Love is not a coincidence.

Love is a special relationship between two people, giving a feeling of fullness of life. The reason for this is a positive experience, certainly modifying the personality. Love matures the man, teaches patience, loyalty, encourages not envying but enjoying each other’s success, develops the ability to hear each other and listen. The belief, that other person loves us and makes efforts for us, and in the face of difficulties will support and help us, let us to feel less anxiety in everyday life, helps to aggressively pursue our goals and even more to love ourselves. Moreover, in life when all other things being equal, people who love and who feel themselves loved, psychological health of them is better.

Love can last a lifetime, because it is not the lottery, it is a conscious choice of both partners to be together and make efforts for each other. If this everyday and the work requiring many efforts both partners will perform in good faith, the love will likely not ends and the family will not break off. Love is like a wonderful journey – the more we travel, the more we experience, the more we learn and cherish our beloved, because he becomes a part of us. Falling in love is the beginning of this beautiful trip.

This, unlike true love, is uncontrolled state of feelings, when we idealize our chosen one, and in our opinion anyone who thinks otherwise not understands anything. Falling in love is some kind of challenge for our body, as hormone of happiness increases dramatically. It is absolutely  normal that falling in love can not last forever.

It is said that falling in love takes up to three years. After that, either man realizes that his choice was wrong, or begins to feel affection to his beloved. Thus, the saying that love lasts three years, however, is not accurate, because after three years the love just begins. Love is much quieter than falling in love, but also much more mature and deeper.

A claim that a mature love can be only in mature age, probably can be accepted only partly. Mature age alone does not guarantee a successful relationship, although, of course, older people have more life experience, more constructively solve their conflicts, are less guided by emotions. All of these things strengthen relationships. On the other hand, there are many young people who are very successful at resolving conflicts, in their relations are not impulsive, have an approach that better to solve problems rather than run away from them.

The fading love is love that is left to its own devices, when the both of couple do not cherish and do not try to save their love. To love means to respect, to care, make efforts for each other, to be faithful. If, for whatever reason, anyone decided to the contrary, then it means decided not to love anymore. And one very important thing: “I” has to become less important than “we” in the love relationship. Where it is vice versa, this couple’s relationship microclimate is unsuitable to unfold the love.

Love is not a coincidence, it is two people’ daily efforts to build a beautiful relationship. If there is mood of both sides to save the love, everyone will find the strength to forgive, to dare apologize, respect, will be faithful and will take care of beloved. Love is supported by confidence in each other, proximity, open conversations, not being afraid to avowal being wrong, efforts to change inappropriate behavior to more appropriate. Nurturing warm and spiritual relationship, it is important to see the meaning, create a relation of love, where we would feel happy not only ourselves, but would be also responsible for our beloved happiness.

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