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    bestwriter wrote a new post, T5 lighting a great electricity saver 7 years, 9 months ago

    Everyone the world over is concerned about how to save energy which has now become a rare commodity. There is over consumption everywhere and efforts are on at every nook and corner to find out ways and means to […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Monphobia, the morbid fear of being alone 7 years, 9 months ago

    In a previous article  I wrote about people who hate their own company. People who can not bear to be alone.

    This led to a very peculiar discussion with someone in real life.   She spent some time telling me t […]

    • You mention that the condition is treatable, how is it treated?

      • Copied from psychological journal….

        The most frequently used form of therapy is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and systematic desensitization or exposure therapy. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, about 75% of people with specific phobias overcome their fears through cognitive-behavioral therapy.

        In desensitization or exposure therapy, you are exposed in a safe and controlled way to the object or situation you fear. The most commonly used exposure therapy involves gradual encounters with the fear-producing object, first in the imagination and then in reality. Through repeated experiences facing your fear, you begin to realize that the situation, while possibly unpleasant, is not harmful. With each exposure, you feel an increasing sense of control over your phobia. This sense of control over the situation and yourself is the most important benefit of exposure therapy. As you become desensitized to your fear, you no longer react with uncontrollable panic when confronted by it.

        Relaxation and stress relief techniques are frequently an accompaniment to other therapeutic approaches. Relaxation techniques may include things like specific ways of breathing, muscle relaxation training, guided mental imagery, or soothing self-talk.

        Medication can also be used in the treatment of monophobia. Drugs do not “cure” a fear of being alone or any other phobia, but they can temporarily suppress the symptoms through chemical interaction.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The Problem with Word Limits 7 years, 9 months ago

    Today, considering twitter, flash fiction, and sound/word bytes, people tend to get to the point as quickly as possible.

    When you are reading an item on line, the longer it is, the less you read.   In fact, if […]

    • Sites such as this benefit with long posts as the Ads linger on.

      • That is a myth. That is why so many sites demanded 2k words. They thought the longer item would prove the site was ‘serious’. What happens, and you know it for yourself, is that you write an article, it is ‘too short’ you go back and start stuffing words. You’ve said everything you need to in 287 words. But you have to stuff in more. And unless you actually can find another clause that is necessary… blah blah

    • I think it is understandable that in an online earning site, we are there to earn. Thus, we are in a hurry to be able to post and earn more by the comment it would get.

      Thus, we know that our time to read is limited, so we also try to make our posts shorter, to also give way for us to be able to read and comment to friend’s posts.

      However, in a writing site such as here, there is a minimum number of words for a post to be approved to be published. Thus, I see a lot who are sometimes just beating around the bush just to meet the minimum number of words. I hate to say it, but they are rubbish posts.

      Although, some would really go detail by detail, so much so that one would think, is this copied from anywhere and would be checked by Admin if they really are.

      So here, you can sense if a post is just being made just to conform to having the minimum number of words. You have just read a few paragraphs but you already know what is being pointed out, because sometimes as go on reading , the writer seems to be already drifting.

      Funny, but this is true to some posts here. Can we not just post shorter but substantive posts. If a post needs explanation , then a long post will do.

      • We are on the exact same page… that is how I feel. I write and try to get to the point. The best writers do that… so if you want to know what monophobia is and do a search you DON’T WANT TO READ…

        “People all over the world suffer from Monophobia. You probably know people who suffer from Monophobia. Yet, Monophobia is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of…. (blah blah blah)

        You want to Read:

        Monophobia is the fear of being alone and can make a person feel insecure, anxious and depressed.

    • I think it is good to write as short as possible.The only good fact is that the message and reason of the write up should be made as clear as possible.There is no crime in writing more words.This may either be for more clearance or emphasis.

      • The modern style is to be as quick as possible. Get to the point as sharp as one can and avoid the ‘very’ and other wasteful modifiers. Although 300 words here is not inordinately long, the fact is that when one finishes their sharp article and has to add 30 or 40 words… they rarely contribute.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, When being ‘at lunch’ is missing opportunity 7 years, 9 months ago

    I want you to imagine someone of importance in your country.  Whether a politician, a celebrity, a major personality, just imagine this person coming to your office.

    Imagine this person coming, unexpected, to […]

    • Yes, that’s a lost opportunity indeed. However, that person shOuld also consider, that no one knows that he /she is coming. That’s how it should be.

      Because if the celebrity could have informed that he/she will be coming, then for sure that employee will wait even if it means forgoing of his/her lunch and do it once the given time to arrive has lapsed and no one came.

      And in this case, the person who was asked as to where the employee is should be responsible enough, to call the said employee if it is a V.I.P who has come to speak with him/her.

      • In many cases, one doesn’t know that a special visitor is coming. No one knew Barack Obama would want to go to the Bob Marley museum. It wasn’t until he had landed, checked into the hotel, that the calls were made and those who were there were there, and those who weren’t were not.

        Rem. He couldn’t advertise where he was going too far in advance for security reasons.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The Consummate Politician; Angela Merkel 7 years, 9 months ago

    There are some people who want power.  Who will sell their children to get it.  And if they get it, once they get it, they will never let it go.

    This is Angela Merkel.

    If one follows her career they will note r […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Cell Phones make Spying So Easy 7 years, 9 months ago

    Having been involved in a specific legal matter in Jamaica, I was stunned by the fact that the Cell company, all cell companies, keep records of every call made; when, where, who… and in cases, record the […]

    • Yes, they really do.

    • I think when we are to speak in a phone, we have to make our voice modulated for others not to hear. It is not a good manner to be talking loudly on the phone, because you might be diturbing other people when you do that.

      And as to spying using the phone, I think it will take the government first to ask permission to hack somebody’s conversation when it is of utmost security risk that they are trying to prevent.

      • Most people talk so loudly and disturbingly as if they don’t realise they are being heard. Gov. doesn’t ask permission. The information is there. They just tap in.

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    bestwriter wrote a new post, Experts that deal with full grown trees 7 years, 9 months ago

     

    There are companies who are specialized in doing everything that is centred round full grown trees. . With a service like that  trees  receive topnotch care be it in a private garden, a public place, a ho […]

    • I think in the countries like India, managing the trees is an Art, a social activity, a welfare activity. Every care needs to be taken for the maintenance of tree. The technology mentioned in the blog is available not in all countries. Only a few countries can afford to adopt this technology.

    • Many trees have been killed and uprooted here to give way to massive housing and commercialization of agricultural land. It’s sad to see them go little by little. There are local mandates but overall it does nothing to conserve much of what we used to have.

    • When a strong typhoon hit our province, the big and old mango tree beside the garage turned into a snack house, was uprooted by the strong wind. Good thing, it didn’t hit any part of our house since it is far from it. Though it damaged the roof of the eatery and my sister had it repaired.

      Going back to the old mango tree, my father hired two men to saw the big trunk of the old mango and had them made into just round stubs of trunk and now a nice ornament by the lawn.

      Then they carefully cut the rest and had it as woods for cooking at our dirty kitchen.

      Big trees need the expertise of persons who are into cutting trees, lest they will just be cut into woods to be used for cooking and it will be a waste of the beautiful craft that can be made from it.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Gaslighting; a form of light torture 7 years, 9 months ago

    The point of torture is to destroy the will of the enemy.   To have the enemy reveal whatever it is the Torturer wants.

    It may be troop movements, secret plans, confessions, and have the victim question his/her […]

    • Widely used in India by the indian intelligence and security agencies, large companies allegedly google, tata. A victim should learn to ignore the lies

      • It is not easy to ignore… watch what is happening in America… every day another lie. It has reached a stage one believes nothing.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, People who hate their own Company 7 years, 9 months ago

    Nan can not bear to be alone.  It is nearly pathological.  If she is driving anywhere she wants someone in the car with her.   She has virtually hired people to live in her house and be available to be th […]

    • I really wonder why people fear to live alone. This is really a boon to be alone. There are many advantages of living alone. This is a test for someone to equip themselves for their future success without any disturbance or diversion of attention.

      This should be practiced by all young people to be alone without any fear. This is a warmup match before taking up the real one in life. A writer can never be a writer without observing the people. A scientist can not come out with any new theory unless he lives alone and throws his mind to the applications and reading the books.
      A footballer can not play his game unless he sits and plans the strategy for himself while dealing with so many attackers. He can not plan how to penetrate and tore the defense of the opponents in the match.
      I think this is only a temporary weakness of the people to be afraid of living alone.But,once they practice it is not a major problem for anybody.

      • I fully agree with you. It is so important to be able to function by one’s self. Yet, today, so many people seem terrified of it.

    • Indeed there are a lot of people like that. They just have to have somebody in their company.

      I am proud of myself because I learned how to be by myself most of the time. Even at the office, since I am alone in our office room most of the time, because our boss seldom takes her office here but instead upstairs in the affiliates’ office, I learned how to enjoy my own company.

      I would always switch on my cell phone’s radio to FM stations where deejays would be in twos and be making jokes in between playing of music. That way, I feel that I am not alone. I laugh at their jokes even while I am alone in the room.

      In shopping, I love doing it alone. That’s because I can go on fitting clothes for the whole day, without being bothered that my companion is already getting tired. I eat when I am tired already and would continue fitting and shopping for clothes and shoes and bags.

      My husband knows that, because I don’t like bringing him when I am shopping for myself, since he complains it takes me so long to choose what I have to buy.

      I love my company. Though of course, I have lots of friends too.

      • I don’t mind being alone. I do like shopping alone so as not to inconvenience anyone. I like to make my own food … I seem to like pepper more than others. I am amazed by people who hate to be ‘alone’.

    • A good discussion. Everyone should learn how to be stayed with own self or home alone. It’s an important task for everyone.

      We live, walk, breath, and sleep alone is a good and free thing, no need to take care of others feeling and adjust life style due to other.

      I love to be alone or have “me time” after having 2 noisy kids at home.But, they only will be made no noise after sleep. Hehe!

      • It is so important for people to be able to function on their own. To be able to fill their time and thoughts without outside assistance.

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    kaylar replied to the topic Support replied me , do read to know in the forum Group logo of Thinkers GroupThinkers Group 7 years, 9 months ago

    I can appreciate a ‘checker’ flagging an item which holds a quote, but any human glance will be able to distinguish that from plagiarism.  In fact, it makes the article more substantial when one can supply the authorities for the point being made.

     

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Why Trump constantly blasts the Press 7 years, 9 months ago

    It is twenty five days since a new President took the oath of office in the United States.   From that day, there has been a barrage of lies emerging from his mouth, and the mouths of his pimps.

    These are not […]

    • So how did trump find his way into the republican races to contest for the presidency of america. so people all over the world are now becoming educated fools than those who have never step a foot in a classroom before. What explanation can be given to people who voted for trump with all his lies and behavoiur during the campaign. My beef is those black americans who supported trumps after all his heat speech against the black race.

      • You and I are on the same page. Black people who voted for Trump, well, they must be the descendents of those who sold their brothers into slavery in Africa, then became slave catchers in the West.

        The supporters of Trump, the real ones, are right wing White Americans who don’t think ‘Black Lives Matter’. You note, since Nov. we haven’t heard anything about Police shooting unarmed Black man anymore. Cause it’s happening, and not being reported.

    • very good content..
      thanks for the sharing.

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    bestwriter wrote a new post, Nature is up in arms against the world 7 years, 9 months ago

    Nature is no longer following rules.

    In the good old days farmers knew exactly when it would rain, when to  sow, when to harvest, when to harvest and so on.  That system is now history. Nature is playing up, d […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The Genesis of the Television Serial 7 years, 9 months ago

    In the 1940s, when television was just beginning, the dramatic presentations were created to be simple, singular programs, just in case there was some sort of ‘abrupt ending’; such as the star going on to movies […]

    • I like those soaps on TV on which at the beginning of each episode the would show snippets from the previous one and towards the end would also show some snippets of the next episode.

      These next episode snippet really make the people motivated to watch the next episode.

      However now, if I wasn’t able to watch an episode, I can just open it on their website at anytime and watch all the past episodes. Very nice isn’t it, because you won’t miss any episode anymore.

      • Living in the 4th World, where we don’t get much good TV I’ve been watching on line and have found that the best, most popular series are story arc. The change in American television has been slow but steady.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Plagiarism, Spin, and Other Rip Off Writing 7 years, 9 months ago

    Years ago, a particular on line publishing site had many ‘Top Writers’ who were the chief farmers in having the site condemned as a ‘Content Farm’.

    A Content Farm is a polite way of saying; “Cow Pasture”.   To […]

    • Yes. I agree with you. Recently the are many who are coming up with some original content. What all they need is to make them understand what a plagiarism and spinning amount to. They are the original content writers. They write on their own. If somebody as per the norms and rules finds some words or sentences he can not be blamed for plagiarism. This happens mostly in dealing with articles relating to science, history, and other professional subjects. Here the idea becomes important than the words. How a content has been projected becomes important. One can not alter the terminology in writing an article on PHYSICS. One can not use his own word or definition for the terms ACCELERATION, velocity, moment of inertia etc., Whoever writes on them they carry the same definition and usage of words. We can not call it plagiarism.
      similarly, the dates in the history or the names of the rulers can not be changed. What needs is the expression and the angle from which a content has been projected.

      • That is the fact. One can’t change facts… how one deals with them is what must be examined. There are many good articles here… but also there are some which are not.

    • Yes, I have noticed that a lot here have very nice articles, very well written. But if you try to see at the net if they were original, you will not be surprised at all that they were actually plagiarized.

      Most too are spinned as you have defined them above.

      That’s why, I find it hard to post here, specially that it has to be a minimum of 300 words.

      Mostly, I just write based from my experiences that most can relate. At least, it could create interaction amongst those who can relate to it.

      I feel sad though, that here interaction is dismal. Our posts hardly gets responses. I hope it will get better soon.

      • What I find is that without moderation… welll… people do take advantage. Spinning an item is a term of art. For as I say; if you wrote about Queen Elizabeth in 2010 and then go to write about her again, if you have a new perspective it isn’t spinning.

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    kaylar replied to the topic I wont' anymore be active in writing blogs in the forum Group logo of Thinkers GroupThinkers Group 7 years, 9 months ago

    Okay…Support… Thank You.

     

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    kaylar replied to the topic I wont' anymore be active in writing blogs in the forum Group logo of Thinkers GroupThinkers Group 7 years, 9 months ago

    There is something wrong here.   I can’t understand the dropping of revenue.  I am getting concerned about the management of the site.   I did complain about the Sloooooow moderation but was not anti-mod.    I also note how much our blogs No Longer value.  You can get like 10c instead of the 50c I think we used to get.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The Continuous Rudeness of Cell Phones 7 years, 9 months ago

    It is Sunday night.  I am in bed.  There is a buzzing from the far corner. I open my eyes and see the cell phone flashing.   It is flashing because it is Permanently on Silent.   It is permanently on silent bec […]

    • It is a general for all to receive a call from an ‘unknown’ in recent days. I prepared myself to face the disturbance the day I purchased a cell phone. What is the problem now? The morning before 10 only persons from office to inform well in advance about their absence or sanction of leave? Nothing else. In the evening after 10 anybody in the office is free to disturb me the reason being
      1. Holding an important position. Any Public Representative will feel it convenient to disturb me when the Head is not available for seeking information relating to Govt., work.
      2. Even Head does not feel it as he himself needs some information on files as Boss
      3. Colleagues and relatives may at any time find it necessary to call upon me as a courtesy.
      How can I avoid them? No way. This is the minimum respect and courtesy to answer their call if they happen to be relatives and friends and it will be the responsibility to clarify the doubts and furnish information to the Public Representatives and to the Boss respectively. This I can not avoid.

      But, I can’t sacrifice the happiness of the people at home by attending. Instead of causing a disturbance I found a nice way of keeping my cell phone on FLASH only.
      Even at the time of taking my breakfast, it will be ready at the side of my plate and ready to flash to make me alert.

      I generally do not like people who do not answer a call and plead excuse saying ‘I was in traffic’. I advise them to keep their phone on Vibration mode while in traffic or attending any social gathering where the chances of listening to the phone will be very less.

      Responding to a call shows what you are meant for a society.

      • I really disagree here. This is my life. I don’t have to be on call to whomever feels like calling me when it is comfortable for them. I am not a slave. I don’t have to jump when anyone calls. A person calls I have a right not to answer.

        A person is driving and the phone rings; let it ring. The person’s life is at risk. And when I am with my friends, no… I don’t answer. The people around me are more important than the caller.

    • I appreciate cell phones, especially, my android. I do, agree, that it should have a proper place in our lives. Families are too caught up with their cell phones at the dinner table that we have forgotten that it is a time to share and enjoy each other’s company without that distraction. I know a Pastor Friend who is with the phone 24/7 and is, constantly, getting calls. While I respect his position to serve others, there should be some consideration that his family time is important. Priorities play a strong role in regards to the use of phones.

      • Exactly Caleb, if we were having dinner I would not consider it proper to have the cell phone at the table. Cell Phones have become the leashes on humanity.

    • Since the advance of the technology from Internet at home until nowadays we have our smartphone with those communication apps, there are companies expected their workers to answer the call and message after work. Some employees even need to attend calls, messages and emails after work. To me this is totally unfair if there is nothing important. After work, they should be given a time to rest. Wow, if employees got to attend the managers or boss after work, then the company is really in a profits. They do not need to pay the employees overtime.

      During my father times, not everyone owns a cell phone, therefore after office hours, others don’t have chance to call each another.

      There should be a respect to people who had off work and resting at home.

      • Everyone should shut off their phone when they leave work. They shut it off and that is the end of the annoyance. The point is, as soon as I say ‘shut off..’ everyone looks at me as if I suggested they eat their relatives. This is how brainwashed people are.

        When I told the BFH I shut off my phone his mouth dropped open. Under no circumstances would I ever answer a work call outside of work.

    • Me, since my contracted phone is from my monthly load allowance, I see to it that the phone is always with me, because my lady boss might have an instruction for me.

      Besides, my sisters might call for an emergency news since my father is already 84 and has diabetes and with one leg amputated already so I always would answer it even if it’s at night but this never happens.

      As to those unregistered phone numbers, usually they are from my credit card provider to offer me a supplementary card, though they don’t call after 5:00 in the afternoon.

      As to my boss, she wouldn’t call on unholy hours although for her, his boss calls even at 2:00 in the morning when an idea suddenly appeared on his mind.

      • That’s the difference. I only like to talk to people on the phone when I feel like it. Not when they feel like it.

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