WHY, WHO OR WHEN WE PEOPLE LIE? HOW TO BE FREE FROM LYING AND REDESIGN OUR LIFE?

Lying is a very common occurrence in our everyday lives. But what happens to relationships, to society, to our characters when we lie? Why we lie?  Who lies most? There are many questions about lying.

WHO LIES MOST? Research says, the people who are more MANIPULATIVE, lie more often than people who are less MANIPULATIVE because they tend to care only about themselves,  they generally don’t care about other people. They are always worried about what other people thinking of them. They are always worrying about the impression they are making on others.

Next, the people who are LIMITLESS EXTROVERTS, lie more. They can’t realize how often they are lying. They are versed in social niceties and practice them as their social interactions run smoothly.

Next, The people who don’t want to take responsibility or want to run away from responsibility of their mistakes and don’t want to face the situation or the truth, lie most.

Sometimes, people lie:

1. To please oneself or or please others.

2. To avoid embarrassing situations or truth about oneself.

3. To avoid unwanted conversation.

4. To get benefits from others.

5. Sometimes, lie for social needs.

7. There are some arrogant people who lies to stick on their point or to prove their points.

8. People lie to influence others.

9. People lies when they are afraid of something.

10. We have seen that some kids are lying. But why? Little kids are dependent on adults for their very survival.         They don’t want to be in trouble with the adults they depend on. So, they take their easy way to avoid                   problems; as they easily say, “no! I’m not!” or ” no! I din’t do that!”  or “no! I didn’t eat that!” etc.  Children         create their own imaginary world in their play. Sometimes they are not clear where to leave!

Lying may seem simple and harmless at first, but gradually like an addiction, you will soon find yourself trapped more than you could have ever imagined! The big problem is , it becomes very tough to keep a track of all the lies.

Effect of lies can lead to stress, unhappiness and mental damage. It may lead to physical damage as usual. Lying requires a lot of efforts, and tough to remember all serially. Arthur Markman, PH.D., Executive of the journal ‘Cognitive Science’ says, “The moment you lie, the stress of formulating a story causes your nervous system to release cortisol in to your brain. If the lie is massive, you may even experience an adrenaline rush, your heartbeat quickens, your pupils dilate, and you begin to sweat. Your brain recognizes that your lie may have put you in danger, so the fight-or-flight response kicks in as you gear up to defend yourself.”

In my view, some lies are good when we don’t want to hurt others. If someone asks: How do I look? I feel good to answer: great! I know I am lying, but that time it is good for both of us.

Sometimes, people lie for no reason with ease and find comfort in it.  Seems they are pathological lyres. What is this?  “It is a behavior of habitual or compulsive lying.”  It was first described in the Medical Literature in 1891 by Anton Delbrueek.  The individual may be aware they are lying or may believe they are telling the truth.

Excessive lying is a common symptom of mental disorder.

Is age linked to frequent lying? Research says, that as age increased, the number of lies decreased!

How to come out from lying:

1. Figure out why you lie.

2. Make a  commitment to stop.

3. Identify your goal.

4. Get help your own people.

5. If you can’t say something true, then don’t say anything at all.

6. practice actively telling the truth.

7. Learn how to face the reality.

8. Try to be honest from the core.

10. Build good relationships. Redesign your own life.

 

 




  • Barnali sarkar

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    • no one should lie or hurt any person or do something lead to this at the same time
      but courtesy should be there, dont be too honest or express the opinion that may do harm other people or then that what called truth and not lying is called rudness. thank s for the good post there

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