I was wondering most of the time in the previous years, should a person follow the common practices by societies or in a group?
The common things I see in my life is that, gender differences. Different gender practices are always the topic to discussed about and facing since I am young. For so many years , I had been living in this world, parent educate their children behavior according to gender, how a female or male behavior being consider as acceptable or unacceptable in the society.
One of it is, Male should not cry and must be tough, where female is allow to cry because they are soft ; male should be independent to cope with every single problems, while female can voice out their problems. I do not agree with it. If you want to cry, just go ahead, why does people care so much about a male is crying as crying is one of the emotions or even they have problem, just feel free to speak out to the others. If a person is upset and force themselves not to cry and keep their problem to themselves, everything will be suppressed and later leads to other mental disorder such as depression. There are many times, I see some male, talking their problems to their others friend, their friends will started to laugh at them and tease them as “Gay”.
Or they think that, they have the ability in completing complicated tasks and in the end, if they are unable to do it, that’s it. They need to face the unwanted consequences and stressed out. I am not trying to mean that guys unable to do complicated tasks; just that, everyone must understand their limit. Don’t force ourselves to do something that we are unable to do. It is fine to get help from external resources.
For female, they are usually view as “soft”, need to depend on others while doing any tasks. People might think that female is easy to be bully. When a female try to stand for their rights, and voice out their disagreement, ready to face competitive games, people might think that, is this girl a “Tomboy”? Should a girl be dependent to others? We female have our class.
Usually when young, female, seldom go out to socialize and stay at home helping their own mother in house works. I remember when I was young I was being told ” You are a girl, you should stay at home and not to go out. If you are a boy, then it will be fine for you to go out.” Same goes to my others female friends. Oh my God!!! What will happen in the Future when adult? The Interpersonal Communication skills is not well train because most of the time staying IN THE HOUSE. This is affects them being in their own world without understanding all the happening outside their house. If all the girls follow in such a way being view, how can they manage their life well?
I mean, this kind of gender stereotypes can be ended from home. How parents educate and brought up their child. It will be fine to adapt any behaviors from both genders. Being a human in this world is about comfortable in our life, not wearing an uncomfortable masks. For me, I thinks that, being yourself, is more important than following the social common practices. It will be fine being what we feel comfortable with as long as we do not hurt ourselves and third parties, rather than keeping everything inside us and just follow whatever others do.
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The blog does not apply to the modern women. There is no such thing as gender discrimination in the society. A lady is not expected to confine herself to a house and do the activities relating to cook, childcare, cleaning the house etc.,
It was during old days distinction was made as to the tasks meant for females and males. The task meant for ladies were not attended to or given to males. This is due to the weak body constitution and the natural sensitivity to attend to more difficult and tough task. The males were to attend to the difficult task and to do hard work. They were all treated with respect and honor as they are supposed to bring good name and fame of the family and keep up the family/s name in the society
Today nobody is asking her to confine herself to the sensitive and delicate work at home They are attending to all types fo work efficiently than all men. They are fighting for their rights and financial freedom They are even fighting for their entry into the temple on par with men. We do not know whether it is for good or bad.
Nobody is stopping her from moving freely on the roads and reach home like all males.
It is not as serious as now. Unfortunately there are some minor gender stereotype still happening. Things that we cannot see in the public but internally. My surrounding, there are still people living in this kind of gender stereotypes.
To me IT IS REALLY RIDICULOUS. We should respect each another and why have to tell them what they MUST do?
Indeed there are a lot of modern women, but there are still men and women being view in a different way in the society. SAD case.
As to men who are not into crying, I don't think it would lessen their manhood to cry. I admire men who cries when they must because they show their human side.
I think the case of women just staying at home and helping their mothers are of ancient times maybe. Even my mother, didn't experience that whenever she tells us of her stories of her growing up years.
And it didn't even happen to me nor my sisters when we were growing up. Though our parents assigns us task as to who would wash the dishes in the evening and after breakfast and lunch, but never to just let us stay at home, but just let us play with our playmates outside. They assign us those tasks because they teach how to help at home even if we have a helper to clean and cook in the house.
Yup. Those guys who know how to express their feelings, I too admire them. At least can look at the human side, as you said. They are transparent to everyone and not hiding behind the mask. They are not ego to show out their inner feelings. I dislikes those guys who pretended to be very strong but actually, somehow, they are upset inside. As a friend to them, we too would like to comfort them but when looking at them trying to pretend even though in front of friend, I just feel that that guy does not trust me as a friend. Friendship won't last long without trust.
Moreover, if that guy is our family members, we will be even upset when knowing there is something wrong in him and he keeps on hiding. We wish to help but the guy refused to be helped.