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I simply hate all those so called infants who don’t have the ability to take their decision on their own. Your parents should be your guide who shall refrain you from doing anything wring but depending on them for each and everything is completely unacceptable.
Such people can never ever live a happy married life. This is a hard fact and if parents don’t realize this and try to make there kids independent then they are really ruining the life of their children.
It is a reality of life that each and every child has his own life and will have to manage it on his own as well. This is really important for everyone to understand.
It is the choice of parents whether they want to raise dependent kids or successful kids.
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Exactly. Parents have to raise people, not children. Independent, capable people
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Fortunately, I was able to raise our child well. At her grade one in elementary I initially taught her on her homeworks. Then I would review her for her tests.
However at the middle of the school year, she told me that she can manage already and would just ask me for help whenever she can’t understand her homework. But since then, she never asked me again to assist her on her homeworks. She was one of the top 5 in grade one.
Comes, grade 2 she was the top 2 and she graduated valedictorian in elementary. At high school, she was a scholar at a Philippine Science High School. So with when she was at University of the Philippines. She graduated cumlaude.
Because she’s a cumlaude, she passed for a scholarship at a posh hospital’s school and graduated in Medicine as top 3.
Now, she’s a doctor. 🙂
What is a bit disappointing though, is I feel that I wasn’t much needed by her in terms of her studies. Though, she raves fro my cooking and would request for them whenever she’s at home for vacations.
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The point is to teach a child how to learn, and step back and let them. Once you gave her the basics, she’s supposed to be able to manage. It is like teaching her to ride a bicycle. There comes a point you let go. And she goes on herself. So you did a very good job.
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For me, much better if parents will teach their children at the young age to become independent. In that matter they will grow independent, wise, and can be able to decide for themselves unlike most children who become dependent on their parents in every aspect of their live without having the courage to with their own two feet. Truly, family is the best foundation to teach their children all the necessary values thet should know to become a better person in the near future.
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Exactly. Too many parents smother a child, don’t let them exercise their judgment, and constantly try to make their lives too easy. They don’t develop the skills to be independent.
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It is a big error for parents to always treat their children as kids even when they had grown up. They should allow them to be independent, to learn and lead a life of their own.
Parents can only give some advice if their children seek it; they can just guide their children to the right path of maturity.
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One has to start young, raise them to feel they can make their own decisions, then, when they are adults, they are capable of doing this and parents can be so proud.
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True I have observed many such cases here too. One of the reasons for that is the parents indulging in ‘Helicopter Parenting’. They do not allow children to take decisions and own them up whatever the consequences. They say why are you doing these works we are there for you. Why do you have to go to the shop we will buy what you want for you. Why do you worry about money just ask what you like we will buy it for you. So on and so forth.
This same trend continues unfortunately even after marriage and it will lead to a mess as the children are still having the same mentality of the child and have not grownup. They have not been enabled by their parents. The parents on the other hand feel they have given the best to their children and have taken 100 percent care of this. While they have basically made them incapable, dependent and dysfunctional. A good topic well highlighted.
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During the teenage years, children’s need for responsibility and autonomy gets stronger – it’s an important part of their path to young adulthood. To become capable adults, teenagers need to learn to make good decisions on their own.
The process of helping children take responsibility and make decisions is a key task for parents. You have an important role to play in training and supporting your child to be ready for more responsibility. This means you need to plan when and in what areas to let your child start making decisions.
How quickly you hand over responsibility to your teenager is up to you. It depends on many factors, including your own comfort level, your family and cultural traditions, and your child’s maturity.
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Independence starts developing when you choose to stop actively controlling your child’s life. Instead, you give your child more autonomy and responsibility for her actions in some areas. You might not like all her choices or the results, but learning to be independent and responsible helps your child develop skills for life.
When you’re trying to decide whether to give your child more responsibility for a decision, you have three options – yes, no and maybe.
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You are right; people should not just believe hearsays as if it is the truth, and then they will be affected or stressed by it. It is better if they hear or experience it on their own.
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If people would relax, listen, comprehend, they wouldn’t panic over things and be able to slowly deal with any kind of challenge. But getting worked up about something that may not even be real is the problem.
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yes, right
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People just have to know that they don’t know…
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life has all features we have to take the good one leaving the bad ones. I have been living and leading a life like this. Had I given importance to bad things, my life would have been different without any happiness
So cope with the best leave the rest
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You have understood the meaning of life. One has enough avenues to keep oneself usefully occupied even without having anyone in their life.
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If one has an internet he can be entertained by the many sites he gets to join like this and myLot.
You can share your loneliness and the friends you made can advise and comfort you.
You can download games on your tablet and play with them like what you play the virtual poker.
Actually, I have lots of things to do in the net but I have no enough time though to do them all because I have my full time job to attend to first.
So nowadays, to be lonely and to be happy is just in your fingers or through the net.
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The importance of human being is on the wane as there is enough an more to keep onself usefully occoupied and in fact one is better of sometimes without them.
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You have no chance of winning over an angry person. Yes, just let him say his peace and just be calm.
That’s actually how we are when we are angry, we are ready to attack with our mouth and sometimes with our fists. But once we have unleash it we realize what we have done, but too late to repair the damage that was done.
Though, in what you call the rabid Anti-Putin, it is best to just keep your silence on the subject.
I learn that politics and religion are two of the most sensitive topics actually.
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And when people get too emotional…it is time to run
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Glad you had the opportunity to visit our nation’s capital. 🙂
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That US tour took me to several states. I shall write more about other States as well in course of time.
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I must agree with you on this one. Of all the states visited in my years of travelling, DC was one of my best. I had the opportunity to be a real tourist by visiting the
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I must agree with you on this one. Of all states visited in my years of travelling, DC was one of my best. I had the opportunity to be a real tourist by visiting the White House, Capitol Hill, Monuments etc. We also visited George Town where we went on a boat cruise for my sisters 40th. To be honest with you, I enjoyed DC, they had too many attractions for visitors, from the zoo, to the museums, we also saw the J. Edgar’s FBI building. Dc was an exceptional trip for me, it was not just about shopping alone, which is what I usually do. Thank God my sis insisted on visiting the tourist attractions.
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Luckily, in our clan, most of the children although have grown up are still so close to one another. They may not be with each other always, but when they do, they share stories and laugh non-stop.
Though, there is one family amongst our clan who are divided because the eldest, a son is so greedy. He wants more as his inheritance from the dead mother’s properties. Same with that from his father.
In fact, he is the only opposing one amongst the clan in peacefully agreeing for the share computed for a big resort that the clan owns and will be selling.
But still I am praying that he will mellow and be agreable with the division per family because it was anyway divided equally.
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It has more to do with preoccupation and wanting to spend time with their own nuclear family. With just one or two children in a family they cling to each other and therefore have no time for their siblings.
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I agree. Especially, if you separated from your husband because he beats the wife, physically and verbally.
There are a lot of cases here in the Philippines, where the woman separated from her husband because of that. Then, the husband would ask for another chance and the woman would go back, because of their children who wants them back together.
Sad to say, that the man beats her again physically and verbally.
Now, she has to file a complaint and have her husband imprisoned. That should be what is to be done for a husband who beats his wife.
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When a woman marries an abusive man, he often so destroys her sense of herself, she second guess her actions. Because her confidence is shaken, she makes the mistake of letting him back into her life for dire consequences.
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Trump has always been true to his character even before he became US president. His flaws was always there to see for anyone who bothered to pay attention. For Trump it was “ME,ME,ME First!” During the presidential campaign he use “bait and switch” tactics promising the electorate things he had no intention to fulfill. Unfortunately for him the general public is getting tired of his childish antics and Trump’s credibility continues to erode. He’s like the boy who cried “wolf”.
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He is a spoiled brat who cares for no one but his pocket. The people who voted for him still try to support him, despite his childishness, and stupidity.
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I think, Trump has really been like that indeed since he was a child. And being rich, he doesn’t accept that he commits mistakes, but others committed it.
It’s sad that America has chosen a president who only knows how to make some escapes for the failures he is now making in his governance of the country.
But I hope, the people will unite and he will have a change of heart and hear what the majority wants to improve the country and work together for the good of the country.
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No, I think those people who supported him are so stupid they will follow him off the cliff. I don’t see anything positive coming out of his presidency.
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This book does sound like a great read. It also sounds like a simple read. Sometimes I avoid sci-fi books because they seem complicated. Also science fiction is not my favorite book genre. I like historical romance. 🙂
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It is a great read and isn’t that simple. There are many relationships between the people, and events. If you start it you will finish it.
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