When Children think they are Special

It is not just ‘spoiling’ the child by giving him or her everything.  It is when parents imbue their children with some sense of superiority which makes them unable to function in the real world.

It is only when the parents die that the true damage is revealed.  That what exists is a person who can not manage their own affairs and needs to be assisted, although there is nothing wrong with them, mentally or physically, save that ‘spoilage’ by their parents.

My friend, David, a son, a man in his 40s.   I found him an obnoxious sort and assumed, by his speech and behaviour that he occupied some position abroad.

I learned that the ‘boy’ was nobody, worked nowhere, and was sitting in Daddy’s office to ‘help’ Daddy because he could not find a job.

I recall describing a situation I knew, for a fact.  I knew it because of particular connections and information that had not been made available to the general public.

The ‘boy’ smugly dismissed what I had said, and began to lecture me.

I was about to open my mouth, but then thought, “When faight de tawk, lit yu pipe”, meaning, when a fool a talks don’t say anything.  This was followed by something I had heard from a friend’s father; “When you argue with an idiot, it is hard to remember who is the idiot.”

So here is a ‘boy’, deep in his forties, whose Mommy and Daddy have so spoiled him that he holds this sense of superiority to the extent, he is unemployable, semi-educated, and still expects his parents to look after him.

When his father died he was left on his own, the business his daddy had went away and he begged his Daddy’s friends to help him.  But they knew he was beyond help.  That no where in his personality was that door in the wall.

Most of the biggest failures were spoiled brats.  Kids who grew up thinking they were superior and capable when they were pathetic fools.  Some take on Daddy’s business and soon put it out.  Some simply remain in Daddy’s house until they are tossed on the street.

Parents must insure their children are capable of taking care of themselves, without Daddy’s business.  Capable without being able to run home when they fail.