Refuse negativity and seek positive thoughts.

We often give a special meaning for the negative details and do not pay attention on positive messages, like they were not sufficiently substantial. Every day there are angry comments, unexpected works that destroy our plans for the day, a variety of problems, requiring additional effort. If we cannot stop complaining, it becomes increasingly difficult to accomplish the works, to perform the tasks of good quality, to feel the pleasure of engaging in everyday activities.

The reproachfully perfectionist will never become fully happy. Being imperfect, we need to consult with our inner critic, rather than to search how to please ourselves even more. Scanning own weight and size in the mind, the tenth time listening to the echo of our misguided commentary, condemning the inappropriate emotional expressions, we only increasingly disconnect from the true self, who we cannot fall in love with, because we all the time crazy try to change ourselves.

The fears and accusations – it’s an easy way to trick yourself and feel better, when in fact you feel worse. Role of the victim especially is evident in the pair. Trusting emotions of frustration and sadness, we blame the partner and justify ourselves. Even if we are right at the outset, the reality eventually distorts in our mind, there are a lot of undeserved accusations and there is no more place for the objectivity. We find ourselves in a vicious cycle of accusations, self-flagellation, frustration and dissatisfaction.

Thinking that, no matter what we take, everything is still doomed to fail, we deprive a chance of success of ourselves. Negatively minded people tend to give up on any initiative with the excuse that this is not the right time, unfavorable circumstances, the proposal is flawed, in other words, they always have a reason to say no, and find at least one gap for any proposed decision.

Our habit of occasionally grouch is acquired unintentionally, without worrying about our thoughts. This is rubbish of the certain thoughts. Eventually we become omniscient, spiteful critics, praising ourselves for the each defect observed in the world. Unfortunately, any frustrated man can become such critic, and the cost is very high of such scrupulosity, we pay for it the price of the friendship and relations.

Classification of negative thoughts does not end, there I listed just a small group – it’s just a few lines of our daily thoughts repertoire. We like dissociate ourselves from the world with negativity, constantly being in fear. We feel safe. Without caring about our thoughts, we set a trap for ourselves, and when it works, we just lose time.

So now is the time to listen to the thoughts and, if necessary, to change the perspective of view, afford to break the vicious circle of disappointments, to recover both physically and emotionally, to get rid of riding-hag and bad mood.

If we take a time for to purify priorities, we could see that the greatest fear, anxiety and stress we survive in the most important areas. To have a harmony in the family, quality time for ourselves, assessment or a better tangible reward of the work, we must control the flow of thoughts listed in the priority areas and to ensure a good power reserves.

The negative people infect our mood, seething they share a bad emotions with the surrounding. Person, even in a very good mood, is dependent on the passing state. So, if a friend is prone to complain excessively, you should not really empathize and encourage discussing her problems, because it just might be characterized as a chronic grumble.

There is no a recipe for a fighting with a distrust and excessive self-critical, all the life we are balancing between self-admiration and regrettable disappointments. However, the excessive self-critical frustrates the potential success more than anything else. Only by improving ourselves, overcoming personal challenges, we discreetly are growing up love for ourselves.

When we begin to logically evaluate the thoughts and emotions, we distinguish them from one another. Without a healthy and strict voice of reason, we will not do that. We need to think about our own thinking and to encourage ourselves to seek meaningful thoughts.

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