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    kaylar wrote a new post, Attention Deficit HyperActivity Disorder; Another Scam 8 years ago

    When I first heard of this “Disorder”, my first remark was; Rubbish, (a bit more XX than that, but you get the point).

    I said it because over the years there has been an upswing in what I call Artsy Craftsy […]

    • Maybe. Maybe not. I can understand you giving your opinion about it but that’s only what it is your opinion. ADHD and ADD are being used too much on children that actually don’t have it, that part is true but those that actually do have it may need a way of doing things differently than other students. A child can have a learning disability and never get diagnosed. They can then turn into adults that struggle through life finding it hard to find and keep a job. So I wouldn’t call all diagnoses fake.

    • Put it like this, if you grew up in the 50s there were none of these diagnosis. No one had it. If you go to a 3rd World Country, (not the rich areas, the common ones) no one has it. No one has any of these maladies.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Why You Should Not Ever Work for a Boss From Hell 8 years ago

    If I told you about this man, everyone’s blood would begin to boil. He was and is the most complete hypocrite I have ever met. An ex-friend of his, (a psychiatrist) diagnosed him with Narcissism, so you can s […]

    • I agree with everything you said, however, I did not get the full message you are bringing on board. There are so many details lacking which are capable of addressing the issue if one works under boss from hell.
      For example: one can be given an appointment letter detailing every bit of the work to done. However, working in the same company for couple of times, you realize that the whole job description given you has changed and time of closing shifted far beyond expected.

      You realize that day in day out your boss has new task which he or she always wait till the last minute when you are about to close from work.

      And even, times where you have to concentrate doing something for yourself, he brings item on board which you only have to be responsible for.

      The worst aspect of working with such a boss is, he is quick to criticize and praise less or no praise at all.

      He focuses on himself most of the time when it comes to training on the job.

      And there are more talk about unending and I hope your article could articulate in these aspects.

      All in all you did well.

      • What happens is that when you develope ‘coping mechanisms’ they tend to be negative. Since you know he will criticise everything you do, you leave documents fester on the computer until he signs off. If you want less work what you do is make an easy error so that by the time he sits down, reads the work, finds the error, tells you to correct it, you, get more free time. You get free time because you know the error and while he walks away, you make the correction, leave it on the computer for tomorrow. Hence the ten files on your desk, stay there until tomorrow.

        You see how non-productive one can get.

    • It was, on reflection, not as much of a job as a chance for him to exercise his narcissism. To have an audience.

      I have tried not to hate him, but it is not easy.

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    kaylar replied to the topic How do you control your anger in your work force? in the forum Group logo of ALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTSALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTS 8 years ago

    Working for some one who effects your equilibrium and makes the office hell is not productive.

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    kaylar replied to the topic How do you control your anger in your work force? in the forum Group logo of ALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTSALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTS 8 years ago

    I am not a coward.   But I found myself developing some very negative traits. Unworking, uncaring, sloppy….  no.  I can’t let someone corrupt me to that extrent.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, You Got What You Wanted, Now You Don’t Want What You Got 8 years ago

    We were sitting in a posh restaurant,  having a happy conversation, deciding on what we would order.   There was a group at the other table, which had come before us, and we heard them order.

    We made our o […]

    • What has Donald Trump got to do with dining out? LgrinL

      Well, you are right about wanting to know what a dish contains specially those dishes that have fancy names.

      • You always have to know, and ask. Or else…

        This article was rather pro-active for just now, January 28 2017, people are expression shock at Trump’s actions.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The Ignored Power of Hate 8 years ago

    I am often surprised by the inability of people to appreciate the absolute power of hatred.   For some reason we are to believe that ‘love’ is a great power when it is only in few situations that it manifests. […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Why Waste Anger on What ? 8 years ago

    A number of years ago I was having an argument with a guy called Gordon.   A chap called Jeffrey asked me to step over for a moment.

    I left Gordon, took the twenty steps to Jeffrey and he, point blank, asked; […]

    • That is my view. Why care? If you can’t change it, walk away. If you can, do it.

    • An angry man is a mad man any day. One should be able to control is anger. The strongest man is he who is able to control is anger however the weakest man on earth is he who cannot control is anger. The reason the world is in the state it is today (war everywhere) is because some people were unable to control their anger at some point in life of this world. That is my humble submission.

    • Anger is the fume of depressed soul and its expression appears on human mind in shape of anger in practical field. Anger is a natural human emotion, and it’s not always negative. It can help you know when you’ve been hurt or when a situation needs to change. It’s important to learn how to process and react to your anger.

      Frequent feelings of anger have been linked to higher risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, depression and difficulty sleeping. This is especially possible if you experience highly explosive anger or your anger is extremely repressed. Fortunately, you can learn to understand, process, and release your anger in healthy ways.

      When you’re feeling angry, doing some moderate exercise could help you. A study by the University of Georgia suggests that moderate exercise (such as running or riding a bike) during or immediately after an upsetting experience can help you manage the experience of anger.

      When you exercise, your body releases endorphins, which are natural “feel-good” chemicals that make you feel more positive and happy. If you’re unable to run or ride a bike, consider walking, stretching, and other easier forms of exercise.

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    kaylar replied to the topic How do you control your anger in your work force? in the forum Group logo of ALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTSALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTS 8 years ago

    I once had a Boss From Hell.  And what happened is that I stopped caring about everything.   So did everyone.   I recall when the office was not unlocked on time, I went across the road and hung out.  It was a lovely social encounter.  No one cared.  Everyone eventually left… only the whack job secretary remained.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Beginning to Watch Television Online 8 years ago

    The idea of watching television online might seem odd, at first.  Then the thought of control,  of being able to view programmes when one wants,  coupled with the realisation one can view programmes that might ha […]

    • I watch TV online only when I can not find the programs on regular television. To be honest, I don’t really like it because of the annoying and interrupting glitches. Would much rather just watch TV. But sometimes what I want to watch is not on TV. Thank the Lord for the Internet! 🙂

      • When you don’t live in the US or Britian you get catch as catch can TV. They will run House, for example, maybe part of the first season, then a year later, part of the third… nothing in order.

        And now they bleep out everything… hell, damn… nothing you can’t hear… and it’s better to watch on line where there are no bleeps or commercials.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The Great Game; Understanding What is Really Going on 8 years ago

    During the 1800s one family sat on the various thrones of Europe.  Queen Victoria’s children married into royal families around the continent. Eight ruled Britain, Greece, Norway, Prussia, Romania, Russia, Spain […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Holding Some One To Ransom 8 years ago

    The helper in the kitchen at my weekly meeting site, used to heat water for me. I’d come in from work, just want a cup of coffee. I brought my own coffee. All I need was that cup of hot water.

    One day she t […]

    • Trying to be as independent as possible is the way to go. But have you noticed if you are independent you are not liked much. I am experiencing it.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The Third World, Dumping Ground 8 years ago

    Once a Jamaican gets something in his head, nothing gets it out save decapitation. Currently, the usual scam jockeys are pushing colloidal silver as the great cure all for everything from diabetes to […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, When People Think you are Inferior 8 years ago

    Many years ago, when I was attending the University of the West Indies in Barbados, I used to walk down the hill to Paradise Beach Resort. I used to act as if I were a guest at the hotel, so enjoy the chaise […]

    • Those think inferior are those who are jealous and have evil past due to which they think that other are inferior and they are superior such persons fall prey to inferiority complex in real life. But the main cause becomes jealous and greed.

      Actually inferiority complex an unrealistic feeling of general inadequacy caused by actual or supposed inferiority in one sphere, sometimes marked by aggressive behaviour in compensation.

      Most of us compare ourselves to others. Mass media beams in the finest looking, richest, and most talented people into our lives 24/7. This creates the illusion that we ‘know’ all these beautiful, clever, younger, athletic, rich, able people. Because we compare ourselves to people we know, this illusion of knowing air-brushed ‘have-it-alls’ can make us feel correspondingly worse about ourselves.

      An inferiority complex is a general feeling of not being ‘up to the mark’. Now, I want to distinguish between knowing and feeling. I know I am inferior to Bill Gates financially, to Stephen Hawking intellectually, to millions of men aesthetically; but this knowledge doesn’t bother me one iota. Knowing you’re inferior in some ways is very different from feeling inferior.

      Knowledge that you might sometimes compare unfavourably to others may just be insight and perception. It’s crazy to try to pretend that we are all as good as each other in all ways.

      • I would not use the term ‘inferior’ because I don’t think that is correct. I can not fix the pipes as can the plumber, I can plant like the farmer, I can play cricket like the professional but I do not call myself inferior.

    • I know exactly what you are saying.Very often if people think I am American they treat me with much more respect. The idea that a non American can excel is difficult for them to grasp.

    • The attitude of inferiority is why so many Jamaicans resort to scamming… if the tourist thinks one is not at intelligent, they don’t protect themselves and the ‘inferior’ rips them off.

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    kaylar replied to the topic How do you control your anger in your work force? in the forum Group logo of ALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTSALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTS 8 years ago

    For many people, they couldn’t care less about the work place.  They go there to get $$ and aren’t the least interested in anything.  So nothing is going to bother you.  It is only when you care.

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    Anitah Gimase replied to the topic weening in the night joy in the morni. in the forum Group logo of Prayer Changes All ThingsPrayer Changes All Things 8 years ago

    These days people have become lazy in doing chores or working. I remember the other day a friend of nune who owns a company said to me that when young people go to their offuces looking for hovs, th3 first thing they want to know is how much they will ve paid, they dont even ask what the work entails, and he thought if at all that is what th3y…[Read more]

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    Anitah Gimase replied to the topic How do you control your anger in your work force? in the forum Group logo of ALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTSALL ABOUT YOUR ANGER AND HURTS 8 years ago

    First and formost am those types of people who keep quiet first when am angry i don’t react immediately. But in your case, i think its a matter of jealousy why would you want to sack someone on the grounds of looking good? Instaed of sacking th3m why dont you also try to keep yourself up to date and look your best instaed of looking at another…[Read more]

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    Anitah Gimase replied to the topic Small Family or Big Family? in the forum Group logo of Family & RelationshipsFamily & Relationships 8 years ago

    No i don’t think the size of the family matters at all. What matters is how people relate. Anyway i will speak from my point of view and my family. In my family we are very few right now we are only 5 people. My mum sister and two brothers. We are auch a small family but we get along pretty well. small families are easier to manage and also easier…[Read more]

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    Anitah Gimase replied to the topic Time to study. in the forum Group logo of NewBiesNewBies 8 years ago

    If i can go back to my school days reading or studying was something so routine that if you didnt study at a particular time people would say that you are not serious with your studies. There was so much to do that when your parent or big sister or brother saw you not studying th3y would give you work to do so that you dont stay idle. there was…[Read more]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Why Emotional Intelligence is Important 8 years ago

    In previous articles I have mentioned Emotional Intelligence .   I gave an example of an obvious case of Emotional Ignorance and went on to show a genetic propensity to the kind of mistakes people who have no co […]

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