Have a courage to be imperfect.

I knew a lot of people who constantly tried to be good. But I did not see anyone that done it for others. I noticed, the only thing that has hiding behind the desire to be good is a concern about their image. The aim to be a good is needed only for self-exaltation. The one that really excites by surrounding, will not waste his valuable time to find out is he good or bad. This is simply not interesting for him.

There are people who are doing something good, because they love to do it, and there are those who are doing the same thing, but for other reasons – they like to demonstrate their goodness. We cannot deny that both groups contribute to the progress of mankind. Some reached something for to prove their advantage, while others even do not think about what benefits they will receive from their work.

But there is a big difference between the ways of seeking the goal. If you are caring about others, you move forward, you learn, you accumulate knowledge, raise your status, prestige, you are more and more respected, and it may be that your financial situation is improving. However, the one who is selfish not necessarily moves only upward. He rises to the top, he falls down. Up and down. Did a good job, he goes a few steps up, and the next moment make mistake and is falling down. That is how behave most people.

Selfish person never can accurately assess whether enough high he rose, and will never be sure that the next morning will not fall down. Therefore, the regular attendants are tension, anxiety and fear. Such man is vulnerable. As soon as something happens, not as he wishes, he falls down if not in the eyes of other people, then for sure in his own.

And completely different moves person who care about others. Such a person is moving forward, and if something fails, he tries to understand why this happened, looking for other roads, trying to change that. Because it’s interesting. Because he does not care to be higher than others. He is interesting in to act, not to worry about his image or others opinion.

Why are people so worried about mistakes? What is so terrible in making mistakes? We feel that making mistake, we will lose our status, and we will become an object of derision and humiliation.

However, in today’s world is not so many topics, where a person could be superior by itself. White man can’t be superior just because he is white. Man cannot be superior to the woman just because he is a man. Even the money is not an advantage – it can be quickly lost. And there is only one topic in which we can feel our advantage – it’s a situation where we are right.

And everywhere the same thing: in a society, in families where brothers and sisters, husbands and wives, parents and children look at each other from high because of the slightest transgressions, and everyone is desperately trying to prove that he is right and wrong – others.

Mistakes push us in a difficult position. However, if you are not depressed, if you want, you can use your internal resources; difficulties will encourage you to look for more successful solutions. But most of the people that making mistakes, feel the guilt, they feel humiliated, they cease to respect themselves, they lose faith in their abilities.  But irreparable damage is doing not a mistakes, but guilt and frustration. It destroys everything.

We pay too much attention to what is wrong in us and around us. If I’m critical of myself, I will appreciate in the same way also others. What would change if we would not be in this world? But maybe our good word changed stranger’s life? We cannot even imagine how strong we are and how useful can be. And so we are constantly dissatisfied with ourselves, are afraid of disastrous mistakes and desperately seek to be above the rest. But there is no need for perfection, it is not available.

There are people who are constantly afraid to do something wrong because of the low self-esteem. One who is afraid of failure, which at any cost strives to be only right, cannot operate successfully. There is one indicator that helps determine whether or not you are right. This is the consequences. When you do something, to understand whether it is true you can only after you will see the consequences of your deed. Those who need to be a right, can not make decisions because they will never be sure that this will be right way.

To be right is a false assumption. Can you imagine how many people suffer from their loved ones just because they need to feel right, and unfortunately, they are always right? There is nothing worse than a man who always feels morally right. And he always proves it. Such righteousness often ruining relationships between people. For the sake of justice we often sacrifice kindness and patience. No, we do not create peace and cooperation, if we keep the desire to be right. We are trying to convince others of how we are good, but we cannot deceive ourselves.

To be a human does not mean always be right and perfect. To be human means to be useful, to do something not only for ourselves but also for others. And for that we need to believe in ourselves, respect ourselves and others. But there is one condition: do not focus attention on human weaknesses, because if we’re concerned about the negative characteristics of people, we can not honor neither them nor ourselves. We need to realize that we are good enough and will never be better, regardless of how much we have, what we learned, what our status or bank account size. We need to learn to live with that. If we are unable to accept what we are in fact, we fail to accept others.

This requires the courage to be imperfect, to understand that we are neither angels nor superheroes, and that we sometimes make mistakes, that each has its own drawbacks, but at the same time, everyone is good enough and there is no need to be better than others.

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