Critics – Your Best Friends

We should go into the message hidden behind a remark rather than reading it on its face value that at times may disappoint us even if the intention of the person that made the comment was not wrong. For instance one of my junior colleagues working in marketing department was upset over a small remark passed by his senior that he was not expecting after completing his project so successfully.

In most cases the intention behind a remark or criticism is not to show you down especially when it comes from a senior but as a warning in disguised. If you are a professional and wish to learn more about this particular topic I suggest you to read,” Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby” by Dr. Deborah L. Davis, the famous developmental Psychologist.

Dr. Deborah mainly writes inspirational books on how to come out of crisis period especially on relationship-centered care, prenatal bereavement care etc. But if you read her carefully she conveys her message in no uncertain manner that if you do something you will have to face praise and criticism in the process and in her own words, “You are not alone and you can survive”.

But what she did not say is that you should especially analyze yourself for your criticism even if you overlook what others said about your good work because some of your critics are your real well wishers. Some of your critics are suggesting to you correct your minor mistakes indirectly. There is no point in telling you about this small human psychological weakness that we feel proud listening to our praise but feel disappointed when someone even if he is our senior speaks a few correcting words.

However, we should not overreact but think carefully and analyze the facts. You will soon find out the exact intention and if was for the purpose of indicating at your mistake, correct it or if was purely for the criticism either you should forget it or be careful from that person but in most cases critics that dare to say it on your face are your best friends.

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