More than often, I have a bad habit of repeating my instructions to my
son or daughter that sounds more like nagging than giving commands.
I always get this remarks from my son which I believe you may have
encounter this conversation quite often;
Mom, you DO NOT have to repeat the same thing again!
I know! I know!; yelled my 7 year old son.
Majority parents like me, with school age kids and teenagers, do find it
difficult to trust our kids without constant reminders.
Recently, I met a friend who was a former doctor, I enquired her about
my parenting problems.
Make sure your child is paying attention to your commands.
Look into his eyes and speak with firm, serious tone.
Let your child know that this conversation is urgent and had to be
done as soon as possible.
Make sure he is not playing gadgets (cellphone,Ipad,etc) , listening
to music or watching TV.
In addition, ensure that your child understood what has to be done.
Request your child to repeat the instructions you had given in order
to check whether he had understood them.
Once you have set out your commands, remind your child to
accomplish the task at a specific time given.
Then, put in some confidence on your child that he can do it
without rapping it over and over again. (rap means repeat ).
Quit nagging over the same issue which can be very annoying and
irritating to your poor child.
He may feel disappointed that you had lack of trust and confidence
in him.
Show your child that you put your trust on him and give it a chance
to prove himself.
Before the time is up, give him a 30 minutes reminder so that he
could still accomplish the task.
At least, you had given him 2nd chance.
If your child had failed to carry out the task that he had promised
you, do not start lecturing or scolding your child without giving him
a chance to explain.
Even though he may be wrong and irresponsible, let your child know
that he had to bear the consequences of the mistakes and
acknowledge the negligence without pointing fingers at others.
Point out to him that your trust in him is important, not a play thing.
You can remind him the story of “The Boy who Cried Wolf”
Let your child knows that you are firm and consistent with your
actions and words.
You meant what you have said, no turning back.
Do not allow your child to get away the punishment with any
negotiations even after constant whining, pleading or putting up a
sad face to show sympathy.
Although he may not like to face the consequences, your child will
learn that your words carry weight and full respect.
Do not go lenient on him when you are in good mood.
Show your child that you are truthful and abide the rules you had
stated.
Then your child will understand that “trust” is important and a
good habit to keep relationship between parent and child stronger.
Does your child carry out the task you required him/her to do?
Any excuses given?
Do share with me your opinion. I would love to hear from you.
Cheers!!
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Very nice tips i badly miss your drawing after losing blogjob @peachpurple
I don't have any offsprings. But it doesn't mean I don't have any idea in trusting a child. In some point, it differs to age-group. I would do your tips for those children who can understand simple rules.