This is a very interesting piece of writing. No going around the bushes in manner of speaking but very straight forward or direct to the point. Yes, the message really hit the mark.

I found the title “The Basics of Being Ugly” a bit amusing and at the same time quite absorbing. Who wants to be ugly in the first place? Everyone wants to be beautiful am I right?

The title reminds me of our college class back in the old days in the Art Appreciation/Humanities especially in Aesthetics. I vividly recall that our professor once told us that in Aesthetics “there is no such thing as ugly, only less beautiful”.

As I understand the writings the word ugly covers both the “physical ugliness” and the “ugliness of character”.

Whether or not there is such a thing as “Martha’s House” or it is a mere fictionalized representation, it is quite intriguing that a group of girls with physical and character ugliness are tied together in one place.

I believed that the development of any person character is always dependent upon the “nature-nurture” thing (genetics and environmental factors).

If and when I’m going to meet those girls in the near future (who knows?) I’m going to be just my old self: just be myself and to carry myself as gentleman.

Okay first and foremost let me just correct you a bit. No one is stupid it’s just that we are all different and we all act in different ways. There are people who are quick to solving issues, and there those that take time to digest and think of ways to solve the issue. We were all made differently. Maybe the way I do things is not the same way you will do yours, the way I will react to issues is not the same way you will react, there are some things that may be a priority to you that are not to me so with all this examples we cannot conclude that someone is stupid because they were not able to behave or react in a certain manner. I remember i us3d to have a girl who used to help me around the house, she used to be so slow. When you told her to do something she would repeat after you whatever you said and that used to make me so mad, but i would still listen to her and give her instructions slowly by slowly one after another. You could not tell her to do like three things at a go because she could not multitask. Sometimes I used to feek feel like I would tell her to just leave whatever she’s doing get out and not come back. But obviously I couldn’t that would be too inhuman. But you the irony is that even with that slowness she had two kids that she took care of and I didn’t have any at time. So if she had the ability to take care 9f two kids would we still call her stupid? Mmmmmhh that’s something to think about right? Check this out we have two categories of people those who are
1 Learned and
2 Educated. The difference between the two is that learned people are those who can be given a situation to solve and they will think with their minds, think outside the box and come up with a solution. And the educated are those who have to use some sort of manual or books for that matter to get a solution to a problem. You see the difference.

Let me indicate this; there is such a thing as stupidity. As Einstein said, it is infinte. To be so politically correct to pretend it doesn’t exist is rather like calling a person starving to death a ‘dieter’.
The ability to prioritise has always been a hallmark of intelligence. There are things every one of us has on the ‘to do’ list.
If there is a fire in the kitchen, for example, sorting the clothing to be washed should be stopped and the fire put out.
The fact that the helper is not intelligent is evident in all aspects. I only focus on this one because it is so obvious that a normal intellect would hear a mutual friend was in the hospital and react, not wash the dishes.
The difference is not ‘learned’ and ‘educated’ the difference is between intelligent and stupid.
Whether you have a Ph.D or have never been to school is not the measure. Intelligence is the measure.

Our daughter grow up surrounded by matured people. I instructed our helper who also is her nanny because me and my hubby are both at the office the whole day, not to baby talk with her.

Of course she started to be able to talk by those syllables first , Mama and Papa. But what I remembered is her for not long being able to talk straight already meaning no more those like twisted tongue.

I think that will really happen if all of us will always talk as we talk not baby talk just so the toddler can understand us. It’s actually one way of teaching our babies outgrow their baby talk fast.

Parenting has its own challenges. Today the children are very intelligent, shrewd and communicative. One has to be very careful before promising them anything as once you make your promise they latch on to it. They keep reminding you that you did not keep up your promise that registers very well in their minds. Parents have to spend more time with their children but at the same time have to be stern where they are supposed to be and see that the children become independent in their lives.

One must try his or her best to see that the child gets the best and has happy memories of his or her childhood. Childhood is the foundation based on which the personality of the child is formed. So due care has to be taken that the child gets the support required. Agreed one cannot give all things at all times and the same has to be told to children and they should be made aware of that. Once they understand that concept they will be wise in money matters.

Women who work night shifts should be more aware of such safety tips; like what you had said, they should at least carry a pepper spray, a stun gun, a long umbrella, to ward off potential attackers. They can also carry a whistle to call the attention of other people, or a burglar alarm attached to her bag which can drive away those bad elements.

Learning martial arts, or keeping fit and healthy is also a plus.

Yes, self defense and presence of mind are very important for women in today’s world. One has to be alert the moment one walks out of the house till the time one reaches her house after going out may be for studies or for work or any other reason. The potential attackers generally try and figure out who is vulnerable after studying them and their movements well and after making sure that one can get something which they want out of them. If someone knows self defense and uses the same the first reaction of the attacker is he is shocked and taken aback as he would not have expected this from the potential victim as it is like a bolt from the blue.

Once this happens their confidence level fall a bit and they become jittery unless there are many. It is better the woman after doing this immediately shout or scream for attention or help from other passersby that will further instill fear in these people and they will usually retreat and runaway. The woman has to see her safety and see that she reaches a safe place before calling for the police if required.

I do agree of Women’s Self Defense, to be very necessary. Women are faced with dangerous situations on a daily basis. Women have to always be vigilant about their surroundings. There have been women who have been robbed, killed, raped, etc. Therefore, it is important for women to learn self defense to protect themselves from harm.

There are classes on learning self defense for women to be taught how to defend themselves in many ways. Besides, in my opinion, learning self defense is also great as an exercise. Learning self defense will definitely keep you in shape.

It is important for self defense to be a part of a women’s life. Developing the energy for accomplishing the teachings of self defense is mandatory in today’s society.

Sometimes women are placing themselves in dangerous situations, unknowingly or knowingly, and not even realizing it until it is too late. That is why women need to be observant about their surroundings. Self Defense is a good tool for women to have and learn!

I agree, one has to be cautious in posting personal matters, photos,etc. because there are so many scammers, thieves, waiting for a clue. It is better to spend time on writing/blog sites like Literacybase.com where your effort and time are compensated.

Had he tried , he would love it here because a long post about a minimum of 500 words can earn him .22 while a shorterone , minimum of 300 words, can earn him $.15 . If he is industrious and have lots of time on the net, he can hit more than the minimum amount for the monthly payout.

Anyway, some people really would snob a writing site at once, because they don’t know yet that writing can give you fulfillment and friends here at LB. Fulfillment, because you got paid and you earn a lot of friends.

Maybe you should show him your proof of payment. 🙂

Same thing I did. I sent Kris two messages about this site… and he ‘doesn’t have time’ When something bad happens to him on Facebook, he’ll learn

I enjoyed reading the Jamaican sayings; it’s amazing how they “poetically” express what they wanted to say or mean. Thanks for posting this informative blog.

Thank you

Mostly of those that I have heard of about men marrying very much younger than them has the same story.

The young woman would shop no end at the expense of the old man. The old man cannot refuse the wife because he knows it’s all that can make the woman happy.

Sad that men would be in such a situation.

Oftentimes when they die the wife will again remarry, this time a man of her age.

That’s the sad reality of older but rich men, they are just wanted for their wealth. And oftentimes, not only will he provide for the wife but for the whole family of the woman.

I’ve know older men who see younger women. They think it makes them look Cool and they in there silly heads feel younger at heart. So silly that younger woman is only using you for ur wallet. So u spend spend to keep her chasing after u but trust once ur money is gone she will be off to her next idiot. Tried to explain this to a couple men and of course they find listen.

It is a common scenario, and one would think if the young woman was deeply in love with the oldie, but maybe in his deep pocket only!

I simply hate all those so called infants who don’t have the ability to take their decision on their own. Your parents should be your guide who shall refrain you from doing anything wring but depending on them for each and everything is completely unacceptable.

Such people can never ever live a happy married life. This is a hard fact and if parents don’t realize this and try to make there kids independent then they are really ruining the life of their children.

It is a reality of life that each and every child has his own life and will have to manage it on his own as well. This is really important for everyone to understand.

It is the choice of parents whether they want to raise dependent kids or successful kids.

Fortunately, I was able to raise our child well. At her grade one in elementary I initially taught her on her homeworks. Then I would review her for her tests.

However at the middle of the school year, she told me that she can manage already and would just ask me for help whenever she can’t understand her homework. But since then, she never asked me again to assist her on her homeworks. She was one of the top 5 in grade one.

Comes, grade 2 she was the top 2 and she graduated valedictorian in elementary. At high school, she was a scholar at a Philippine Science High School. So with when she was at University of the Philippines. She graduated cumlaude.

Because she’s a cumlaude, she passed for a scholarship at a posh hospital’s school and graduated in Medicine as top 3.

Now, she’s a doctor. 🙂

What is a bit disappointing though, is I feel that I wasn’t much needed by her in terms of her studies. Though, she raves fro my cooking and would request for them whenever she’s at home for vacations.

For me, much better if parents will teach their children at the young age to become independent. In that matter they will grow independent, wise, and can be able to decide for themselves unlike most children who become dependent on their parents in every aspect of their live without having the courage to with their own two feet. Truly, family is the best foundation to teach their children all the necessary values thet should know to become a better person in the near future.

It is a big error for parents to always treat their children as kids even when they had grown up. They should allow them to be independent, to learn and lead a life of their own.

Parents can only give some advice if their children seek it; they can just guide their children to the right path of maturity.

True I have observed many such cases here too. One of the reasons for that is the parents indulging in ‘Helicopter Parenting’. They do not allow children to take decisions and own them up whatever the consequences. They say why are you doing these works we are there for you. Why do you have to go to the shop we will buy what you want for you. Why do you worry about money just ask what you like we will buy it for you. So on and so forth.

This same trend continues unfortunately even after marriage and it will lead to a mess as the children are still having the same mentality of the child and have not grownup. They have not been enabled by their parents. The parents on the other hand feel they have given the best to their children and have taken 100 percent care of this. While they have basically made them incapable, dependent and dysfunctional. A good topic well highlighted.

During the teenage years, children’s need for responsibility and autonomy gets stronger – it’s an important part of their path to young adulthood. To become capable adults, teenagers need to learn to make good decisions on their own.

The process of helping children take responsibility and make decisions is a key task for parents. You have an important role to play in training and supporting your child to be ready for more responsibility. This means you need to plan when and in what areas to let your child start making decisions.

How quickly you hand over responsibility to your teenager is up to you. It depends on many factors, including your own comfort level, your family and cultural traditions, and your child’s maturity.

Independence starts developing when you choose to stop actively controlling your child’s life. Instead, you give your child more autonomy and responsibility for her actions in some areas. You might not like all her choices or the results, but learning to be independent and responsible helps your child develop skills for life.

When you’re trying to decide whether to give your child more responsibility for a decision, you have three options – yes, no and maybe.

You are right; people should not just believe hearsays as if it is the truth, and then they will be affected or stressed by it. It is better if they hear or experience it on their own.

yes, right

You have no chance of winning over an angry person. Yes, just let him say his peace and just be calm.

That’s actually how we are when we are angry, we are ready to attack with our mouth and sometimes with our fists. But once we have unleash it we realize what we have done, but too late to repair the damage that was done.

Though, in what you call the rabid Anti-Putin, it is best to just keep your silence on the subject.

I learn that politics and religion are two of the most sensitive topics actually.