I still remember those trial times when my son who was still a toddler, always said “NO” all the time to me, regardless of what I told him to do.
My toddler love to give a “No” for an answer, without even pause to think over.
Whatever I say, the answer is “NO!”. Be it instructions or suggestions.
It was driving me crazy, almost went nuts when I couldn’t get my toddler to listen to me.
Although from the surface, you can see that my toddler is disobedient, he is actually struggling for his independence.
By saying “NO” towards parents instructions, he is betting his disloyalty with parents giving away without obligation.
In other words, it is a threat that toddler gives out in order for caregiver or parents to give in.
If your toddler obeys your “NO”, that means he is admitting that you have the authority, you are the commander over him.
That is why when a toddler says no, he is putting your authority to a test, whether you will give in when he insisted with his “NO!”
However, your toddler will gradually start to stop rejecting your instructions, obey your commands obligingly when he started to understand your reasons.
Firstly as a parent, you don’t have to say NO to your toddler everytime because he learned to say NO from you. Remember, little children imitate adults action very quickly. Say “NO” only when it is necessarily. Appropriate reasons such as for health reasons, safety causes and sanity are compulsory for parents to say “NO” . Use it when you are required to do so. ( For example: No to touching the plug, No to touching the glass, No to standing on the stool or No to going near the gas stove ) DO not say “NO” easily without even thinking twice. The most effective reason to say “NO” is during the critical situation surfaced. In addition, avoid using the word “NO” often. It will become a bad habit that is hard to break.
Do not wait until he touches the dangerous item before you say “NO” because it will be too late to stop him from doing so.
When you anticipate his wrong doings, you will only worsen the situation. Your toddler deserves to be trusted if you tell him in advance that he is not suppose to do dangerous acts, with good reasons. Don’t just say “NO” – don’t touch the plug without giving him a reason. He will learn to understand, embedded in his mind if he listens to your “NO” reasons daily. If your toddler fails to live up the trust that you had in him, then you have to stop him immediately, when he started to move. Don’t anticipate him doing dangerous actions.
Sometimes, parents need to take a positive talk to the child in order not to scare him with your sudden scream. Some toddler would be startled with your “NO” scream out of nowhere. Instead, try using “Please don’t touch the plug” that sounds pleasant and not commanding. “NO, don’t touch the plug” sounds like a threat. If your toddler listens, say “Thank you” which will give a positive effect that makes both parents and toddler happier. You will notice that your child would reduce saying “NO” to you soon.
When you say “NO”, be serious, take charge of your words and mean it. When you say “NO”, be ready to follow with your firm and stern action that shows no negotiation towards your curious child. Otherwise, he will misunderstood that your “NO” is still changeable as long as he cries, whines or insisted on touching the dangerous item. Do not laugh at your toddler’s antics that cheered you up. Regardless of tricks he has under his sleeves, be firm with your “NO”. This is a serious talk that shows your authority as an adult to take care of your child. Say it, mean it. Don’t waver.
Always make it a point to give your reasons behind your “NO”. Explain in a simple way with words that your toddler can understand. If possible, show him and act out what will happen. This will make him to understand why he shouldn’t do it. Avoid complex reasons because children cannot understand with words they had never heard before. Concise, simple reasons will lead your toddler to follow your instructions. Hence, he will stop saying “NO” to you .
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Your experience is true but all the children say NO at home at every talk they do not learn what other activities parents do at home in leisure time. There are a few children who do when be negative trends on child birth more active my one of the nephews does so the same exactly at home. Your tips are useful for the children childhood upbringing. I appreciate your tips.
I still recalled those sweet memory with my kids when they were toddlers. They were very cute when they were the cutie pie but annoying when they keep saying “NO!”
My kids never practise this style during their toddlers period maybe I never ask Yes or No question. I assumed they didn’t understand what’s the meaning of “No” and just didn’t bother them. Were I a bad mum in this case? I have no idea too. Haha!
Kids can be so cunning and annoying at the same time, but you cannot afford to be mad at your toddler because it's going to be your loss. Your kid may have annoyed and will still go I to do what they like to do and even forget that they annoyed you at some point. So like your saying that when you tell a child no always be stern and follow that no with action that way they will know that what they did it what they want to do is wrong. That way they will not rpeat the same mistake knowing that they will be purnished for any mistake that they make. A lot of the times kids will always want to do or say something just to see how the parent will react. And if you react harshly then they would think you don't love them but a form answer will make things so much better.