Once and awhile a television programme or motion picture hits upon the most perfect scene, one which encapsulates an experience, an emotion, an idea.
There is a scene in the television serial Poldark, (season 2 episode 8) when the central character, Ross Poldark, decides to go to another woman, Elizabeth, who had been his fiancée before he went to fight in the war, and who had become engaged to his cousin just before he returned.
Elizabeth married his cousin.
Poldark hired a kitchen maid, Demelda, and then decided to marry her. The marriage seemed happy and stable. Then Francis died and Elizabeth decided to marry George, whom Ross Poldark despised.
He learns of this late at night, and immediately decides to go to Elizabeth.
Demelda, the wife he assumedly loved before hearing the news, is standing there, trying to stop him. It is so clear that if Ross has to box her in the face and step over her unconscious body to get to Elizabeth, he will do so.
Demelda sees it, and steps aside.
That frenzy of lust, that absolute commitment to leave his wife to run to another woman is perfectly captured. For that is exactly how it plays in real life.
It is, for the wife, the most unforgivable action a husband can perform.
It is not simply going out, it is not simply being in ‘pre-adultery mode’, it is the complete and utter focus on getting to that other woman because she is the only being existent in his world.
Any woman who has ever experienced that event will never and can never forgive; it is a renunciation of her existence. It is a withdrawal of all affection, respect and even casual recognition of existence.
When a man is so intent on getting to that other woman, all the wife can do is set aside and after he’s gone, pack up.
Pack up her feelings, her marriage and consider where to go.
It doesn’t matter if he returns contrite and mendicant, the fact it could happen will never be forgotten, can never be forgotten. There is no forgiveness.
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Yes You say right my friend that human is betraying since its creation Eve betrayed Adam and causes the base of downfall. If Eve doe not deceive Adam we all become heaven without woes and worries with Huris beautiful women of paradise.
I have pondered over one thing that how women are attracted to self at last I find the secret from the flying tamed pigeons. When opponent's pigeons come in the flying tamed pigeons they owner throws colored millet on the floor to create doubt in the pigeon's heart. At last it caught by the owner sitting on the roof of the pigeons.
The same formula is applied in the women's nature. Precious gifts are given to the woman and the women's heart becomes dishonest from his friend, husband or any other relatives, the same formula applies a girl on the lover she wants to trap. She sends smile gift to the new lover and makes her heart dishonest from the first lover and thus she or he succeeds in his or her mission.
Clever woman traps man through her cunning will power and man is trapped easily because the will power is more power full than iron chain really is a fact. Thus man and woman deceives and cheat each other but actually they deceive themselves.
The point is the lust. That is clearest reason why it is 'deadly'
@jhsayyar
I think that tv and movies in general sometimes promote a way of thinking that is too drama. They are indeed perfect scenes of emotional conditions and it is very entertaining to watch.
But, how we will intend to react upon all this when a similar or same situation arises in our own life?
I used to watch some soap operas and until teh end, they became very annoying and empty, there was nothing to watch.
I think I was almost always annoyed by the intentional quantity of drama.
The fact is, that the scene perfectly captures a real situation. Any woman who has ever tried to stop her man from going to another woman, knows how perfectly that scene captures reality.
Trust me, a man wanting to go to his gal, will box down his wife, kick his child across the room, because he is no longer a man but something like a bull in heat.
Betrayal has been anyone's cup of tea, but again even when it happens it can be forgiven but not forgotten. I may forgive you but that doesn't mean that i will trust you again. I will always be doubtful about you no matter what, whether your telling me the truth or not. Anyway betrayal is a hard thing to take its not easy to take in it hurts so bad, and at that particular moment someone is usually in so much pain and shock that they don't know what to do next. Walking out of a marriage because of betrayal may not be the best option it would just cause a lot of heartache instead. Many people have been heard broken and decided to leave the marriage and once they did that, what they got ahead turned out to be worded than what they had experienced. So what's best your better off staying with the devil that you know than the Angel that you don't. Usually when someone betrays another it's not because they want to but they are pushed by circumstances. You may find one is doing it out of revenge, or as a rebound, others it maybe because of jealousy. So betrayal is brought about because of mistrust between two people.
If a woman allows herself to become so weak, so helpless that she must depend on a man, to the extent she can't leave, than she is 'forced' to stay and be humiliated.