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When a child is hurt, it is a natural instinct that he wanted to be comforted by his parents and grandparents immediately.
In contrast, parents and grandparents themselves, wanted to shower the child their concern, words of comfort to ease the child’s pain.
Whether the child is physically or emotionally hurt, every child becomes a “baby” with whines, wails and cries that can be heard throughout the neighborhood.
Sometimes, parents who are particularly anxious, desire to educate their children to grow up as brave, courageous and independent children without any complaining of fear and pain , would turn their children into big complainers over small matters.
Fussy child who complains every single mistake or mishaps is a pampered child.
He complains when the milkshake spilt on his shirt, his biscuit drops onto the floor, he made a small mistake in his homework and many more.
Nobody is complaining but he wanted someone to comfort him for he is hurt emotionally.
When he trip and fell over the carpet, without any wound or bruises on the limbs, he whines to be comforted too.
He wanted immediate attention by the people around him.
A child who is a crybaby over small wound or aches may had a complicated past than the physical surface.
Sometimes, there are cases for a child who have hurt himself accidentally from a fall, bumps, trips, without realizing it.
Parents too are first timers to have experience these unfortunate mishaps, do not know how to teach the child what to do upon being hurt.
Naturally, the child first instinct is to cry for help, cry for experiencing the pain.
Your move here is not to scold the child or cradle him like a baby but to teach him the appropriate methods to deal with hurt itself.
It has been a tradition among the older folks especially grandparents and uneducated parents to reprimand a hurt child of being shameful for crying over trivial injuries or bruises.
This type of so-called teaching a child to be brave in return would tend to teach the child to repress and deny the feeling of hurt, pain and fear.
He would keep his feelings inside for fear of being scolded again.
Hence, he is unable to communicate with his family members, friends, teachers or strangers about his feelings.
He becomes emotionally unstable.
It is alright to comfort a child who is hurt but do not do it over board.
Pampering a child makes him into a “tissue paper”
Tears easily, melt easily, unable to pick himself up when he is down .
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They just want to know that your are there for them
S hurting child will sometimes be very quiet, and not really say anything just in case he is told that he is being too petty about some issues. When a child is hurt that will always throw tantrums others will get aimlessly just like you have mentioned above. And that can be very annoying trying to stop that child from crying can be a huge mess. But the best way is to show them that you are attentive to them. It's not really about what you will give them but just your time would change everything. Time is very essential most people take it for granted they don't spend much time with their children's making their kids feel vulnerable and neglected and that's why they will always get and throw tantrums.
In my case when a child is hurt I check what the issue is and then treat the child accordingly. I do not like to treat the child with kid gloves always. Sometimes it is needed to be done but many other times I explain them why they are crying and when they will stop crying and how they can help themselves in the situation.
I see many grown children also crying nowadays. For very minor issues. I feel they have been turned into delicate darling's by there parents by showering too much of love and affection and also by being overprotective. This sort of a thing will never help the child and will turn out to be a problem when they grow as adults. An interesting article giving information on how to handle different children with varied mentalities. Best wishes.