@Lee Ka i am from Pakistan and the language is URDU Ammi for MOM and Abbu for DAD 🙂

@peachpurple My mom speaks Cantonese in her home, and my dad spoke another Chinese dialect (similar to Hakka), but when they met each other, they spoke in Mandarin. I guess that’s why we spoke Mandarin since we were young. Both of them are Chinese educated and so we are.

I can’t speak my own Chinese dialect as well, we only speak Mandarin at…[Read more]

i call my Mom Ammi and Dad Abbu :))

@kaka135

is your mom or dad Mandarin spoken in his/her family?

Like my family, my parents are english spoken, so I don’t speak Mandarin at all until I started to work.

I admire those family who speaks Chinese dialect.

This helps the kids to embrace Chinese dialect to the next generations.

My nieces and nephews plus my kids do not speak…[Read more]

@morgoodie

Gee, your case is quite different from here.

Most of my friends who are the middle child don’t have to do much.

Their existence seems like not existing at all in the parents eyes.

In addition, they are very lonely. Not fit in the family that kind of feeling.

They don’t get anything or favor.

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@slayer08

Being the middle child, you don’t get favouritism.

Thatis the advantage to me.

You don’t have to be involve with siblings rivalry!

How i wish that i am not the older child, too much responsibilities to bear

@morgoodie Yes, I agree with you, though the c-sections were not planned, as long as the children are healthy and well, we are happy. That’s why I chose to have c-section as well, as I didn’t want to take the risk after trying hard for quite some time and my first child still couldn’t get out. Though many of my friends have commented I should keep…[Read more]

@ruby3881 If not calling parents “Mom” and “Dad”, usually how others call the parents? I always wonder how you call the elder brother or sister in English, do you call them by name as well?

@peachpurple That’s not true for Ipoh ladies. I do not know where the rumor came from, though I have heard about it when I came to KL and studied. 😀
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@peachpurple  That makes it hard to be close to people after things like that happen. I know that I tend to keep myself distant to people because I never know when someone is going to turn on me. I tend to not trust people and I do not like feeling like this, but when more than one person betrays me it is hard to trust others. I like to keep most…[Read more]

Middle child syndrome. The middle child is always the one who gets left out. I was subjected to my sister’s feelings of being the middle child. I always get the mom and dad spoiled you because you were the baby of the family. By the way, this is totally unfounded. I was born 8 years after my older sister, so it was pretty much like being an only…[Read more]

I am sorry about your loss. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage, but it is not something that I talk to much about. I had a hard time after it happened because I did not know anyone who went through it and that made me feel alone. It is not easy to explain the feeling to someone who has not gone through it.

I have also had my babies by C-section. I had to have one with my first because I was having problems with my blood pressure and after being induced twice which did not work, my doctor felt it was necessary to get her out. So my second baby had to be by C-section since my doctor did not do vaginal births after C-section. Not how I planned to have…[Read more]

@sunil It’s truly sad to hear that. But, I guess we just have to accept what God gives us and be thankful for what we have too. My baby is having higher risk for down syndrome, I was really sad when I heard this news, but then after I have calmed down, I think this is a precious gift to me, no matter how he is, I am still thankful for him.

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@Lee Ka that’s what we did, we planned to limit our children to two but as the fate would have it our plan misfired on us. When my second child, a boy left us at the age of 4 months we had no option left. We  feel so sorry for him but we are thankful for what we have.

@slayer08 Actually I never think 3 or 4 kids are a lot, though many people nowadays think that. I am thinking of that too. I am going to have my third child soon, but I am not sure about the fourth, due to my age.

My advice is if you would like to have more kids, perhaps you have to plan for when you want to have your first child, and the age gap…[Read more]