I think every culture teaches us to respect and value the elders. Thanks to you for sharing the culture of fillings, the practice is so nice and full of respect, I didn’t know about it.
There is always much things to learn from elders. Young generation should never fail to gain benefits from their wisdom.

I just acquired my senior citizen card. I don’t like to be called a “senior citizen” but the card has it’s privilege.:) At my age it is unavoidable to not look back to the past and see a lot of “what if” questions rising up in my mind. Do I have many regrets? The honest answer is “Yes, I do”. But I’m also a pragmatic person and wallowing in self-pity is a waste of time. There are only a handful of rules of living. One of which you mention. Living in the moment. Accepting whatever life throws at you, both the ups and down.

I respect and understand your feelings. It is unavoidable to think about past and the dreams we could not work on, the targets we could not achieve but it is not beneficial to regret. Living in the moment allows us to forget the pain of past and enjoy the time and blessings we have right now. We still have a chance to make life more beautiful. More meaningful as we are still alive. We have a chance to leave something good for our next generation.

Obsession is a very bad thing, and why would we even be obsessed with someone who is just as human as we are. I mean obsession can cause you to do very bad things in your life. You are better off not even startin because the road that you are taking at that particular time is not a good one. We often think that when we get obsessed with someone that is when they will love us more or maybe we will get much more from there. For me i have never been in such a predicament, i always try to love someone to the best of my knowledge and not adore them because now that because a dangerous thing. But I can remember someone who was in such a situation and it weren’t a nice place to be. You know that idea of someone always calling you sending you text messages after every twenty minutes, that’s a terrible obsession. She even used to stalk the guy everywhere, and her excuse was that she could not leave without him. That is pure nonsense to me. How can you behave like that towards a guy it doesn’t make sense at all. This girl kept on with this thing until the guy finally decides to move house, chwnge his phone numbers and any contact that the girl had. He literally ran away from her because he had no peace. She then found out where he was and found him and the game started again. This time the guy went to court so that he could get a court injunction and only then would th lady stop stalking him. It was a devastating end for this lady and it took years for her to recover.

I agree with your point that obsession is a bad thing. Love and affection is very different and healthy then obsession.
I read your story about the lady who was suffering from obsession disorder. It’s really sad, it didn’t only destroyed the patient’s life but the subject was also suffering.
This is very painful truth of human lives.

It’s scary for the center of the obsession. You cannot go out without thinking that the obsessed will follow you wherever you go.

He can also stalk you in social media. And if not given attention, he can do some drastic moves, to make you like him.

In every way, obsession is bad. It is an excessive wanting of something. It is said that in all things moderation is the key, but not with an obsessed person.

Hmm, let me think what I am obsessed with. Food? ha ha ha

I also feel like I need to start focusing on my health more, I am always tired and have headaches, the only reason for that is that I don’t look after myself like I should. I think yoga might be a good place to start, thank you for planting the idea in my head.

I do not think they choose to live alone but circumstances are such that they have no other alternative.

Actually, some old people choose to live alone because they don’t want to live the house where their children grew up.

But if they have a choice, they would want a companion or even one of their children and family to live with them . However, the children when they already have a family of their own and they are making good in life would choose that they also have their own house with their family.

Besides, some old people choose to live alone because they don’t want to be a burden to their children. In this case, the children should provide them a helper at home to help the old people.

In this modern age, the old people are with cellphones and tablets. At anytime, they can call their children for help.

You are right that attachment with the house where they spend most of their lives and where their children grew up means a lot to them and they don’t want to leave that house.
Sometimes even if a child wants to compromise and try to live with them in their house they may feel guilty of coming in the way of their progress and don’t feel really happy or satisfied,In that case arranging help and required facilities is good idea.

Yes, we are not in the same country. I am Indian and I am talking about the changing conditions of the society. It is our culture also to take care of our elders and do not leave them alone. Many families still do that. But in the mordenisation of society and changing demands of the busy life have effected many old practices.

Agree with the the point mentioned in the blog. But the point is still more complex. If the elders are staying on the own independently then it is a different thing. But what I observe in India is that the generation nowadays would want the elders not only to take care of them since the time they were born as children but they want them take care of their children too. As they may be both working and hence cannot take the responsibility of the child well. I would only tell parenting is a joy an experience to be cherished. If a couple cannot take care of their own child then how will these people take care of their parents. That is the sad fact of life. It is better not to expect anything from the current generation as they cannot take care of themselves in the first place.

As for the few who do take care of their parents, the children and themselves properly. My salute to them as they are being a proper role model for their children as how they should be when they grow up in life. A good blog touching a very important subject.

I agree with your point that a few elders like to stay alone. One reason is that they cannot be active any longer. They also need more rest than what is available when they are in company of others.

We also have people like us who like company of grand children and our son/daughter and enjoying their company. good day

You are right there are still elders who like to live with their children and grandchildren and that is so nice.