Power Of Spoken Words By Parents To Their Children

In India, we have culture of touching feet of elders in order to greet them and in response they say live long, may God fulfill your every wish, remain happy …and many more blessings are in list.

Every religion uses power of words to pray and worship, like in Hindu dharma mantras are used, Muslim has Quran, Christine dharma has Bible.

So we are all aware of the power of words. Whatever we speak goes in the atmosphere and affects our surroundings. The house, office, shop, school any place where people speak bitterly always has a tense atmosphere and negative energy flows there.

A place where people speak nice words has a very pleasing atmosphere and positive energy flows there.

The person, who has a habit of speaking nicely, gets more friends and people like him more than a bitter or less mannered person.

How the words spoken by parents affect their children?

It is a universal truth that in children’s view their parents are not less than God.( I would like to mention that exceptions are surely there). Children think that their parents are perfect and whatever they do is right and whatever they say is true. They see their ideal in parents.

Every action taken by parents and every word spoken by them leave an everlasting effect on the personality of children. For example if parents have a positive personality and they use positive and encouraging words while talking with their children most probably children will also develop a positive personality. Given a loving and encouraging atmosphere helps them to grow up with full potentials.

If parents are positive they accept children’s mistakes and weaknesses easily and without unnecessarily criticizing them they help the children to correct their mistakes, to overcome the feeling of guilt and learn from mistakes. Their choice of positive and wise words helps children to focus on their strength rather than weaknesses.

These lucky children do well in life, can achieve heights of success and live happy and satisfied lives.

(I would like to mention that exceptions are always there)

Let’s imagine what happens when parents have negative personality. First of all their negative personality affect the whole energy in the house, negative energy flows there which mood and behavior of each person living there. If parents have negative mindset they cannot handle their children’s weaknesses and mistakes with positive attitude, so they criticize them, they make them feel guilty which do not help children in any manner. The children grown up in these circumstances can never be able to have healthy self-esteem. They lack confidence which affect their whole personality.

The criticizing and cursing words of parents affect the conscious and subconscious mind of children which plays an important role in their whole life achievement, their mental state, confidence, self-respect. They can never overcome the atmosphere and negative feeding during their upbringing

For example if parents say to a child that he can never do well in a particular subject, most probably the child will never be able to do that because this statement affected his subconscious mind and mind accepted it as a  truth because it was said by its parents and they are never wrong in children’s view.

I would like to mention a true story here; it is about a girl full of potentials. It was her bad luck that she was born   in a family where parents had serious personality disorders. Father was suffering from anxiety and the mother was suffering from low self-esteem .they both were negative and criticizing personalities. The girl was quite bright in studies and good in other areas also, but the behavior of her parents affected her badly. She could never be guided in positive and encouraging words. She was criticized badly for her every mistake, rarely told how to improve. She suffered low self-esteem and lack confidence in everything she did. Many times I heard her mother cursing her like- it’s you who will regret for your deeds, you will never be happy in life because you are being a bad girl etc..

I still know her. She got married to a person who does not deserve her, she has two children both suffering from some health issues, and she herself is not in good health condition.

When I see her I feel that her mother’s curse had real effects on her whole life. It is really sad.

I wish no one ever uses negative words to anyone.