What happens when parents raise their children to be children, not human beings
Dave was fired. It amazed him. Nothing remotely like this had ever happened to him before.
Yes, he had been given warning that if he didn’t improve he would be fired, but it was the first time in his life that the warning was followed by the action.
All his life he had been given ‘alerts’ as he would call them. But he always ignored them.
Born in the 1990s he experienced what I call the ‘feral’ practice of child rearing.
The 1990s is when parents ceased to raise their children, that is guide and teach them, and adopted the feral style of parenting. That is they let the kids to do whatever they please.
There is no attempt to toilet train, to teach them limitations, to respect other people, and, of course, to discipline them.
Dave did what he wanted. No specific bed time, no being forced to do anything, never ever was hit by his parents. The world belonged to him… or so he was told.
He went to one of those pampering pre-schools then, into primary where no one fails and so no child feels left behind. A school with very low standards which catered to children like Dave.
This is why Dave grew up in the belief that there were no penalties.
He went to High School, didn’t have the grades to get into college so went to a two year institution and emerged with a diploma. One of his father’s friends got him the job.
He was informed of the time he was to arrive, when he was to leave, how long a lunch break he could take, all the usual rules and regulations.
But Dave never obeyed rules and regulations. Dave never had to.
So he worked, as he pleased, he was spoken to, he was given his written warning, and shrugged. Now he is fired. Yes. Dave was fired!
Unbelievable!
Dave is going to have a difficult time getting another job. He can never use this company as a reference.
This is a very strange awakening for Dave. He’s accustomed to the politically correct euphemisms. He is accustomed to the world trying to please him.
At his play school, an autistic child was described as; “She doesn’t like to share.” This was to maintain the revenue the parents paid to the school, and do the usual under the carpet sweep.
In Primary School a a bully was described as; “has trouble interacting with others”. Not that he needed a good beating and tight restraints.
Dave, who was lazy and disinterested but did have a few bursts of genius was described as; “Shows great promise.”
Dave is astounded his employer could write;
“Is consistently late, does not obey instructions, has been warned not to conduct personal business on the phones and computers, but seems incapable of recognising authority.”
Dave thinks he can sue the company for some sort of ‘libel’ because they didn’t say nice things about him.
The Tragedy for Dave, and those like him, is that having been kept in a protective womb they are eventually born into a world where saying No to an Ape is standard.
It is his parent’s fault. They never disciplined him. It is the schools he attended which rewarded laziness and ignored breaches.
Now, all grown up in the big world, Dave is like a two year old dirtying his diaper and bawling for someone to clean it. Alas, no one will.