How to distinguish true love from the illusion of love?

How to distinguish true love from the illusion of love? To answer this question need to define very clearly what is love, and everything else that is not love will be the illusion. But this is millennia-old question, torturing the poets, writers and all kind of dreamers. Question causing break heads for scientists, from time to time making conclusion that love operates on a similar principle as drugs.

Love is a feeling. The feeling completely illogical, but described by the laws of biology as a process taking place in the brain, linking the inner experiences with the processes outside. The feeling is not an abstraction – it is in fact the process taking place in the body, there is involved in all sorts of substances and all sorts of other things which can’t share chemists and psychologists.

We sometimes confuse emotion with feeling. The emotion is short – a flash and gone, but the feeling persists long. So, love is a long-term feeling, emotion is short-term. And how often the short emotional outburst we accept as a sign! Oh how good that moment when we were together! Flash and this moment gone. Love is a positive feeling. When you are not afraid of obstacles and hardships, then it seems that you can fly through the fly.

The function of love is to ensure that people do not engage in destruction. Therefore, nature gave us a desire to take care of loved ones, take care of children. If feeling does not encourage doing anything good, it takes away the strength and power – this is not feeling of love. f there is a desire to avenge for something, not to forgive, to offend someone, it is not out of love such things.

Love is unselfish feeling. There probably is an essential feature converting love into a unique matter – it is not directed at us. The all best emotions – joy, bliss, ecstasy – all this are very selfish feelings when something happens for us and we get excited. But the love is when you like and do something for others, and like it is better for the others, but we feel joy also.

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