Categories: Pregnancy & Parenting

Children need Friendly, Accepting Father

All children needed not one but many chances to be around with their parents, to be enjoy their companionship and to do many different things with them.

Mom is easier to communicate with since children have closer bonding with mum better than dad.

Ironically, most working fathers are used to coming home from work after a long, tiring and strenuous day at the office or outdoor tasks.

Most dad would prefer a quiet home, a time to relax and no children voices that irritate their mood.

If only father could be as friendly as mother, he who could accept any questions asked by his children even though he is tired and exhausted, I am sure children would be happy looking forward to dad’s coming home rather than looking for mum for answers.

#1 – A boy needs a friendly and accepting father

A father expects the best features and elements of his son that he wanted him to be 100% perfect in all aspects.

However, this will bring the disadvantages to father and son bonding.

The father who brings his son out to a badminton court for practice, expects his son to catch and serve every shuttlecock without any failures.

Constant criticizing, insulting remarks and unfriendly tone, makes his son feel like a bad boy inside.

The boy would gradually reduce  the interest in sports activities with his dad, lack of confidence to perform better infront of his dad and reluctant to go outdoor by giving excuses.

Contrary, if his dad is friendly, giving positive approach to failures and words of encouragement to help his son to cope with disappointment, the boy will not give up easily, strive to become better in the next practice and to feel approved by his own dad.

 

A boy with a male body

A boy does not grow up as a man just because he has a male body.

In order to allow a boy to feel and act like a man is to be able to imitate his father’s behavior, character and attitude as a boy should be.

A boy doesn’t not have the ability to copy the fatherly figure of his dad unless the man approved, accepted and loved his son  as his own flesh and blood.

Hence, a father who wanted to help his son to be a man or a boy to grow up comfortably, he should not:

  • get impatient with his son when he cries
  • scorn his son for playing with little girls
  • scorn his son for playing with dolls and kitchen toys
  • force him to play “manly” games like rugby, football, soccer
  • Call him a “cry baby” or “girly”

A father should learn to enjoy his son companionship, share secrets with him, make efforts to greet his son , answer questions and show interest of trivial things that his son had achieved.

 

 

#2 – A girl needs a friendly father

A friendly and accepting father plays a different role towards his daughter .

Both roles as a father to his children are equally important in the household.

A girl may imitate his father behavior up to a certain age.

She treated her father as her “hero“, her ideal “man of her dreams“, the person whom she wanted to lean on when she has problems.

As she grows older, she will need her father to give her :

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  • confidence in herself
  • welcome her to join in any activities
  • provide her security, protect her from harm
  • Give her words of encouragement when in need
  • help her to carry out difficult tasks
  • be proud of her daughter’s achievements
  • approve her aspirations in different aspects
  • give her opinions when she asked

The crucial part of being a father is when your daughter has started to mix with guys around her age.

It is important for a father to “act ” like responsible father, give advice, provide different approach about men, boys and what do guys think about girls.

 

A father should allow his children to enjoy the quality time together while they are young.

Do not disregard their existence even though you are tired.

Let there be happy childhood memories of a friendly and accepting father in you!

 

 

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    • It is a pretty sight seeing the bonding of a child with their father. Bringing up a child is joint effort which further strengthens the family. While there are different roles for the wife and husband bringing up a child should be done together.

      • yes, the role of dad is equally as important as mom at home.
        Unfortunately, not all dads would take attention to kids at home after finding work bringing too much stress

    • When I was younger, I see my dad as the best dad in the world, my idol. I looked up to him til I found out that he is cheating my mom. I hated him so much. When I entered college, I studied in Manila and he let me stayed in his sisters house where they maltreated me emotionally. I told him that they didnt treat me right but he did nothing thats why I hated him. Til now I dont talk to him whenever he take his vacation.

    • Having father's bond with their kids is a wonderful feeling. Every child needs a father figure in their lives. When the father is not present in the children's lives, the kids who lack that usually grow up being rude and unruly because they didn't be a anyone to instill discipline in them. When the father is present in th3 child's life th3 child will always I is that there is a figure of authority and that people should behave when he's around. Kids have the mentality that mithers are soft and accomodating so that wouldn't take them as seriously as they would with the rather. The one thing that I appreciate nowadays when I look around I see father's playing the role of baby sitting in the weekends when the mum takes time out, and that's a wonderful thing. They should look forward in doing much more than baby sitting

    • Yes all children want friendly father and mother so that they could their problem with their at home. I think mother and father both must be the friend if children, improves their confidence and enhances personality of the children.

      Parents-children friendship can go hand in hand with a type of guidance which has positive and constructive results. Just because a parent wants to inspire the growth of their child, it doesn’t mean that the rules must be drilled into them like a sergeant does for his new army recruits.

      Discipline is obviously necessary in a child’s early years because it is the parent’s mandate to ensure the child is kept safe and their well being is looked after. But once they get the basics of safety—don’t run out on the road unless you want to get hit by a car and touching the hot plate ends in a serious burn—-they are able to manage these aspects of their life themselves. This is when a true friendship can begin to properly develop.

      A parent should also be above their child’s behaviors and not get sucked into the drama of their life. They should embrace them for the fact that they are children.

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