Is there any secret of succesful relationship?

We can think and to be excited by anything. Every human mind chooses the criteria which are convenient to him and uses it. Romantic movies and fantastic stories convince us that we need a mythical second half, who will complement us and we desperately need to find him and keep next to us till last breath.

Unfortunately, the reality is another, and those who already had a long-term relationship, are well aware that in the long run the so-called “second halves” no longer turns into nice half and after 10-15 years of marriage you do not know what to do with it: it is sad to divorce but to live happily together seems not possible also. Of course, I say it a bit ironically, but it’s reality.

If we realize that first of all we need to know ourselves, consciously look at life, then we will see that in general we can live alone. Then we can already live with someone, if we see how he’s a great man, despite the fact that our opinions may differ or his hobbies we do not like. So what? We all are free in own choices and the spouse cannot tell what we can do or not do.

We all know the phrase that change starts from ourselves. But do we do so? We want change, but often desire to change the other person. Unfortunately, life depends on our desires very little, and it places events’ puzzle in its way, how it is nicer to life and not ask our opinion.

In my view, the secret of a successful relationship – two conscious people. What is the conscious person? He is who sees the world as it is, and not what he wants to see; the one who knows that the world has its own order, and everything what is happening, just has to take place; one who know how to enjoy this day, no matter what is going on in his life; one that is not only grateful for what he has, but also for the opportunity to live, because he knows that life is a miracle that he does not understand. Such a person is able to see the beauty in everything what surrounds, to find positives in all circumstances, has a sense of humor.

When the two similar people meet, it is already does not matter whether they are looking at each other, or they look in one direction, they just flowing with life, every morning they are pleased that today they will spend together, hopefully – also tomorrow, and maybe even a few years. They live in the moment and feel it fully. Here is happiness – to be here and now, to feel themselves, accept themselves, to see the other, to accept the other, to feel closeness with it, while realizing that no one belong to you.

It seems so simple and certainly when we evaluate others, but most difficult is to see and understand ourselves. But exactly from ourselves we must start changes in our life, not from one who we love.

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