People often wonder how I can maintain such a wonderful rapport with my ex boyfriends. I meet them for dinners, and party with them, they come home and they meet my kids and I find it so easy to laugh, joke & hug them tight. Sometimes it raises eyebrows & many times it raises questions. Questions such as, Don’t you get attracted to them again?, is it an ex with benefits?.or simply, how can you be okay being around them?.
It is actually very simple. And In my head, over is over.And The relationship ended for reasons that were valid and the naturally, there was pain and the lots of internal chaos at time of parting. After cool off period, I choose to remember good times, and obvious good qualities of that individual that led me to share such chunk of my life with that person. person didn’t become bad person. The needs and the nature of the relationship changed & we were in disharmony over changing dynamics. Hence relationship needed to end as evolving equation was not feasible or acceptable to one or both of us. That is fair.
And No one should be forced to stay in relationship that is seen as an unhappy compromise. Hence, I strive to keep wonderful person in the ambit of a wonderful ex and friend.& move forward to find someone equally or more wonderful whose dynamics & thought processes flow in synergy with my own. Relationships are fluid & there is no formula.
It’s not known product you buy off the shelf with warranties & guarantees. Sometimes you just make wrong choice, sometimes you need someone better to suited to not just you, but also your environment & your evolving needs. As for possibility of a return, well to each his own. Personally, I give the ex a window.till time I get into my next relationship, and after that, window for return is sealed shut but friendship & good vibes stay forever. If thought or sight of your ex affects you, there is an unhealed part of you that needs to be addressing.
Being friends is best way to know you are over it, and that you are the able to move forward with clean heart & that your inner strength, balance, optimism, and the priorities are in place.
Breakups are the hard. Losing companionship of your ex is part & what makes breaking up so difficult, and especially if you were friends before you started dating. And This article will teach you how to determine whether or not you are ready to be friends with your ex, & how to go about establishing platonic friendship with him or her.
start friendship with an ex in hopes that you will get back together, then you are definitely not ready to be the friends. And Take some time to seriously consider whether or not you are really ready to be the platonic.
If you are an unsure of your feelings, consider this question.How would you feel if you learned that the your ex is seeing someone new? If imagining your ex with the someone new makes your face turn red with the rage, then you are the probably not ready to be friends.
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You are an exception. In most cases, the main reason people keep in touch with their EX is because there is a child or children that resulted from the relationship and that link can't be severed. So they HAVE TO see each other.
Also, if you are in a happy relationship with a steady solid partner, your EX doesn't need to be anywhere near you. What purpose would they serve? “Oh! He (or she) is just a friend.” Yeah right. If your new partner does not OBJECT, then maybe your new partner has an EX. Not EX as in ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. EX as in somebody EXTRA on the side they can play around with, while you're having a friendly relationship with your EX.
Think about it.