my own drawing of a mom loving her child, by peachpurple
As parents, we know very well that every child’s
milestone and development is different from each other.
It is unfair to compare with one another child’s slow or
fast development which would indirectly hurt both the
child’s and parent’s feelings.
Family inheritance
It is proven that your child’s early or late:
Are determined by your family’s inheritance of both
sides.
For example, my brother-in-law’s teenager daughters
are all tall and big built frame because they had the
characteristics gene of him and his wife who are both
tall and big sizes too.
The parent’s guilt
( him refers to your child, regardless of sex gender )
As you watch your little child grows each day from a
baby to a toddler to a school age pupil to a teenager, you
are feeling happy and blessed, as he grows healthily
and coming along speedily.
You are proud of him and yourself because you had
done your best to educate him and you are pleased with
his upbringing.
Whenever your child had accomplished something big or
small, he showed his happiness, asking for parents opinion of what he had achieved.
You compliment him on his creativity, did a grand job over a simple task, even though you might not be 100% satisfied with his results.
That is the part when you find that you are quick to worry if there are any part that he is failing to keep up with other kids that you know.
You keep comparing your child’s abilities with your neighbor or friends or cousins’ kids.
You feel guilty and anxious what to do with his shortcomings.
You are not alone.
All parents had the same feelings too, so do I.
When my son did not talk at age 1.5 years old, I started to worry that he might be mute of deaf.
My sister-in-laws claimed that my son had Zi Bi Zheng (in Chinese ) which literally means AUTISM.
My mother-in-law kept pestering me and hubby to send our son to a specialist to cure his difficulty in speech and accepting other people besides our own family members.
They branded my child as a “Problem Child”.
They had made us felt guilty about not teaching him how to talk when he was a baby.
Ironically, slow development of your child has nothing to do with inadequate care or inheritance defects ( non of my family member had any) or retribution of the parents’ sins.
Social and Emotional Development
When your child is slow in talking, it may depend on the temperament and behavior of the baby that is born with.
He may be quiet or active, he might had been listening what you had been teaching him from birth to toddler age, absorbing as much knowledge as possible like a sponge.
My son was having such particular case.
He was a shy toddler, he couldn’t say “Papa or Mama” at all when he was 1.5 years old.
Most toddler should be able to call out his parents or grandparents on his first birthday but mine couldn’t.
He was a withdrawn child, unable to socialize with other toddlers including his cousins too.
Not only was he slow in motor development, he was slow in knowing the things around him.
We were very worried, had consulted with his pediatrician which he had concluded that our son didn’t had any symptoms of AUTISM disorder.
All he need was a little more time, encouragement and loving care from the people around him.
Conclusion:
Indeed the pediatrician was right.
At age 3 years old, my son did talked like a machine gun.
After daddy had imitated whatever my son blabbed, our child imitated daddy speech and started to speak .
Remember, every child is different from each other.
Do not conclude that your child is stupid, dumb, problematic child or having a disorder without giving your child a chance to improve himself.
Some children takes a much longer time to socialize, just be patience and put your trust in your child.
This article is written based on my parenting experience.
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Thats so true. Every child is different. They different strengths and weaknesses. Hence should not be compared.
I do agree that the child's milestone and development are not the same. However, it is also applied for children that manifest impairment or disability. The pattern of developmental milestone varies from child to another. It is another story to handle the situation for parents.
Yes, but I also feel that it is up to parents especially as a mother to make sure the child gets the proper nutrition and prenatal care well the child is bein carried within the womb. It is also up to the father to be there well the development is bein processed so we can also have a healthy relationship and lifestyle.
It is most important question that every child on earth if different because by birth they get different images but emotions and feelings are the same in all human being but man's greatness rests on different images as someone invents computer and someone invents chemical weapons because it is due to different images that are hidden in parental genes if they get proper atmosphere they develop in natural atmosphere and do great things on earth for country and fellow beings.
Children grow and develop at different rates. While their developmental pathways may differ, most pass a set of predictable milestones along the way. It is normal for children to experience developmental spurts and slow spots in different areas of their development over time. If your child is a little ahead or a little behind at a certain age - this is normal. Most of the time, given the right nurturing and stimulation, all children will catch up in the end.
All children have different strengths and vulnerabilities. Some are good at sport, others music. Some are very academic and others not. Some are highly anxious and others are more relaxed. Some children are good sleepers and others wake through the night for years.