This is a very interesting piece of writing. No going around the bushes in manner of speaking but very straight forward or direct to the point. Yes, the message really hit the mark.

I found the title “The Basics of Being Ugly” a bit amusing and at the same time quite absorbing. Who wants to be ugly in the first place? Everyone wants to be beautiful am I right?

The title reminds me of our college class back in the old days in the Art Appreciation/Humanities especially in Aesthetics. I vividly recall that our professor once told us that in Aesthetics “there is no such thing as ugly, only less beautiful”.

As I understand the writings the word ugly covers both the “physical ugliness” and the “ugliness of character”.

Whether or not there is such a thing as “Martha’s House” or it is a mere fictionalized representation, it is quite intriguing that a group of girls with physical and character ugliness are tied together in one place.

I believed that the development of any person character is always dependent upon the “nature-nurture” thing (genetics and environmental factors).

If and when I’m going to meet those girls in the near future (who knows?) I’m going to be just my old self: just be myself and to carry myself as gentleman.

Okay first and foremost let me just correct you a bit. No one is stupid it’s just that we are all different and we all act in different ways. There are people who are quick to solving issues, and there those that take time to digest and think of ways to solve the issue. We were all made differently. Maybe the way I do things is not the same way you will do yours, the way I will react to issues is not the same way you will react, there are some things that may be a priority to you that are not to me so with all this examples we cannot conclude that someone is stupid because they were not able to behave or react in a certain manner. I remember i us3d to have a girl who used to help me around the house, she used to be so slow. When you told her to do something she would repeat after you whatever you said and that used to make me so mad, but i would still listen to her and give her instructions slowly by slowly one after another. You could not tell her to do like three things at a go because she could not multitask. Sometimes I used to feek feel like I would tell her to just leave whatever she’s doing get out and not come back. But obviously I couldn’t that would be too inhuman. But you the irony is that even with that slowness she had two kids that she took care of and I didn’t have any at time. So if she had the ability to take care 9f two kids would we still call her stupid? Mmmmmhh that’s something to think about right? Check this out we have two categories of people those who are
1 Learned and
2 Educated. The difference between the two is that learned people are those who can be given a situation to solve and they will think with their minds, think outside the box and come up with a solution. And the educated are those who have to use some sort of manual or books for that matter to get a solution to a problem. You see the difference.

Let me indicate this; there is such a thing as stupidity. As Einstein said, it is infinte. To be so politically correct to pretend it doesn’t exist is rather like calling a person starving to death a ‘dieter’.
The ability to prioritise has always been a hallmark of intelligence. There are things every one of us has on the ‘to do’ list.
If there is a fire in the kitchen, for example, sorting the clothing to be washed should be stopped and the fire put out.
The fact that the helper is not intelligent is evident in all aspects. I only focus on this one because it is so obvious that a normal intellect would hear a mutual friend was in the hospital and react, not wash the dishes.
The difference is not ‘learned’ and ‘educated’ the difference is between intelligent and stupid.
Whether you have a Ph.D or have never been to school is not the measure. Intelligence is the measure.

I agree, one has to be cautious in posting personal matters, photos,etc. because there are so many scammers, thieves, waiting for a clue. It is better to spend time on writing/blog sites like Literacybase.com where your effort and time are compensated.

Had he tried , he would love it here because a long post about a minimum of 500 words can earn him .22 while a shorterone , minimum of 300 words, can earn him $.15 . If he is industrious and have lots of time on the net, he can hit more than the minimum amount for the monthly payout.

Anyway, some people really would snob a writing site at once, because they don’t know yet that writing can give you fulfillment and friends here at LB. Fulfillment, because you got paid and you earn a lot of friends.

Maybe you should show him your proof of payment. 🙂

Same thing I did. I sent Kris two messages about this site… and he ‘doesn’t have time’ When something bad happens to him on Facebook, he’ll learn

I enjoyed reading the Jamaican sayings; it’s amazing how they “poetically” express what they wanted to say or mean. Thanks for posting this informative blog.

Thank you

Mostly of those that I have heard of about men marrying very much younger than them has the same story.

The young woman would shop no end at the expense of the old man. The old man cannot refuse the wife because he knows it’s all that can make the woman happy.

Sad that men would be in such a situation.

Oftentimes when they die the wife will again remarry, this time a man of her age.

That’s the sad reality of older but rich men, they are just wanted for their wealth. And oftentimes, not only will he provide for the wife but for the whole family of the woman.

I’ve know older men who see younger women. They think it makes them look Cool and they in there silly heads feel younger at heart. So silly that younger woman is only using you for ur wallet. So u spend spend to keep her chasing after u but trust once ur money is gone she will be off to her next idiot. Tried to explain this to a couple men and of course they find listen.

It is a common scenario, and one would think if the young woman was deeply in love with the oldie, but maybe in his deep pocket only!

I simply hate all those so called infants who don’t have the ability to take their decision on their own. Your parents should be your guide who shall refrain you from doing anything wring but depending on them for each and everything is completely unacceptable.

Such people can never ever live a happy married life. This is a hard fact and if parents don’t realize this and try to make there kids independent then they are really ruining the life of their children.

It is a reality of life that each and every child has his own life and will have to manage it on his own as well. This is really important for everyone to understand.

It is the choice of parents whether they want to raise dependent kids or successful kids.

Fortunately, I was able to raise our child well. At her grade one in elementary I initially taught her on her homeworks. Then I would review her for her tests.

However at the middle of the school year, she told me that she can manage already and would just ask me for help whenever she can’t understand her homework. But since then, she never asked me again to assist her on her homeworks. She was one of the top 5 in grade one.

Comes, grade 2 she was the top 2 and she graduated valedictorian in elementary. At high school, she was a scholar at a Philippine Science High School. So with when she was at University of the Philippines. She graduated cumlaude.

Because she’s a cumlaude, she passed for a scholarship at a posh hospital’s school and graduated in Medicine as top 3.

Now, she’s a doctor. 🙂

What is a bit disappointing though, is I feel that I wasn’t much needed by her in terms of her studies. Though, she raves fro my cooking and would request for them whenever she’s at home for vacations.

For me, much better if parents will teach their children at the young age to become independent. In that matter they will grow independent, wise, and can be able to decide for themselves unlike most children who become dependent on their parents in every aspect of their live without having the courage to with their own two feet. Truly, family is the best foundation to teach their children all the necessary values thet should know to become a better person in the near future.

It is a big error for parents to always treat their children as kids even when they had grown up. They should allow them to be independent, to learn and lead a life of their own.

Parents can only give some advice if their children seek it; they can just guide their children to the right path of maturity.

True I have observed many such cases here too. One of the reasons for that is the parents indulging in ‘Helicopter Parenting’. They do not allow children to take decisions and own them up whatever the consequences. They say why are you doing these works we are there for you. Why do you have to go to the shop we will buy what you want for you. Why do you worry about money just ask what you like we will buy it for you. So on and so forth.

This same trend continues unfortunately even after marriage and it will lead to a mess as the children are still having the same mentality of the child and have not grownup. They have not been enabled by their parents. The parents on the other hand feel they have given the best to their children and have taken 100 percent care of this. While they have basically made them incapable, dependent and dysfunctional. A good topic well highlighted.

During the teenage years, children’s need for responsibility and autonomy gets stronger – it’s an important part of their path to young adulthood. To become capable adults, teenagers need to learn to make good decisions on their own.

The process of helping children take responsibility and make decisions is a key task for parents. You have an important role to play in training and supporting your child to be ready for more responsibility. This means you need to plan when and in what areas to let your child start making decisions.

How quickly you hand over responsibility to your teenager is up to you. It depends on many factors, including your own comfort level, your family and cultural traditions, and your child’s maturity.

Independence starts developing when you choose to stop actively controlling your child’s life. Instead, you give your child more autonomy and responsibility for her actions in some areas. You might not like all her choices or the results, but learning to be independent and responsible helps your child develop skills for life.

When you’re trying to decide whether to give your child more responsibility for a decision, you have three options – yes, no and maybe.

You are right; people should not just believe hearsays as if it is the truth, and then they will be affected or stressed by it. It is better if they hear or experience it on their own.

yes, right

You have no chance of winning over an angry person. Yes, just let him say his peace and just be calm.

That’s actually how we are when we are angry, we are ready to attack with our mouth and sometimes with our fists. But once we have unleash it we realize what we have done, but too late to repair the damage that was done.

Though, in what you call the rabid Anti-Putin, it is best to just keep your silence on the subject.

I learn that politics and religion are two of the most sensitive topics actually.

You are very lucky. There are many situations where the parents are estranged with the children, and just can’t get back together.

I agree. Especially, if you separated from your husband because he beats the wife, physically and verbally.

There are a lot of cases here in the Philippines, where the woman separated from her husband because of that. Then, the husband would ask for another chance and the woman would go back, because of their children who wants them back together.

Sad to say, that the man beats her again physically and verbally.

Now, she has to file a complaint and have her husband imprisoned. That should be what is to be done for a husband who beats his wife.

Trump has always been true to his character even before he became US president. His flaws was always there to see for anyone who bothered to pay attention. For Trump it was “ME,ME,ME First!” During the presidential campaign he use “bait and switch” tactics promising the electorate things he had no intention to fulfill. Unfortunately for him the general public is getting tired of his childish antics and Trump’s credibility continues to erode. He’s like the boy who cried “wolf”.

I think, Trump has really been like that indeed since he was a child. And being rich, he doesn’t accept that he commits mistakes, but others committed it.

It’s sad that America has chosen a president who only knows how to make some escapes for the failures he is now making in his governance of the country.

But I hope, the people will unite and he will have a change of heart and hear what the majority wants to improve the country and work together for the good of the country.

This book does sound like a great read. It also sounds like a simple read. Sometimes I avoid sci-fi books because they seem complicated. Also science fiction is not my favorite book genre. I like historical romance. 🙂