The man who hits his wife for the first time tonight, will have hit her the first time. Not the last.
The first hit is usually a one off slap, and he will apologies and swear it will never happen again.
He may punch her, than collapse crying, claiming, she ‘made’ him do it.
That first smack is only the first.
No matter what he says or does it is only the first. For having hit her once, he now has permission to hit her again.
And he will.
He will provoke an argument. He will do something completely ridiculous; like running a paper shredder when she is trying to sleep, hoping she says something so he can beat her.
He will take out his frustrations on her, beating her for meaningless and ridiculous things.
And the wife will tell herself, “I’m not an abused wife…our relationship is different.”
This is not ‘different’.
That is what women say;
‘Oh it wasn’t like that. I annoyed him…”
“Oh, it was my fault, I knew he was upset and…”
“He isn’t abusive. This is different.”
Women say this for a few weeks, months, years, depending on how stupid they are.
And then they realise, they have married an abuser. A man who needs very little excuse to beat anyone weaker than he is.
An abusive husband is a man who relies on the fact his wife loves him. Relies on the fact that the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual abuse he has meted out on her over the days, weeks, months, has changed her character. Has undermined her independence, her self-worth, her self-respect.
He relies on the fact that the verbal abuse has been so internalised by her that she accepts she deserves to be beaten.
Physical abuse continues until one of the partners is dead or leaves.
Abusive men will abuse successive partners. Hence the man whose wife left him because of the abuse will marry another woman whom he will abuse.
He needs to beat women and often his children. He needs to feel in control. He needs the power of the physical abuse.
He will put his wife in the hospital and she will lie to protect him.
Many times the wife doesn’t leave because he beat her, she leaves to protect her children.
If she doesn’t leave on her feet, she may leave in a coffin.
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Why do we women like to take blame and cover up for our men sometimes I just don't understand why we do that. And it's women all over the world. Why do men do wrong and get away with it most of the time. Is that they are better than the women or what sometimes I don't understand but I guess that's the way life is. Women were created to be understanding, warm and holds the family together.
Very sad I am reading the article with weeping eyes because domestic violence is the production of parents who do not teach their children how to deal with women and neither the teachers teach the students how to treat with women.
I say Woman is the name of respect and love and nothing else. Educated peoples considered woman a toy to take enjoy is a wrong thinking because woman has production power and a positive force of nature. I have already written a detailed article name(I am not a woman, I am force of Nature)
All must read the article for just for information. Those who make cruelties on women are coward such persons must not marriage. They scandalize woman and love in the eyes of public. I wonder there is not law for such person. Why?
i hate those men who make physical violence on women without a solid cause.
Relationship partners who are abusive often have a high need for control. This need for control can stem from low self-esteem or jealousy.
Sometimes abusers come from backgrounds in which women are seen as inferior to men and they assert their dominance over their partner through abusive behaviors.
Low self-esteem can also lead people to stay in abusive situations, because they do not believe they deserve better or have the power to get out of the relationship.