co-sleeping
People who co-sleep with their kids or experienced co-sleeping would definitely relate to this experience. I know not everybody appreciates sleeping with their children for fear they will ALWAYS sleep in their parents’ bedroom or they just can’t sleep with the little ones in their bed but I guess I just happened to grow up in a family where co-sleeping is a norm! I have well-meaning friends who “advise” me to sleep train or something but I guess I don’t want us to experience the stress of doing so not to mention that our sleep schedule is manageable at the moment anyway. And oh, I can’t remember when I stopped sleeping in my parents’ bedroom so it means I stopped doing so at an early age since I can’t remember. And, I moved out of our house and relocated to a different country when I was just 24 – despite my Mom’s plea for me to go back home. So I guess co-sleeping did not ruin my independence…not to mention I didn’t end up sleeping in my parents’ bedroom “forever” – as some people may tag it. I might’ve grown up to be a person who is “attached” to her parents but I don’t see anything wrong with that.
Anyway, I still breastfeed my son who turned two years old this February and also co-sleep with him (I am sure I am getting some raised eyebrows already, LOL). Sure, we are in a 2-bedroom apartment but we mostly use the second bedroom as a storage or guest room. Well, there are nights when I feel that I want to do things differently but seeing how quickly my son grows up, I just want to treasure these precious moments while it’s here. I am just lucky that my husband shared the same perspective and he was actually the first one to bring my son in our bed when he was still small. It made me realize how important it is to find somebody who shares at least some values or family experience as you do because it can greatly help to have a “working team” in the family!
Co-sleeping parents (especially Moms, maybe) can probably relate waking up like this – waking up with an arm, leg, foot, or body covering your face. I don’t know how my son manage to sleep in this position not to mention that isn’t it uncomfortable lying down on something bulky (my body)?! Even I struggle to be able to sleep comfortably when I lay down in bed with a bunch of pillows underneath my body.
It is funny that after I took this photo, another friend in Facebook posted a similar looking photo, LOL! I guess kids really don’t mind using Mom and Dad as their blanket, pillow or bed, don’t they? Maybe they are doing this on purpose since they know Dad and Mom will try to sneak away and leave. Well played little one, well played.
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I loved this profile-pic whenever I saw it. Reminds me of so many sweet memories :) By the way I read few posts on 'new mom's experiences' to get a closer look!
I think when my son grows up, I will have the same reaction to this photo :) My Dad sends me a message every now and then and he would tell me that he misses the time when we were young - coz now the house is so quiet with just him, my Mom and youngest brother around.
Your dad says true because children noise is the source of pleasure of happiness and when their echoes echo in the ears it seems the parents that nightingales and cuckoos are singing together sitting in the trees in the springtime.
Childhood plays an important role in old age if you child and youth both full of sweet memories so your old age will be sweet when you will remember the sweet memories lying on the bed all alone without wife or sometimes with wife.
Kids grow and leave the house with parents, daughters went with their husbands leaving the old parents in the hell of loneliness is the law of nature. I say to make old age sweet we must make our youth full of sweet memories.
Thank you for sharing this great piece.
Thank you for appreciating :)
Well, whenever my little niece sleeps with me. She is like a whirlwind. Taking it over all the corners of the bed.
HAHA, I know what you mean. I used to sleep and rotate when I was little, though I can't imagine or even think how I manage to do that before. My son also moves a lot (even close to sleep walking sometimes) but I guess I just got used to it. I wake up when he stirs and moves but I can sleep shortly after.
I feel your deep love to your baby. I appreciate much mothers who are sleeping like this with their toddlers. I am not yet married and no child, so I cannot say more about sleeping manner with a child.
Thank you :) Co-sleeping is a preference anyway not to mention that some households can't afford it so that's the only option they have. I just love these moments with him since he will not be small forever.
i think Co-Sleeping with own children is one of the best and beautiful experience of life. this is not provide the feelings of security of our kids but also give us lots of time to see them and feel them what really they expect from us.
Oh definitely. I am pretty sure that I will miss these days when I hold him as he sleeps - I can't imagine doing the same thing when he is all grown up anyway! LOL!
@cessy08 Is it true that in the US kids are not allowed to sleep with their parents?
Hmm, I don't think so but most parents in the West seems to prefer to let the baby sleep on their own space due to SIDS (my Italian friends abhor the thought of co-sleeping!). Anyway, I actually saw an article written by (I presumed) an American Mom where she posted a photo of their sleeping area. She had a custom-made bed where everybody including ALL her kids sleep since they only have a one-bedroom house. They have a big family (I think more than 3 kids) and she explained that even if people "pressures" her to let her kids sleep in their "own rooms", it's not just financially possible.
@cessy08 We co-slept with all four of our kids. And they also co-slept - and often still do - with one another. It's true that these are precious moments, and that kids will eventually just leave their parents' bed on their own. And no, none of ours stayed much past the age of three.
@bestwriter In North America (and in the UK too, if I'm not mistaken) there are a lot of doctors and others who make big campaigns against co-sleeping. Parents are told it's dangerous, and all sorts of really twisted statistics are cited. But there is nothing to prevent parents from choosing to co-sleep if we want to.
I guess at the end of the day, the choices you make as parents depends on the type of parenting you want - there is no "right or wrong". Whatever works, as they say. I think they are really BIG on not co-sleeping due to the accidents where a parent accidentally rolled over the child or something. But to be honest, I have read quite a few where the accident happened not in the bed, rather, in a sofa or something. Say, the parent probably tried not to sleep so cradled the baby in the sofa but was too sleepy he/she dropped the baby. Some accidents were in the bed but it is because the parent was too tired/too drunk. SIDS while co-sleeping can be avoided. In fact, not all babies who died due to SIDS were co-sleeping. A good number died in their own cot, car seats etc. So it is just wrong to hate co-sleeping and say it is a SIDS risk.
I have co slept with my nieces and nephews before and let me say it was not a very good experience especially when the kids decide it's time to use your face or your stomach as a pillow for their legs. I used to think this was something done on purpose until my brother and my late sister confirmed that it has happens to them but it's something that they are not aware of. Maybe they usually dream that they are swimming or flying thus finding them sleeping upside down in th3 bed hehehe. I personally don't have kids but when they come am sure I will see it first hand and believe
I have read all the answers of the said question co sleeping some say it is good and some say it is not good. It is a matter of dispute. Let us solve this dispute.
I have thought many times this enigma and solved this mystery because my favorite subject is natural philosophy,I am professional astrologer, writer, English and Urdu poet.
It is a fact that salt makes salt. If you put something in the salt it will be salt after some days. The process is applied to co sleeping. I say mom can just sleep with their child in the room because mon's eye becomes holy for the child.
But I say let not your children make co sleep with other children that are healthy than your child. Because power attract power and power draws the energy of the weak child. Suppose of your child is not healthy and the co sleeper child is health, as a result the healthy child will absorb the whole energy fo your child and as a result the child will be weak day by day.
Looking at this condition, different notions will appear in the mother's mind screen why her child going weak day by day knowing not her horrible mistake.
Make experiment at your home, take a whore, looking glass, and give it a gentle girl to see the face in the glass. You will see after some times she will be bold and saucy because the whore's face rays has penetrated into the mirror.
I advise the moss let not their children sleep with other children to save the child heath. thanks.