ones stay in their own homes, but only if they understand the challenges of caregiving and know how to get help and support.

Smiling is a wonderful way to get a boost of happiness. The next time life presents you with a challenging situation, take a deep breath and smile.

I think its so pwoerful to see those words at morning and in the weekedn it make you wnat to rerrange oyur life, your thoughts your dreams even, and thingking of that is really enough to make you take new directions in life and make you reach small goals even, and make you happy setting wherever however

Life was not meant to be easy. Not even Jesus had it easy. We must make sure that our concern to have what we lack does not make us neglect what could give us life now. One of the greatest obstacles preventing the liberation of people is our own greed. Our God comes all the time through events that unexpectedly ruin our plans.

To be alert offline follow these steps as
Give Your Eyes a Break to Avoid Fatigue. Continuous fixation on a computer screen can cause eyestrain and worsen sleepiness and fatigue. …
Eat a Healthy Snack to Boost Energy. …
Start a Conversation to Wake Up Your Mind. …
Turn Up the Lights to Ease Fatigue. …
Take a Breather to Feel Alert.

If you are suffering from something similar yourself and find that your mind is constantly drifting to more interesting things then you might also want to find ways to boost your alertness and your attention. Here we will look at some ways you can do that.

Getting lots of sleep is of key importance if you want to come across as switched on and alert. When we sleep we replenish our energy and our body makes repairs around our body – from our muscles to our brain. If you do not sleep then your body will be trying to send you to sleep in your waking hours and in extreme cases you can even end up with dreams forcing their way into your waking life.

If you are having trouble staying focused when you are supposed to be listening to someone or when you are walking down the street then you need to come up with a reminder to ‘wake up’. This can be something simply like a colored band you wear on your wrist –

every time you see the band, you then remind yourself that you are supposed to be focusing and you can make an effort to snap out of it. Setting an alarm to go off every few minutes is a good way to fix this too.

There is not competition on earth but is folly every man is doing his own work in all field of life and people call it competition because if a man can carry 200 kg weight on his back and other cannot carry how we may call it a competition in any sense. The foolish men call it competition to satisfy their empty heart, lack of knowledge and full of jealousy.

Life without competition is life without progress; a static society where the cream does not rise to the top because there would be no goals and no desire to march to the different drum beat and take something farther than it’s ever been taken before.

Allowing the education system to indoctrinate students with the travesty that life is not fair and that those who have the ability to excel have no more right to the fruits of their labor than the ones who sit on the sidelines and depend on government subsidies and blame their problems on someone more prosperous who refuses to pay their “fair share.” After all, they didn’t really build that business, the government helped.

If you’re content at the bottom of the food chain you’ll find plenty of company to sit around and whine with you blaming all their problems on the system and the fat cats. But the truth of the matter is the system will always be flawed and there will always be fat cats.

But if you want a better job, a better life, prepare yourself and go for it.

Competing with a positive attitude is the sportsman spirit.
Competition makes one do an effort to achieve a goal.It provides an opportunity to get elevation in the position or rank.
Some people participate in the competition in a casual manner and they end up their effort once it is over.
There are some who go on competing till they reach the desired goal. They stop it once the goal is achieved.
There are people who are ‘competition addicts’ better we call them, and it is they who make history and they are the heroes. For these people, competiton is a game to play and enjoying . The goals and medals roll before them automatically There is no place for frustration or disappointment in their life. They start actually where one stops.

You say right productivity is a most important part of development for future generation and present generation in the whole article there is not mention of productivity in which field. I think, the most important part of productivity is to produce the best literature that refines human mentality and spirituality.

If someone makes productivity in the field of child birth without morality and ethics is a burden on earth for parents and citizens. I think the best efforts must be made of productivity in the field of education so that present and future generation may play its role in all departments of country.

If we make productivity n the field of education the country and nation will progress side by side.

For you to be fruitful and successful on life, there is this big enemy you need to fight and that enemy is nothing but distractions. Distractions can be in any form. Be it a human being, material or an animal, in fact anything that obstructs your way to Succeed is destruction and you need to overcome distractions before succeeding. As a seller in the market you need to focus on your goods not on ladies. When you focus on the goods you are selling and leave distractions from ladies, you will be very productive. Not just ladies, any other form of distraction should be overcome.
The main place where distraction occur is in schools and students who are not able to overcome this distraction end up being failures. Distraction in schools both secondary and tertiary institutions can come as a party, noise making, cultism and others. Students are mostly distracted by parties in school,. When they get addicted to party, they tend not to know what is happening about their studies. This block their educational productivity. Same applies to cultist. When students join cult, they lose their senses and will have no zeal to read with the hope of sorting and bribing lectures to pass them. This therefore distract their academic productivity.
Generally I think what is needed for one to overcome distraction is being focused in everything being done and always being conscious of any form of distraction come on our path.

Success rest on natural talent apart from sudden blessings of God. Keep in mind those who create the qualities of doing something who can achieve the goal easily on the ground of birth traits not on the ground of wisdom, wit and knowledge.

As we see there are many peoples who wise men and have knowledge and wit but they are roaming for services because they they do not have the abilities to achieve the goal.

Dreams come true if someone dream to be be a king he will not be king the whole life because he has kingly traits and genes in which are hidden the traits of the kings , princess and queens.

Follow your dreams according to your birth trends you will success one day surely.

Achieving something in life is not a miracle. It can not be a windfall. One needs to put forth a good effort and strain oneself towards reaching the success.
There will be disappointments, discouragements. There will be admirers and critics as well. One should always remember that the number of the latter will be more than the former

So who will reach the ladder up? This is the question now.
The simple answer will be who is restless, determined, fearless, and undaunted by the failure that comes in the way of life.
The success will always come to those who do not look for results but aim and work hard towards achieving it unmindful of the stage to which they have reached.
The praises and prizes will come and knock on his door without his knowledge.

“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

To conquer a challenge is really not an easy task. One needs an extraordinary tactics to conquer a particular task. No task should be underestimated. All tasks should be taking seriously. One thing we should consider in conquering a task is encouragement. Even the great scientists while trying to discover new things failed as a result of these challenges. But their failures didn’t hinder their conquer. They kept on trying for years and they challenges were conquered. That implies that in conquering a challenge, self encouragement and perseverance is highly needed. No challenge is meant to be looked at as very difficult or very simple. If a challenge is difficult, just assume that it is very easy and you will see yourself work on it as very easy task. Looking at a task and saying it is difficult is really discouraging and one can never overcome a challenge having that notion. Even if you see a task as very easy task, you shouldn’t just joke over it, you should also see it as a normal challenge not an easy challenge.
Reading motivational and inspirational books will give you hints on how to conquer challenged both the easy ones and the most difficult ones but I don’t think there’s any task that’s difficult for us provided we are inspired and ready to conquer the challenge.

Hope is the power of human soul that links directly to God and if we leave the rope of hope we cannot live on earth and we will die soon. Hopes make us young and active.

Personal obstacles are related to our psychology, behaviors and state-of-mind. They can include limiting habits, debilitating emotions, fears and beliefs.

These obstacles prevent us from moving forward towards the attainment of our goals and objectives because of the thoughts that we tend to dwell upon every day. These thoughts naturally prevent us from making effective decisions and undertaking the actions that will help us create the momentum we need to get to our end destination.

Social obstacles are related to people who either do no cooperate with you, sabotage you, or are simply incompetent and unable to fulfill the responsibilities assigned to them.

Environmental obstacles are often unexpected conditions, occurrences and circumstances that you have very little control over.

Hope crushes all these obstacles very soon because it has power to break every steel and stone.

I think social media is laying its role negative just to earn money as in every ads woman is used in a sexy way that instigates the youths’ emotions and led them to the wrong way what is this nothing but a diplomacy to earn money and sex spreading ads must ban on social media. Women are selling their beauty on social media just for the sake of poverty and hunger or to save their family members. What the GOVT is doing in this sector nothing but politics and what the anchors are doing nothing but promoting sex and earning money. Social media role must be positive not negative in all countries.

Bob Marley remade a tune that was a popular American song and the lyrics in that song say “every time I plant a seed, they say ‘Kill it before it grow!’” In this life you have to be self-motivated if you’re going to accomplish anything. Sure folks may (or will) try to hinder you or put obstacles in your way or you yourself may get frustrated and wonder if what you’re doing is worth the effort. But guess what? If you don’t live your own life, nobody else will live it for you. They can’t! So you gotta do it! Just do it!

Nice post! 🙂

Yes, while travelling high motivation is must to reach at the goal of life otherwise way hindrances will break the travelers’hearts. I think that motivation is literally the desire to do things. It’s the difference between waking up before dawn to pound the pavement and lazing around the house all day.

It’s the crucial element in setting and attaining goals—and research shows you can influence your own levels of motivation and self-control. So figure out what you want, power through the pain period, and start being who you want to be.

Motivation is a powerful, yet tricky beast. Sometimes it is really easy to get motivated, and you find yourself wrapped up in a whirlwind of excitement. Other times, it is nearly impossible to figure out how to motivate yourself and you’re trapped in a death spiral of procrastination. This page contains the best ideas and most useful research on how to get and stay motivated.

This isn’t going to be some rah-rah, pumped-up motivational speech. (That’s not my style.) Instead, we’re going to break down the science behind how to get motivated in the first place and how to stay motivated for the long-run. Whether you’re trying to figure out how to motivate yourself or how to motivate a team, this page should cover everything you need to know.

My dear friend, the root of every evil on earth is injustice we all of us must uproot injustice from all societies of the world. In the eyes of God all men and women apart from cast and colors are the same but in the eyes of political leaders there is a difference because they think white American are superior than African American is polluted thinking of the leaders and their followers in all countries.

Injustice creates poverty and inferiority complex in human mind and soul and from it springs all types of evils and crimes but its responsible persons are the political leaders. The youths are being lead to the wrong path and their heart are going away from other brothers’ of world’ hearts.

Injustice is an evil crime and thinking and it creates terrorists in all section who fight for their rights and after passing a joint resolution they are declared terrorists. It is political thinking that leads men to hell and turn earthly heaven into hell.

No religion teaches such types of crimes and thinking American leaders must think that what they are doing is not according to the Holy Bible Teachings. They violating the basis laws of men declared by God in all the holy books.

The USA Government think tanks must think over this problem and one day it will wrap the whole world into the fire of racism veil. What be the USA policies about country and men but they cannot snatch anybody’s basis human rights. I wonder international organizations are silent on this because all belong to the European countries as we see in Kashmir USA and other European countries is dual and is against the laws of nature, religion and God.

The youth must think over this horrible problem so that coming generation could be saved from racism in future.

It is really sad that the Black Americans are still having issues with the U.S. They could not get their voting rights along wit the whites in the U.S. The employment opportunities are less for them. They constitute most of the labor force in the U.S. Surprisingly what a African American worker paid is less than his white counterpart. Again there is a discrimination basing on the gender. Everything is discriminatory only.

There is no significant improvement in the position even prior to and after Mr. Bush. In each and every election they have become the center of focus during the election campaigns of the contesting candidates.

Even now Mrs. Hillary has passionately included the issue in her election campaign agenda without looking back how much dirt is left uncleaned in the backyard of her house. Mr. Trump though he is promising some steps he is being overlooked by the blacks on the basis of his background being from a Business Class. At least now the African Americans should realize the value of their vote and choose a right candidate who is outspoken dynamic and more practical in the approach. Nothing can be achieved on the basis of Gender.

You know there is this song that we used to be taught in Sunday school back in the days and it is still being sung in church. The song goes like this Jesus loves th3 little children, all the children of the world red and yellow black or white they are precious in his right Jesus loves the little children of the world. Now if you have ever heard that song somewhere in your life before, then you do realize that we are all children of God no matter how small or big we are. People should stop treating others like they are not worth it. what makes you so superior to another person, is it because you are white or black of cause that does not count and you know it. Let us all li e like one, let us not look at the other person like they are filling our space and that they want to take whatever does not belong to them. I usually say this if at all I live in the states there is definitely a reason as to why am there. It doesn’t mean that if you are white you are the one who has the right to be there, even those others who are there and are white, who says that they are origins from there. We are all migrants from somewhere no one owns anywhere. So stay put and also pray for your brothers and sisters and God will see you through.

If Trump came after Reagan or Bush, the dislocation would not be as terrific as it is today. Further, those of you who live in America are not as sensitive to the racism as those of us who do not. When I go to America I have to be conscious of the colour of my skin at all times. What Trump is doing is making racism ‘Okay Again’ and people who live there have to be very aware that with a known racist as Attorney General … in the words of Animal Farm; all animals are equal, but pigs are more equal than others.’

Yes a strong willed person may perform miracles on earth. Intention is the root of success on earth in any field. JH Sayyar

Determination is the key to success in every walk of life …study, business, travel, journey, education, literature…in any field of life determination helps men and women to achieve the goal and destination in real life.

Determination is important. Nothing in life is easy. If you give up, you won’t accomplish much. Sometimes, you should not be so determined that you lose sight of common sense. Just because something doesn’t come easy and we don’t want to give up doesn’t mean we should keep pushing. Sometimes we should give up because things are just not meant to be.

From my point of reference, determination is important because it helps to give focus to consciousness. Individuals with determination help to better understand what has to be done. In a way, determination helps to address Tolstoy’s dilemma regarding what it means to be human. Tolstoy argued that all endeavors must seek to answer two fundamental questions:

Who we are and what shall we do. These two questions are answered by the presence of determination in our lives because it helps to give structure and purpose to what we do and how we shall live. In this light, I would say that determination is highly significant to our lives.

I agree completely with what you have said here, I especially like the part about communicating. If you don’t communicate then it makes it almost impossible to get anything done, let alone done right. As far as change goes, one of the only constant things IS change, whether or not we want things to change, they always do, so we might as well deal with that fact.

Compromise is such a good thing to be willing to do. Some people want things their way or ELSE, but life as a whole does not work that way.

Even if you are the boss of a large corporation, you have to learn how to compromise to meet the needs of your many employees. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to dealing with people.

Some people think that agreeing to compromise means that they “lost” in some type of way, when in actuality compromising (in certain situations) is a way for everyone to win.

You say right that learning to compromise produce better results in practical field because real learning teaches how to compromise any situation.

Open, honest communication should be part of every healthy relationship. Use the guidelines below to open up the channels of communication between you and your partner. If you’re in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, be careful using these tips. You know your relationship best. If any of these tips would put you in danger, don’t try them.

If something is bothering you and you would like to have a conversation about it, it can be helpful to find the right time to talk. Try to find a time when both you and your partner are calm and not distracted, stressed or in a rush. You might even consider scheduling a time to talk if one or both of you is really busy!

Even when we mean well, we can sometimes come across as harsh because of our word choice. Using “you” can sound like you’re attacking, which will make your partner defensive and less receptive to your message. Instead, try using “I” or “we.” For example, say “I feel like we haven’t been as close lately” instead of “You have been distant with me.”

I just don’t want to give my id data online and regret it. Now I know one more page where I can not participate because they ask personal ID card. Bulling online – click and delete contact, very effective.

Online bullying is something that has been with us for such a long time. Many people don’t realize it until it’s too late. There is some unusual I formationthat people ask for and that should be suspicious enough to make someone know that things are not right.

I generally take the bull by the horn and show them their right place.

Please, is there any body that would guide me through this litracybase?

I hear various arguments FOR and AGAINST social media and also “in between”. I use social media for my home business projects primarily because it’s a an audience and it’s like “free advertising” (unless you want to pay for more followers and traffic). The fact that I meet new people and make new friends is an added “benefit”.

Zuckerberg (Facebook), Page (Google Plus) and all those other tech geniuses have allowed everyday people like you and me to create social accounts free and you get to connect with people you may not have had a chance to communicate with otherwise, and possibly grow a customer or subscriber base for your websites and blogs.

In my humble opinion, there are more advantages to using social media than disadvantages. But I do agree with you that it’s not necessary to spend a huge amount of time on those sites. That can be counter-productive.

Every new innovation will have pros and cons. The cons when it overtakes the pros then the problem starts automatically. It increases not only our stress but also creates stress among others.

Recently I have come across a post with hate speech against some section of the people of a Religion. It was a recorded video of a Member of Parliament of India. He was speaking totally thrash. Once we hear the speech one is sure to develope hatred against a particular community of a religion. Could we stop the person who has determined to post it and bring to the limelight the activities of the Member of Parliament? The person who had posted it should feel the social responsibility and see that such posts should not instigate hatred among the people.

The social network sites are nowadays being used for effective interaction by the terrorists and other anti-social elements. Both educated and uneducated are using these site for their own purpose.

These sites are taking sides in the matter of politics and making a big franchise for a particular political party. This is very bad concept. The members of political parties directly scold each other on the websites which will be quite funny to watch. Added to this some youth post dirty pictures and using these sites for pornography. Even ladies are hesitating to explore such sites. Ultimately they are being disappointed and forced to withdraw their account from the website itself.

As you rightly said it is only certain important and useful posts that need attention. Not each and every post of some Tom, Dick, and Harry.

You say right wise men earn everywhere on earth be social media or mart or other country because earning rests on birth qualities just as some have traits to be a doctor, some to be lawyers, some to businessmen, some to be leaders, some to drivers, some to be come engineers, some to be pilots, some to teachers…

Before you become famous online you´ve got to pick a platform, now if it´s money you´re interested in then YouTube is always going to be the place to start.

If it´s easy fame you´re looking for then Tumblr is the place for you and if it´s constant fame you´re looking for then Facebook is going to be a sure thing.

Twitter is one of the easiest sites to become famous on, but it´s one of the only sites that does n´t really have any value from being famous. You won´t earn loads of money and you´ll never be noticed.

Use face book, twitter, Instagram, tumbler, blog…but you me creative and you will earn very and get popularity among the readers of all over the world.

Oh confidence, this is the reason why our Miss Universe Pia Wurtzbach won the tilt because of her answer during the question and answer portion when she said she is “confidently beautiful with a heart.” Confidence is one of the attitude and traits that every Filipino must develop because most of us have low self-esteem. We are good and we are outstanding but we have little confidence in ourselves which always reflect in our face. I guess we filipino should have to develop this attitude.

Confidence is the cream of life. Whatever work we undertake and is given should be attended to with confidence. Though the term confidence is an intrinsic property of one, it should be viewed both as an intrinsic and extrinsic.
A boss will ask you to do a job because he chose you for doing that particular job. In his opinion you are a more suitable person meant for doing it than others. He is having confidence in you.
Now your job is to do it with dedication and do it perfectly reaching to the expectations of your Boss. You can not do it as per your own inner sense and submit something only to displease your Boss. Here your inner will not workout. You will not have the appreciation from anybody including your boss. Here you can not argue with others even if you are right in doing that job with your own confidence. If you do it and still argue about what is right as per your inner will then it will not be called confidence but only as an arrogance. People will hate you.
Thus confidence is both intrinsic and extrinsic. You can not break the confidence of your boss on you and do things as per your whims and fancies.
The confidence speaks about the perfection in making and attempting a work that is given and taken up.

If you are asked to take up some job you are supposed to do it with dedication , with due respect to the established norms and procedures. If you do it as per your choice and preferences people treat you either as a lunatic or as an Arrogant.
Sincerity , obedience, and perfection are the three jewels of Confidence.
As a social creature one should look to the social acceptance of the work done. You can not say ‘I go ahead unmindful of the criticism from others’ it does not carry any value. Take criticism as a positive aspect and try to analyze the work done whether it is actually suitable for criticism or not. If the criticism is correct one should accept it and making necessary corrections accordingly to the job done. Even before that have as many consultations with other experts and elderly people as possible and confirm whether the criticism is a healthy one. If it is so, then nothing is wrong In accepting the criticism.
Seeing positive side of criticism is another jewel of Confidence.

I like what you have shared very true indeed. If we listen to people and do what they want then we are loosing our self confidence thinking that what we are told is what is good. When you go out to look for a job do you always follow all the things that you are told? Am sure you don’t, why because you trust yourself to do the right thing. Confidence can come in different ways just the way you have listed them above but there are those people who will take it in the wrong concept as usual.

Life pleasure and progress rest in confidence and confidence comes from real knowledge and knowledge come from the holy books reading in depth.
Every human contains a powerful success mechanism, which is goal-striving. This power success mechanism only becomes activated when a clear goal is in view. Therefore, sit down and decide what you really want to accomplish.

Do not borrow another person’s dream. Set your goals and believe in their possibility. If you are not passionate and convinced enough about where you are going in life, someone else will succeed in convincing you to look the other way.

If you have not got a clear vision yet for your life, take time to identify what you want your life goals to be. Ensure that what you have chosen is in harmony with your talents and passions. You will not be able to endure in an undertaking beyond the level of your love and passion for it.

Make sure that what you build your life around is what you really enjoy doing. “A goal properly set is halfway reached,” said Zig Ziglar, the American motivator. One of the ways to properly set a goal is to make sure that you set a goal that you will be really looking forward to pursuing.

Unless you detach yourself from the false self, the true self, who is creative, energetic and result-driven, cannot emerge. Highly successful people are those who have tamed their ego and are willing to take the next available actions even in the face of fear and discouragement.

Their intention is to try many things and fail quicker so that they know what works or doesn’t work. Successful people are more passionate about success than their fear of failure or momentary disappointment.

Having confidence is indeed important. But at the same time we must not be so over confident that we enter into the habit of disregarding people and their ideas or be rude to people. We must try to maintain the balance of having confidence to strive for greatness and to achieve our fullest potential, being successful and being respectful.